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Licensed nurses are on duty 24 hours a day. • Exciting and varied activities, planned and supervised, to Residents in this program can keep residents involved and enjoy a relaxed, elegant happy atmosphere that includes: Honor us with o visit. Weekdays 9 a.m-8 p.m. Saturday & Sunday, noon-5 p.m. An Affiliate of William Beaumont Hospital • Pastoral and weekly Sabbath services provided by Rabbi Moshe Polter 2 e& Okomliea AlarNing 6445 West Maple • West Bloomfield, Ml and 112 00120CdeSeent FRIDAY, DECEMBER 1, 1989 Ceatet- Phone, 661-1600 Intermarry Continued from preceding page said. "Unlike an interracial marriage, where you expect problems from the start, this catches you unaware. It's sub- tle. You don't expect these dif- ferences to be there — espe- cially since neither of us was raised religious — and there they are." Jaroslow said the only times she and her husband deal with the religious dif- ferences overtly is at Christ- mas. They celebrate all the major Jewish holidays but still have not decided what to tell four-year-old Leah about Santa Claus and Jesus. "And I didn't like all the talk about Jesus at Christmas mass last year," Jaroslow said. Differences in communica- tion styles also have surfaced. Her husband's family is from New England, Jaraslow said. They are quiet, introspective and have little contact with their_extended family. "I have 50 cousins and I keep in touch with them all. We yell and shout and hug and kiss," she said. It took time and effort for the couple to work out their differences. "We've managed to come to terms with the dif- ferences and our marriage is very solid right now," Jaroslow said. "Intermarriage, Divorce and Remarriage among American Jews, 1982-1987, is the first study of its kind to examine such a large sam- ple — nearly 6,500 people in nine cities. Previous studies on intermarriage have used samples of about 200. The size of the sample allows for greater precision and better statistical analysis. The sophistication of the statis- tical analysis is also made possible by advances in com- puter technology not available before 1985. "We used the biggest com- puter in New York State," said Kosmin. The researchers studied data collected by local communities for their own Jewish population stud- ies and then compiled by the Data Bank. In addition to confiding what many in the Jewish community suspected, the study also produced some surprising findings: " • Jews remarrying after a ' divorce are three times more likely to intermarry than Jews marrying for the first time (40 percent compared with 14 percent). So while first marriage intermarriage rates are rising, the overall in- termarriage rate is also being fueled by the rising divorce rate. • Jewish women who inter- marry are far more likely to divorce (38 percent) than Jewish men who intermarry (25 percent). • While more Jewish men than Jewish women inter- marry, Jewish women are rapidly catching up. Their in- termarriage rate has in- creased 12-fold (from 2 per- cent to 24 percent in 20 years) while Jewish men's has in- creased five fold (from 7 per- cent to 37 percent). However, the absolute difference in the intermarriage rates of men and women is increasing. This means still fewer Jewish men are and will be available for Jewish women to marry. ". . .There will be a growing demographic pressure upon Jewish women to intermarry," the researchers concluded. • Contrary to popular opin- ion, Jewish education does not "immunize" against inter- marriage. While the data did not differentiate between Sunday school, day school or any other type of Jewish education, the findings show that having a Jewish educa- tion in general has a negli- gible effect on one's chances of intermarrying. • The single most impor- tant factor that prevents in- termarriage is the presence of Jewish friends. Next come higher income and higher education. • Upon remarriage, there is considerable "switching" from inmarriage to intermar- "The assumption is that we're all the same. But we're not the same...In times of stress, people fall back on ethnic patterns:' riage and vice versa. More people who are intermarried in their first marriage choose Jewish partners the second time around (42 percent) than the reverse (32 percent). • The most significant pre- dictor of divorce is inter- marriage. The findings are bound to sound a bell of alarm among Jewish community decision makers. Fully half of all Jewish men under 40, and 38 percent of Jewish women under 40, are currently inter- married, divorced or both, the study showed. The authors predict these numbers will in- crease in the coming years. The researchers said they looked at numbers and trends, not motivations. Kosmin speculated that the higher divorce rate among in- termarried Jewish women may -reflect the fact that — as other studies have shown — women tend to be more loyal to the group, more religious and more involved with their parents. He also theorized that the pressure on women