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Evening RAGE Alexander Zonjic Trio 88 SINGLE Friday, November 28, 1986 THE DETROIT JEWISH NEWS As far as finding love through the personals, he admits to being in "extreme like" with someone he had met elsewhere, but still pur- sues the responses "strictly out of curiousity." Something Special - I am and you should be too. I am 30, pretty, successful, intelli- gent, fun, considerate and romantic. I seek a man in his 30's who is all of the above and more, to rediscover enjoy- able times together. Ann F. of West Bloomfield, a strategic planner for a major corporation, was in need of an alternative way of meeting men. "I haven't been going to bars and haven't been meeting people through normal channels or at work." Her ad in the People Con- nector prompted six re- sponses: Someone she had al- ready met through LoLa (a matchmaking service for Jewish singles), two doctors, a computer technician, an advertising creative and one "borderline professional." "I feel that I'm a cut above the norm and I just don't want to settle for just anyone. I'm still looking for more. "Sometimes the men seem to think that you're desperate if you place an ad. But that shouldn't be the case. If you look at New York Magazine, the ads are fabulous. But here in Detroit, I think there's still a bit of a stigma about it." She also feels the screening is important. "You can tell a lot about a person over the phone. If you can't hit it off there, you probably won't hit it off in person. I find it very difficult to say no, but will instead delay making a date by saying that I'll call back and then don't." The aspect of this type of dating which upsets her is that "I find men sometimes mislead you in their letters. They say they are good- looking and when I. meet them, I can't believe it. Same with saying they're profes- sionals when they are not." Attractive, personable, affec- tionate, honest, 30 yrs. man- agement consultant seeks female partner with similar qualities to share movies, music, dancing, travel, sports, laughs, love and ultimately life. David M. of Southfield de- cided to place this ad in the People Connectors because "there's not very many places to meet quality people. Quan- tity is not what I'm looking for. "You get a different type of person in The Jewish News or the Jewish Singles Event Source than you would in other publications." So far he has received ten responses. He screens the let- ters before he calls. "I ended up calling each one. However, I find it kind of difficult to back out at that point. I mean, how do you say 'you don't sound like someone I want to go out with.' There's a part of you that says 'this person isn't right for you' but you never know until you meet them. "I've been to dating serv- ices. While they may be more expensive, I find the caliber of women that I have met through the personals is bet- ter. I'm looking for someone with similar values and interests and someone that I find attractive and that's hard to find. "There's a stigma that people who do this are losers, and, let's face it, the winners for the most part are mar- ried." Is marriage his goal? "If not marriage, a successful re- lationship. Ninety-nine per- cent of the people would agree with that." SWF, reddish brown hair, green eyes, peaches and cream complexion, enjoys outdoors and quiet evenings at home. Susan B. a school teacher in Birmingham placed this ad in The Detroit News. Her ad is unique in that it lists no restrictions nor concern for religious preference. She re- ceived nearly 70 responses, only one of which was from a Jewish male. "I was looking for someone and would eventually like to get married. I thought this was a way to meet a variety of men. You certainly get a lot of dates. "If the letters sounded in- teresting and the people were close by, I called them and would talk to them at length. I told them about me and was very frank about the fact that I am overweight. If they were still interested, we would meet at a neutral place. "Almost all of them that I talked to and told them how I looked, I would say at least 90 percent still chose to meet me. A number of these men have remained close friends." She received one response from a guy in Jackson Prison. "He said he was getting re- leased soon and wanted to turn over a new leaf. I almost felt bad that I didn't answer him except I couldn't deal with the fact that he never mentioned why he was in there in the first place." For the most part, however, the men were relatively nor- mal, from a variety of back- grounds, who, like Susan, were looking for a different way to meet perspective mates. There are those who feel dating through the classifieds is certainly not the way to meet Mr. or Ms. Right. "It's a risky business" Carol G. of Oak Park states matter-of-factly. "Because you know most people lie about themselves in those ads. You can compare it to opening a Cracker Jack box and looking forward to the prize but getting a real sur- prise instead!" Robert B. of Southfield has placed an ad in the past "be- cause I hadn't done it before and thought it was an oppor- tunity that I should explore." Through his experience, he found that "The ads can be accurate, honest and still to- tally misleading. It's very much a crap shoot when you deal with this method of dat- ing." Judging by the activity these ads are generating, the majority of singles feel its worth the gamble. ❑ Singles Supercruise Coming in February The third annual nation- wide Jewish singles Super- cruise, sponsored by the St. Louis Jewish Community Centers Association, is set for February and March 1987, aboard the m/s Tropicale of Carnival Cruise Lines. Jewish singles, ages 20 to 40 will sail on Feb. 22, 1987; singles 40 to 60 will sail on March 1. Both sailings are seven-day Mexican Riviera cruises from Los Angeles. The St. Louis JCCA is of- fering a special all-inclusive package for Jewish singles that includes round-trip air- fare from almost anywhere in the United States to Los Angeles, cruise accommoda- tions, all meals, snacks, entertainment, activities especially for the group, port taxes, and services of JCCA escorts. Prices range from $1,000 per person for quad occupancy to $1,300 per per- son for double occupancy. The m/s Tropical sails from Los Angeles to the Mexican ports of Mazatlan, Puerto Vallarta and Cabo San Lucas. About one day is spent in each port with three full days at sea. The Tropicale features nightclubs with live entertainment, five bars and lounges, a disco, casino, two outdoor pools, gymnasium, men and women's health clubs and saunas, library, game room, card room, shop- ping arcade and plenty of deck space for sunning, golf- driving, trapshooting, table tennis and shuffleboard. Reservations are being ac- cepted on a first-come, first- served basis by the St. Louis JCCA. The deadline is Dec. 15. For information, call Jamie Field, St. Louis JCCA Singles Coordinator, (314) 432-5700, ext. 154.