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Orchard Lake Road, Farmington Hi11s1V1I 48018 MAX FLEISCHER L 553-7111 BETWEEN 12 & 13 Mile Rd. 'Advertising in The Jewish News Gets Results Place Your Ad Today. Call 354-6060 HAPPY HANUKKAH 66616 6666 , Wishing you and your family health, happiness and prosperity this holiday season. Dennis B. Deutsch Alfred L Deutsch President Chairman of the Board United Savings Bank FSB 31731 Northwestern Highway Farmington Hills 855-8913 33505 14 Mile Rd. Farmington Hills 661-1703 ■ 30 535 Griswold Main Floor of Buhl Bldg* Detroit 963-8350 Friday, December 26, 1986 THE DETROIT JEWISH NEWS from her when they learned she did "nothing." She didn't like the affect it was having on her. "Can you imagine?" she said to Av, "I'm apologizing for being a mother." "I think that happens to a lot of us. We are given the feeling that mothering is below intel- lectual consideration. And it's not. Everything we do teaches our children something about life and relationships ... Society pushes us into feeling we should be doing something else, almost being ashamed to say, 'I want to stay home and mother my children.' " She did stay home for two years, and then began to teach at Workmen's Circle nursery school. She felt lucky to be there. She found it different from most other American pre-schools, with its emphasis on nurturing, and an atmos- phere where children could thrive emotionally and so- cially, as well as intellectually. Rina is now director of this pleasant place in Oak Park. A visitor to the large, bright room is likely to see groups of children pretending to be prin- cesses and kings, building monumental structures, sort- ing blocks, learning about magnets, climbing and paint- ing, singing softly to them- selves.. Three teachers move gently among the children, joining in, keeping track, soothing, giving hugs, listen- ing. "What is so neat about all the teachers in the school," says Raya Goldenberg of Hun- tington Woods, a social worker who is now sending her second child to Workmen's Circle, "is that they attempt to look at the children in a developmental fashion. They will tell you what the child is struggling with through their play. Rina has the ability to watch a child, and tell you what the child is dealing with. She is very fine at that. Really;very fine." Rina says, "A child could be very undemanding, very quiet. You might think that child is doing fine, because she's not noticeable. But she may not be doing fine. That's why it's im- 1-3-4 LENDER portant to have a caregiver who really looks at each child." By looking, she has dis- covered children with unusual gifts, as well as subtle dis- abilities which in other set- tings have gone unnoticed. "Children who exhibit what you call 'behavioral difficul- ties'don't do that because they want to. Any kind of child who uses disruptive behavior is cry- ing for help, is telling you something. If you look at the behavior as a message, and try to figure it out, then you're going to 'find out what's the matter. If you think they're being naughty, then you're going to try to straighten them out and you'll never be able to know what's wrong." She is concerned that most pre-schools do not really understand developmental phases, although "develop- mental nursery" is a term cur- rently in vogue. "Because American society expects in- stant everything, they' think it's wrong that children at 31/2 are not reading and writing." She is concerned with the at- tempt to "stuff the children with facts," which interferes with real learning, with the chane to assimilate knowl- edge, to have the joy of dis- covery, . to build self- confidence. "You may be able to stuff a child with information," she says "but the knowledge then is very shallow. They'll learn, sure, but it's not true learn- ing." "I'm not sure she realizes her impact," social worker Raya Goldenberg says. "Because she's so good at it, she should really teach more. Parents are hungry for it, for• an opportu- nity to talk about their griefs, their joys. .A nursery school setting is ideal. Rina would be wonderful for it, but I don't think she recognizes this enough about herself. "She doesn't just have an impact on the children, she has an impact on lots of people, and they have an impact on their children. Somehow it carries on, it doesn't just stop at one generatiOn." ❑ _