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Friday, November 28, 1986 THE DETROIT JEWISH NEWS
As far as finding love
through the personals, he
admits to being in "extreme
like" with someone he had
met elsewhere, but still pur-
sues the responses "strictly
out of curiousity."
Something Special - I am
and you should be too. I am
30, pretty, successful, intelli-
gent, fun, considerate and
romantic. I seek a man in his
30's who is all of the above
and more, to rediscover enjoy-
able times together.
Ann F. of West Bloomfield,
a strategic planner for a
major corporation, was in
need of an alternative way of
meeting men. "I haven't been
going to bars and haven't
been meeting people through
normal channels or at work."
Her ad in the People Con-
nector prompted six re-
sponses: Someone she had al-
ready met through LoLa (a
matchmaking service for
Jewish singles), two doctors,
a computer technician, an
advertising creative and one
"borderline professional."
"I feel that I'm a cut above
the norm and I just don't
want to settle for just anyone.
I'm still looking for more.
"Sometimes the men seem
to think that you're desperate
if you place an ad. But that
shouldn't be the case. If you
look at New York Magazine,
the ads are fabulous. But
here in Detroit, I think
there's still a bit of a stigma
about it."
She also feels the screening
is important. "You can tell a
lot about a person over the
phone. If you can't hit it off
there, you probably won't hit
it off in person. I find it very
difficult to say no, but will
instead delay making a date
by saying that I'll call back
and then don't."
The aspect of this type of
dating which upsets her is
that "I find men sometimes
mislead you in their letters.
They say they are good-
looking and when I. meet
them, I can't believe it. Same
with saying they're profes-
sionals when they are not."
Attractive, personable, affec-
tionate, honest, 30 yrs. man-
agement consultant seeks
female partner with similar
qualities to share movies,
music, dancing, travel, sports,
laughs, love and ultimately
life.
David M. of Southfield de-
cided to place this ad in the
People Connectors because
"there's not very many places
to meet quality people. Quan-
tity is not what I'm looking
for.
"You get a different type of
person in The Jewish News
or the Jewish Singles Event
Source than you would in
other publications."
So far he has received ten
responses. He screens the let-
ters before he calls. "I ended
up calling each one. However,
I find it kind of difficult to
back out at that point. I
mean, how do you say 'you
don't sound like someone I
want to go out with.' There's
a part of you that says 'this
person isn't right for you' but
you never know until you
meet them.
"I've been to dating serv-
ices. While they may be more
expensive, I find the caliber
of women that I have met
through the personals is bet-
ter. I'm looking for someone
with similar values and
interests and someone that I
find attractive and that's
hard to find.
"There's a stigma that
people who do this are losers,
and, let's face it, the winners
for the most part are mar-
ried."
Is marriage his goal? "If
not marriage, a successful re-
lationship. Ninety-nine per-
cent of the people would
agree with that."
SWF, reddish brown hair,
green eyes, peaches and cream
complexion, enjoys outdoors
and quiet evenings at home.
Susan B. a school teacher
in Birmingham placed this ad
in The Detroit News. Her ad
is unique in that it lists no
restrictions nor concern for
religious preference. She re-
ceived nearly 70 responses,
only one of which was from a
Jewish male.
"I was looking for someone
and would eventually like to
get married. I thought this
was a way to meet a variety
of men. You certainly get a
lot of dates.
"If the letters sounded in-
teresting and the people were
close by, I called them and
would talk to them at length.
I told them about me and was
very frank about the fact that
I am overweight. If they were
still interested, we would
meet at a neutral place.
"Almost all of them that I
talked to and told them how I
looked, I would say at least
90 percent still chose to meet
me. A number of these men
have remained close friends."
She received one response
from a guy in Jackson Prison.
"He said he was getting re-
leased soon and wanted to
turn over a new leaf. I almost
felt bad that I didn't answer
him except I couldn't deal
with the fact that he never
mentioned why he was in
there in the first place."
For the most part, however,
the men were relatively nor-
mal, from a variety of back-
grounds, who, like Susan,
were looking for a different
way to meet perspective
mates.
There are those who feel
dating through the classifieds
is certainly not the way to
meet Mr. or Ms. Right.
"It's a risky business"
Carol G. of Oak Park states
matter-of-factly. "Because
you know most people lie
about themselves in those
ads. You can compare it to
opening a Cracker Jack box
and looking forward to the
prize but getting a real sur-
prise instead!"
Robert B. of Southfield has
placed an ad in the past "be-
cause I hadn't done it before
and thought it was an oppor-
tunity that I should explore."
Through his experience, he
found that "The ads can be
accurate, honest and still to-
tally misleading. It's very
much a crap shoot when you
deal with this method of dat-
ing."
Judging by the activity
these ads are generating, the
majority of singles feel its
worth the gamble.
❑
Singles Supercruise
Coming in February
The third annual nation-
wide Jewish singles Super-
cruise, sponsored by the St.
Louis Jewish Community
Centers Association, is set for
February and March 1987,
aboard the m/s Tropicale of
Carnival Cruise Lines.
Jewish singles, ages 20 to
40 will sail on Feb. 22, 1987;
singles 40 to 60 will sail on
March 1. Both sailings are
seven-day Mexican Riviera
cruises from Los Angeles.
The St. Louis JCCA is of-
fering a special all-inclusive
package for Jewish singles
that includes round-trip air-
fare from almost anywhere in
the United States to Los
Angeles, cruise accommoda-
tions, all meals, snacks,
entertainment, activities
especially for the group, port
taxes, and services of JCCA
escorts. Prices range from
$1,000 per person for quad
occupancy to $1,300 per per-
son for double occupancy.
The m/s Tropical sails from
Los Angeles to the Mexican
ports of Mazatlan, Puerto
Vallarta and Cabo San
Lucas. About one day is spent
in each port with three full
days at sea.
The Tropicale features
nightclubs with live
entertainment, five bars and
lounges, a disco, casino, two
outdoor pools, gymnasium,
men and women's health
clubs and saunas, library,
game room, card room, shop-
ping arcade and plenty of
deck space for sunning, golf-
driving, trapshooting, table
tennis and shuffleboard.
Reservations are being ac-
cepted on a first-come, first-
served basis by the St. Louis
JCCA. The deadline is Dec.
15. For information, call
Jamie Field, St. Louis JCCA
Singles Coordinator, (314)
432-5700, ext. 154.