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In some ways it's easier because there's not a support system that is enabling the person to continue substance abuse. On the other hand, there's not a support system that can help that person recover from chemical dependency. The support system, again, can both be a barrier and an im- petus to change. Part of the treatment is helping the sup- port system to help the in- dividual and to not continue to, what we call, 'enable' the individual to abuse the chemicals!' Wolf again stresses the idea that a good treatment center should refer its patients to other groups which offer special services. "If someone is single and they need some more support, then we'll refer them maybe to some things that we wouldn't with mar- ried people. Maybe Parents Without Partners, or something where they'd get some support!' There are also a whole range of women's substance abuse issues. Single mothers may not be able to afford treatment, or may not be able to leave their children, should that mother need institu- tional care. Single women who are alcoholic or drug-addicted also face a greater social stigma than men, according to Wolf. She says that men are, "more likely to be pro- tected by other people and less likely to be confronted about their use. A woman who's drunk in a bar is generally seen as a whore; a man is seen as one of the good guys!' Isbell says that women ad- dicts or alcoholics have "a history of physical or sexual abuse by a man!' He recom- mends that women seeking treatment consider a women's treatment center, or a women's group within a facility. Most people who need treat- ment do not enter into any kind of therapy until they face a crisis — a drunk driv- ing ticket, an auto accident, perhaps a broken family or relationship. But Wolf con- cludes that people who have a chemical dependency pro- blem know that they need help, but often will not face the truth. "I would say there's a part of us that intuitively knows that there's a problem, an that we spend a lot of energy trying to cover up what we really know, inside ourselves, and that if people could let that questioning about their drug or alcohol use lead them a little further — it doesn't mean that they're either addicted or alcoholic, it means that they're trying to figure out whether they have a problem or not. "I think that that's an im- portant point, because you don't have to think that you're alcoholic to think that you might have a problem. There's a saying that if it causes problems then it is a problem. If you get in a fight because you're drunk some night, nobody arrests you, it doesn't seem like anything bad is happening. But there is a problem. So it doesn't have to get to the point of being ex- treme to deal with it. And the earlier that you deal with it — just like any other disease — the easier it is to help yourself heal." [1] Socialites Plan Harvest Dance Rose Sherer Socialites will sponsor a Harvest Dance at 8 p.m. Saturday at the Jewish War Veterans Memorial Home, 16990 W. 12 Mile, Southfield. Music will be provided by Vic and the Golden Sounds. Refreshments will be served. There is a charge. For infor- mation, call Mollie Stern, 968-3643. Hayride Set For Singles A hayride and wienie roast are part of the Community Network for Jewish Singles' "Hayfever" event slated for 8 p.m. Nov. 14. There is a fee, and reservations are due by Nov. 7. Space is limited. For details, call Jill Cole, 661-1000, ext. 347. Please Type It Press releases to The Jewish News must be typewritten, double spaced, and received by noon Friday for the following week's paper.