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Friday, May 10, 1946
CLIFTON AVENUE - CINCINNATI 20, OHIO
DETROIT JEWISH CHRONICLE and The Legal Chronicle
Personal Problems
By W. A. GOLDBERG. Ph.D.
Director, Counselling Service
Tillie: Sunday afternoon.
Copyrighted, 1946, by W. A. Goldberg, Ph,),
All rights reserved
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The Voice of the
Man in the Street
Place: 11'orkitieli's Circle Con-
vention at :Masonic Temple.
Page Five
MAN OF ITIE WEED
E
NERGETIC: GOOD-NATURED, warns-hearted Harvey H. Gold-
man, of the Harvey Goldman Machinery Company, is saluted by
The Chronicle and accorded honor as the Man of the Week.
Goldman was born in Detroit a little after the turn of the century.
He went to high school and attended what was then Junior City Col-
lege, later Wayne University, for two years. He played on the tennis
team but he did not have much time for extra-curricular activities.
Question: In the light of the
Anglo-American Inquiry. Commit-
In the summertime, he worked in the machinery game, cleaning,
tee recosumendation, do you think painting and repairing. In 1923, he started to sell machinery and has
been in that business ever since. At the start, he worked for a com-
the Jews should still hold out for
pany ruin by his father and grandfather. In 1932, he started his own
a Jewish state in l'alestine at this company.
time?
"I never felt that being Jewish was any handicap in my busi-
ness," he said. "Not that it was any help," he added quickly. "But
I cannot ever recall sullen, soy being Jewish was the only cause
Philip M'arsha•, 1295i Cedar
for failure in any deal. There is a certain amount of anti-Semitism
Road,
Cleveland
Heights,
Ohio.
In the past year, I have been invited to speak before a number of
in any line but I just don't happen to run into much of it"
groups on ODC or more phases of marriage. Some of these groups arr
No,
not
at
this
time.
Palestine
Started Vocational Service
\Try young men or women, some are older people. Among other mat-
Always interested in helping people get established and gettitr;
ters and as a self-revealing test, I ask them to write down, anony- should be of all nationalities. All
them jobs, Goldman was among the first in this city to demand a Jew-
mously, a few elementary questions about the body. No one but the peoples there
an g c t along
ish vocational program. He inter-
writer and myself sees the answers.
ested Fred Butzel in the idea and
It is amazing to see how little correct information these people. together. L e t
out of the community interest
either about to marry or already married, have on social hygiene. each build i t s
shat arose, came the Jewish Voca-
Were they old-country people, it would not make much concern. But own culture
tional Service of which Goldman
these people are all native-born Americans with at least a high school This can easily
be done provid-
was the first president in 1941. He
education and many college trained.
remained president until just a
In my dictionary of life, the parent is THE SOURCE of informa- ing there is no
few weeks ago.
tion for his child, in morality, reality of living, care of the body and outside i n t e r-
For six years, he has been on
decency. To me, sex is an important single element in life, not the ference. It is
fine to a d mi t
the board of the Jewish Commun-
overpowering element but one necessary phase.
ity Center. This work also stem-
Where, I ask them, will their children learn the correct terms and 100,000 Jews
med from his interest in children.
functions of the body? To me, this is the responsibility of modern but a great
"I was never particularly in-
marriage. It is such because an educated child can he a source of in- many more will
formation for other children in basic matters, since children do ex- have to go there. There is no terested in the problems of older
other place of refuge.
folks," he said. "I have devotes!
change information.
my community work to the prob-
In a practice dealing with adults whose marriages have become
lems of youth."
confused, no little part has been played by fairy tales and fables. Too
He is not particularly satisfied
many men and women have come to marriage with a fear of sex. Too
Mrs. Sarah Borenslein, 2165 Bol-
with the way the community has
many have been conditioned badly by their parents to regard sex as ton, Bronx, New York
handled the problem of the Cen-
something filthy, something to be tolerated. That would he of little
Yes. We need a Jewish state ter.
consequence except that such mis-information has a nasty way o!
