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Temple
Beth El
Sisterhood
6th Holiday
Bazaar
Sunday, Dec. 3
10 a.m.-5 p.m.
Art
Decorative Furniture
Glass
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Books
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Temple Beth El
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Handwoven Items
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Light Lunch Available
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World Book Encyclopedia
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said. "Unlike an interracial
marriage, where you expect
problems from the start, this
catches you unaware. It's sub-
tle. You don't expect these dif-
ferences to be there — espe-
cially since neither of us was
raised religious — and there
they are."
Jaroslow said the only
times she and her husband
deal with the religious dif-
ferences overtly is at Christ-
mas. They celebrate all the
major Jewish holidays but
still have not decided what to
tell four-year-old Leah about
Santa Claus and Jesus. "And
I didn't like all the talk about
Jesus at Christmas mass last
year," Jaroslow said.
Differences in communica-
tion styles also have surfaced.
Her husband's family is from
New England, Jaraslow said.
They are quiet, introspective
and have little contact with
their_extended family.
"I have 50 cousins and I
keep in touch with them all.
We yell and shout and hug
and kiss," she said.
It took time and effort for
the couple to work out their
differences. "We've managed
to come to terms with the dif-
ferences and our marriage is
very solid right now,"
Jaroslow said.
"Intermarriage, Divorce
and Remarriage among
American Jews, 1982-1987,
is the first study of its kind
to examine such a large sam-
ple — nearly 6,500 people in
nine cities. Previous studies
on intermarriage have used
samples of about 200. The
size of the sample allows for
greater precision and better
statistical analysis. The
sophistication of the statis-
tical analysis is also made
possible by advances in com-
puter technology not
available before 1985.
"We used the biggest com-
puter in New York State,"
said Kosmin. The researchers
studied data collected by
local communities for their
own Jewish population stud-
ies and then compiled by the
Data Bank.
In addition to confiding
what many in the Jewish
community suspected, the
study also produced some
surprising findings:
"
• Jews remarrying after a
' divorce are three times more
likely to intermarry than
Jews marrying for the first
time (40 percent compared
with 14 percent). So while
first marriage intermarriage
rates are rising, the overall in-
termarriage rate is also being
fueled by the rising divorce
rate.
• Jewish women who inter-
marry are far more likely to
divorce (38 percent) than
Jewish men who intermarry
(25 percent).
• While more Jewish men
than Jewish women inter-
marry, Jewish women are
rapidly catching up. Their in-
termarriage rate has in-
creased 12-fold (from 2 per-
cent to 24 percent in 20 years)
while Jewish men's has in-
creased five fold (from 7 per-
cent to 37 percent). However,
the absolute difference in the
intermarriage rates of men
and women is increasing. This
means still fewer Jewish men
are and will be available for
Jewish women to marry.
". . .There will be a growing
demographic pressure upon
Jewish women to intermarry,"
the researchers concluded.
• Contrary to popular opin-
ion, Jewish education does
not "immunize" against inter-
marriage. While the data did
not differentiate between
Sunday school, day school or
any other type of Jewish
education, the findings show
that having a Jewish educa-
tion in general has a negli-
gible effect on one's chances
of intermarrying.
• The single most impor-
tant factor that prevents in-
termarriage is the presence of
Jewish friends. Next come
higher income and higher
education.
• Upon remarriage, there is
considerable "switching"
from inmarriage to intermar-
"The assumption is
that we're all the
same. But we're
not the same...In
times of stress,
people fall back on
ethnic patterns:'
riage and vice versa. More
people who are intermarried
in their first marriage choose
Jewish partners the second
time around (42 percent) than
the reverse (32 percent).
• The most significant pre-
dictor of divorce is inter-
marriage.
The findings are bound to
sound a bell of alarm among
Jewish community decision
makers. Fully half of all
Jewish men under 40, and 38
percent of Jewish women
under 40, are currently inter-
married, divorced or both, the
study showed. The authors
predict these numbers will in-
crease in the coming years.
The researchers said they
looked at numbers and
trends, not motivations.
Kosmin speculated that the
higher divorce rate among in-
termarried Jewish women
may -reflect the fact that — as
other studies have shown —
women tend to be more loyal
to the group, more religious
and more involved with their
parents. He also theorized
that the pressure on women