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369 E. Maple
Birmingham, MI 48009
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second wedding themselves, they are
more comfortable in letting their own
Caterers say that second
weddings are smaller, more intimate
and more "romantic" than formal first-
timers. For instance, a family-oriented
first wedding will have about 200
guests in attendance rather than 50
to 75 people, which is the more usual
number invited to a second wedding.
First-time weddings generally begin
early on a Saturday evening and last
well into the wee hours. There is the
classic buffet, the sit-down dinner,
and open bar, the full-piece band for
dancing and finally, the cake-cutting
The older bride and groom opt
for late afternoon cocktail parties and
put far less emphasis on the quantity
of food, offering instead hors
d'oeuvres that are passed, possibly
followed by a dinner and dessert
Rather than a spirit-laden bar,
they will serve fashionble champagne
cocktails like Mimosas (champagne,
orange juice and a dash of orange
liqueur), white wine or plain bubbly.
If live music is part of the party,
it is more likely to be a small combo
or piano player, rather than a band
playing sentimental favorites.
One common problem in second
marriages arises when it's the first
marriage for either the new bride or
groom and he or she feels "cheated"
by not having the gown, the cast of
thousands and the garter-throwing
ceremony. One young woman had a
big first wedding at 20, divorced a
year later and went through the whole
shindig again at 23 when her new
fiance's family insisted that their son
not be given short shrift.
About her "never a bridesmaid,
always a bride" predicament, she
sighs, "I felt foolish at my first
wedding, and walked through the
second one just to please Gary's
parents. I wish now that I had stood
my ground. Surely a compromise
could have been reached."
This is not to say that a second
wedding shouldn't have orchid