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from her when they learned
she did "nothing." She didn't
like the affect it was having on
her. "Can you imagine?" she
said to Av, "I'm apologizing for
being a mother."
"I think that happens to a lot
of us. We are given the feeling
that mothering is below intel-
lectual consideration. And it's
not. Everything we do teaches
our children something about
life and relationships ...
Society pushes us into feeling
we should be doing something
else, almost being ashamed to
say, 'I want to stay home and
mother my children.' "
She did stay home for two
years, and then began to teach
at Workmen's Circle nursery
school. She felt lucky to be
there. She found it different
from most other American
pre-schools, with its emphasis
on nurturing, and an atmos-
phere where children could
thrive emotionally and so-
cially, as well as intellectually.
Rina is now director of this
pleasant place in Oak Park. A
visitor to the large, bright
room is likely to see groups of
children pretending to be prin-
cesses and kings, building
monumental structures, sort-
ing blocks, learning about
magnets, climbing and paint-
ing, singing softly to them-
selves.. Three teachers move
gently among the children,
joining in, keeping track,
soothing, giving hugs, listen-
ing.
"What is so neat about all
the teachers in the school,"
says Raya Goldenberg of Hun-
tington Woods, a social worker
who is now sending her second
child to Workmen's Circle, "is
that they attempt to look at the
children in a developmental
fashion. They will tell you
what the child is struggling
with through their play. Rina
has the ability to watch a child,
and tell you what the child is
dealing with. She is very fine
at that. Really;very fine."
Rina says, "A child could be
very undemanding, very quiet.
You might think that child is
doing fine, because she's not
noticeable. But she may not be
doing fine. That's why it's im-
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portant to have a caregiver
who really looks at each child."
By looking, she has dis-
covered children with unusual
gifts, as well as subtle dis-
abilities which in other set-
tings have gone unnoticed.
"Children who exhibit what
you call 'behavioral difficul-
ties'don't do that because they
want to. Any kind of child who
uses disruptive behavior is cry-
ing for help, is telling you
something. If you look at the
behavior as a message, and try
to figure it out, then you're
going to 'find out what's the
matter. If you think they're
being naughty, then you're
going to try to straighten them
out and you'll never be able to
know what's wrong."
She is concerned that most
pre-schools do not really
understand developmental
phases, although "develop-
mental nursery" is a term cur-
rently in vogue. "Because
American society expects in-
stant everything, they' think
it's wrong that children at 31/2
are not reading and writing."
She is concerned with the at-
tempt to "stuff the children
with facts," which interferes
with real learning, with the
chane to assimilate knowl-
edge, to have the joy of dis-
covery, . to build self-
confidence.
"You may be able to stuff a
child with information," she
says "but the knowledge then
is very shallow. They'll learn,
sure, but it's not true learn-
ing."
"I'm not sure she realizes her
impact," social worker Raya
Goldenberg says. "Because
she's so good at it, she should
really teach more. Parents are
hungry for it, for• an opportu-
nity to talk about their griefs,
their joys. .A nursery school
setting is ideal. Rina would be
wonderful for it, but I don't
think she recognizes this
enough about herself.
"She doesn't just have an
impact on the children, she has
an impact on lots of people, and
they have an impact on their
children. Somehow it carries
on, it doesn't just stop at one
generatiOn." ❑
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