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Anonymous, and that those
seeking help should go to a
facility which refers people to
those organizations. Many
treatment programs are
covered by health insurance,
thanks to a state law.
Braver says singles are not
treated any differently than
married people at Botsford,
but adds that singles may
have a more difficult time in
rehabilitation than someone
with his or her own family.
"The support system is often
less well-defined for a single
person. So that creates both a
positive and a negative. In
some ways it's easier because
there's not a support system
that is enabling the person to
continue substance abuse. On
the other hand, there's not a
support system that can help
that person recover from
chemical dependency. The
support system, again, can
both be a barrier and an im-
petus to change. Part of the
treatment is helping the sup-
port system to help the in-
dividual and to not continue
to, what we call, 'enable' the
individual to abuse the
chemicals!'
Wolf again stresses the idea
that a good treatment center
should refer its patients to
other groups which offer
special services. "If someone
is single and they need some
more support, then we'll refer
them maybe to some things
that we wouldn't with mar-
ried people. Maybe Parents
Without Partners, or
something where they'd get
some support!'
There are also a whole
range of women's substance
abuse issues. Single mothers
may not be able to afford
treatment, or may not be able
to leave their children, should
that mother need institu-
tional care.
Single women who are
alcoholic or drug-addicted
also face a greater social
stigma than men, according
to Wolf. She says that men
are, "more likely to be pro-
tected by other people and
less likely to be confronted
about their use. A woman
who's drunk in a bar is
generally seen as a whore; a
man is seen as one of the good
guys!'
Isbell says that women ad-
dicts or alcoholics have "a
history of physical or sexual
abuse by a man!' He recom-
mends that women seeking
treatment consider a women's
treatment center, or a
women's group within a
facility.
Most people who need treat-
ment do not enter into any
kind of therapy until they
face a crisis — a drunk driv-
ing ticket, an auto accident,
perhaps a broken family or
relationship. But Wolf con-
cludes that people who have
a chemical dependency pro-
blem know that they need
help, but often will not face
the truth. "I would say there's
a part of us that intuitively
knows that there's a problem,
an that we spend a lot of
energy trying to cover up
what we really know, inside
ourselves, and that if people
could let that questioning
about their drug or alcohol
use lead them a little further
— it doesn't mean that they're
either addicted or alcoholic, it
means that they're trying to
figure out whether they have
a problem or not.
"I think that that's an im-
portant point, because you
don't have to think that
you're alcoholic to think that
you might have a problem.
There's a saying that if it
causes problems then it is a
problem. If you get in a fight
because you're drunk some
night, nobody arrests you, it
doesn't seem like anything
bad is happening. But there is
a problem. So it doesn't have
to get to the point of being ex-
treme to deal with it. And the
earlier that you deal with it
— just like any other disease
— the easier it is to help
yourself heal." [1]
Socialites Plan
Harvest Dance
Rose Sherer Socialites will
sponsor a Harvest Dance at 8
p.m. Saturday at the Jewish
War Veterans Memorial
Home, 16990 W. 12 Mile,
Southfield.
Music will be provided by
Vic and the Golden Sounds.
Refreshments will be served.
There is a charge. For infor-
mation, call Mollie Stern,
968-3643.
Hayride Set
For Singles
A hayride and wienie roast
are part of the Community
Network for Jewish Singles'
"Hayfever" event slated for 8
p.m. Nov. 14. There is a fee,
and reservations are due by
Nov. 7. Space is limited. For
details, call Jill Cole,
661-1000, ext. 347.
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