Ask Wendy
The Cost Of A Wedding
Involves More Than Money
Dear Wendy:
I recently got engaged.
Both my parents are dead
and my in-laws have
offered to pay for the wed-
ding. I can afford to pay
for it myself, but the wed-
ding would have to be
much smaller than my
fiancE and I would like.
Should I let my in-laws
pay?
—
WENDY
BELZBERG
Sp ecial to
the Jewish News
Who Should Pay?
Does their signature on
the bottom of the checks entitle your
in-laws to select the venue, flowers,
menu and guest list? If so, you should
weigh the benefits of an enhanced
budget against a potential power
'PO.,,eirapif:girfla '0,7096
struggle between you and
your new family.
No matter what assurances
are made up front, money
— whether it's a matter of
too much or too little — is
a lightning rod.
And chuppahs (wedding
canopies) seem to attract
more than their fair share of
electrical storms.
Dear Wendy:
My daughter has many children.
The two older boys, ages 15 and 13,
have serious fights with each other
and she does not know how to stop
f.4.047;.4
-
4
INTEGRATED
Rap's/era]
State of FL, Lice
Barbara M
State of FL, I
32401 No
Farmington
• f -
es.teri Hwy.
2V1Pc48334
248-5 -8050
(24853818060
fax:
www.integrateanutriWn.com
RI)S@ integratecinu4ition.com
l'Rhonna
Feldman-Nelson, msw, ACSW,
Psychotherapist
Specializing in: Couples, Eating Disorders, EMDR,
Adult Incest Survivors & Chemical Dependency
(248) 538-0925
tairessino:
RD, LD/N
ND-0003411
askwendyCzthejewishnews.com
" .;;9•4.?.
+ Certified Personal Trainer
+ Group Discounts
❖ In-Home Training
'o : ND-0003527
Write to "A.sk Wendy" at 954
Lexington Ave. #189, New York,
NY 10021, or e-mail
"•015Vr . tgM444
;
Appelinan
rtARD, LD/N
Bubbie: It's nice that you're con-
cerned, but perhaps you play a larg-
er part in this situation than you let
on. What was the dynamic between
you and your husband when your
daughter was living at home? What
kind of a role model were you?
Instead of writing to me, maybe
you should be at your daughter's
house trying to model and instill
self-confidence. Better late than
never. ❑
— Concerned Bubbie
I don't care how tall they are or
how strong, the boys are children
and your daughter is the adult. The
cowardly way out is for her to sit
down with the boys and her hus-
band and lay out the consequence
for fighting.
But if your daughter doesn't want
to have the same problems with the
other children coming up the line, it's
time she stood tall, fearless and alone
on this issue. Simply put, it should be
clear that, at the very least, mom's the
boss when dad's not home.
GET IN SHAPE
\L I RI I ION
Patricia A.
them. She fears they will injure one
another. They never fight when
their father is home; he would not
allow it.
31000 Telegraph Rd, Suite 150
Bingham Farms, MI 48025
. 248-7234114
SCOTT MACZUGA
•••• Di.2estive Disonlers
Personal Training in your Home or Gym
**** I )iaketes
❖ Cieneral Nutrition.
a 11 cl Wellness
A.
Individual. Semi. Private. Family.
SIMONA
• Executive Boxing • Cardio Kick Boxing
• Self Defense • Weight Training • Diet
CHILDREN ADOLESCENTS ADULTS SENIOR ADULTS
■
SEIDERMAN, ACSW, DCSW
Anxiety - Depression - Grief Relationships - Stress
A bridge to a healthier you
248.866.1766
ALL AGES WELCOME
❖ I Ical d1V lea rtS
SASeiderman@aol.com
(248) 400 3324
+ ()ncolo •••• •
+ WeiAt Control
217 Knowles, Suite 200
Royal Oak, MI 48067
}
248-542-9076
-
Si
NourishingcSEnhancng One s
T.Itai Ring
INTEGRATED NUTRITION. LLC"'
DeVinney Czarnecki Physical Therapy, P.C.
Specializing in Manual Therapy and Exercise
Loren DeVinney, PT., 0.M.P.T.
John Czarnecki, PT., 0.M.P.T.
5839 W. Maple Rd., Suite 100, West Bloomfield 48322
(248) 851-6999
Maria I. Curtis,
gt,
RN., CDT.
Skin Care Consultant
af,54-4,111,P
LOSE WEIGHT — GET FIT!
Free session with mention of this ad.
BARI BECKETT
Certified PersonalTrainer
Featured on TV and in National Magazines
Intentional Health Inc. (248) 68 I -1397
vivemintentionalheatth.com
'
IONA Vi.ce
Daniel D. Sherbert, M.D., F.A.C.S
WEST MAPLE PLASTIC SURGERY
• Breast • Face • Tummy Tucks • Liposuction
• Lip Augmentation • Laser Surgery for Facial Wrinkles
• Reconstruction Breast Surgery
5807 W. Maple Rd., Suite 177, West Bloomfield
Phone: (248) 865-6400
Fax: (248) 865-6404
CERTIFIED IN PERMANENT MAKE UP APPLICATION
-
Specializing In:
• Microdermabrasion
• Stretch Marks
• Dark Spots
• Acne Scars & Other Scars
• Fine Lines & Wrinkles •California Power Peel
A skin rejuvenation treatment for you.
Call for a FREE consultation now!
248.361.7978 E Mail: manaisabe199@aoLcom
-
1/5
2001
89