Community Remiss
cropping up years later. They crop up in dissatisfied women, in un- and now is the time to demand
"I think the whole com-
it. We should
satisfied marriages. They are shown in continuous nagging which
munity has been remiss Its ac-
continue to de-
wrecks marriages. They find their way into the divorce courts, in con-
cepting this kind of responsi-
mand a state
tinuous chasing of the chimera of sex, without ever finding fulfillmen`..
bility," he criticized. "Our lead-
in the face of
They account for many broken marriages, most of which are unneces-
ers should recognize the need
everying. Ev-
sary in the light of today's knowledge.
of more centers and should fi-
erything de-
Premarital Education
nance greater facilities than
pends on how
HARVEY IL GOLDMAN
How may some of these difficulties be overcome? Information is
we now have. IVe need a Dex-
England a n d
one way and specifically as to tin actual purpose and manner of this
ter Center and One in the
the United
fundamental human hunger. A sound background, a sane attitude is
northwest. The Twelfth Street Center should have increased facil-
States react to
built up over the years, from childhood on, and never the day befor...
ities. The Jewish youth in this city should be much better serviced
the committee's
marriage.
than at present.
r C CODIffle 0-
Perparing for marriage requires an opportunity for mutual ac-
dation. Publici-
quaintance. The war has proved the fallacy of hasty marriage. as it
"I hope the next campaign in this city will be projected around
city can do any-
was proved long before that. Courtship is an adjustment period. It thing and the papers should keep increased centers," he continued enthusiastically. "That is the area of
should satisfy the question: "Is this the person with whom I want to this question in the public eye. our greatest need."
spend the rest of my life?" It means knowing each other intensively. There are grave dangers ahead
He has given a great deal of thought to some means of raising
seeing the fine points. Courtship proves or disproves whether o r not but we should never lose sight of
funds other than through a lot of steady campaigns.
a lifelong companionship can be moulded out of two individuals raised our ultimate goal.
in different families.
"We don't spend our money wisely," he charged. "We now have
Whenever I speak about inatriage, I speak of Irving Stone's "Int.
seven different educational systems supported by the Jews of this city.
mortal Wife." Throughout this Volume on the life of General Fremont,
William I'eskofl, 226 - 18th St., It is true that they have different philosophies back of them. But it il
there is reference to "that indefinable third being (true marriage)
possible to have all of them run in their own way by their own lead-
created out of two individuals.. ." I also refer to Proverbs, Chapter New York City.
ers and yet be in the same building so that the cost of education
31, which the Hebrew Bible translates as "A woman of worth, who
No. each thing should be han- should be less and yet results should be better.
can find? For her price is far alive rubies. . ." It expresses the sol-
idarity of marriage, the interacting roles of wife, husband and chil- dled in the proper time. Right
"If I had my way," he proposed, "there would be a Board of Edu•
dren in the creation of a marriage and a home. It bears re-reading now, the most
cation for all our Jewish institutions of learning. We would have mini-
important thing
for inspiration and for guidance.
mum
standards for teachers, a recognized curriculum, adequate phys-
Preparing for marriage has the additional facet of a philosophy is to g e t the
ical conditions and the like. We now have three buildings where one
Jews
from
the
of life which many • persons know and practice as religion.
will do. The increased cost of these extra buildings could be much
An element which is often left out is a grounding in economics, DP camps into
more wisely used.
place
of
ref-
a
in budgeting. Many persons also advocate a complete physical exam-
it
g
e
.
Nothing
"But we cannot solve our problems by fighting among ourselves,"
ination to eliminate any disabilities of a physical nature.
he went on. "It is up to our leaders to solve the problem of unity in
It is a hopeful sign that many young people arc asking for pre- else is import-
ant
at
this
time.
the community."
marital counselling, asking an outsider to apply current scientific
knowledge to an analysis of personalities, to advise them on reading Once we get
these
unfortun-
Goldman has a rather concrete program in this respect for com-
materials, to discuss with a marriage counsellor their immediate and
munity planning for general improvement. It is based on the need for
long-range problems. More and more young people are beginning to ates settled, we
work for our Jewish youth. This would require expanded community
see, as do their elder relatives, that no human is God-given in his c a n then look
centers and branches. It would also require more vocational service.
knowledge of behavior. They arc coming to see that advice in conduct t h e situation
over and decide what it is neces-
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"Once youth is on the right path, it is necessary to provide them
sary to do.
with jobs to their capacity and liking. Then they will become better
I wonder whether the British
adjusted citizens and better Jews."
will want to follow the recommen-
dation of the committee, however
Disagrees With Reform
96r AIL
The whole thing so far has been
Though he has always been a member of the Reformed Synagogue,
a delaying action on their part
G.,1dman does not agree at all with their point of view in worship.
and I'm afraid they'll find some
reason for continuing this delay.
"I have the most sympathetic feeling for orthodox religion,"
he said. "1 feel that we have gone too far in Reform. We have
somehow lost our warmth. 'We have eliminated too many of our
Dear Editor:
fine ceremonials front our service. I think Reform should go back
Joseph
Roth,
S3
Albany,
Albany,
I would like to write you about the Seder we had here in Vienna.
to more ritual.
New
York
It was held under the auspices of the Jewish Welfare Board. I'll be
sure to donate some money to that organization when I get back home
"And we must make more of au attempt to interest our chil-
No. I feel we should not insist
as they did everything to make it a "home away from home."
dren," he added. "If Judaism is to keep alive, our hope is in these
When I walked into the mess hall, it was packed. It looked like a on a separate state at this time.
oungsters. Youth has changed. Their ideas are so different from
We have already built up a dis-
UNO meeting. Russian. French, British and American military per-
our own and so are their likes and dislikes. But they're still a swell
trust
among
the
Arabs
which
is
sonnel were there. It was wonderful. The Jewish chaplain, an Ameri-
bunch of kids."
turning into a
can First Lieutenant, introduced the chaplains of Catholic and Prot-
fear at this
A middle of the roader, Goldman is sympathetic to Zionism al-
estant denominations who were present.
time. The Ar- though he has never been active in the organization.
General Haines was present on behalf of General Mark Clark who
abs fear tha t
couldn't attend. Members of the Russian, French and British armies
this is turning
"The future of Jews in America," he added, "depends entirely on
were called on to speak and then the Seder began. We skipped most
into a major in- the Jews themselves. As we are going now, we can look forward only
of the Hagadah but there was enough left to resemble a real Seder.
vasion of their to trouble. We must increase our own idealism and show an example
We had the customary salt water, bitter herbs and. to top it off, go.
of a people whose lives are run along the kind of ideals which others
rights.
filte gish and a most delicious chicken dinner.
Who knows if can copy to their advantage.
We sang Hatikvah and a few other Jewish songs. There was a
he English and
British Sergeant there who had a most beautiful voice. I was very
"We must educate our youth along more religious lines. I myself
Americans will
impressed by the whole affair and I'll never forget it. I won't forget
back up their never had a sufficient background in Jewish education and I feel
the good grape wine, either.
Decision by the lack of study in history, ceremonies and the like. I wish I had
LUCILLE GLICK, Civilian HQ.
!farce of arms had more of this when I was a boy."
U.S. Forces in Austria - USACA,
at this time? If they do not, there
Goldman is married and has one daughter, eighteen years old. His
Allianz Bldg., Economics Div.
is sure to he trouble.
hobby is collecting Jewish ceremonial pieces. Recently, he had some
Let us take what is offered and lovely pieces on exhibit in Toronto. He is one of the three persons
bring these poor Jews into Pal- heading the machinery division of the Allied Jewish Campaign. ,
estine. Then let us build up th.
land and make it economically
"I think the campaign will succeed," he said, "even though those
To the Editor:
Several weeks ago. Mr. Philip Spatter of this city received a tele- stable. When we make Palestine who are most able to give may not carry their true share of the bur.
a land where anybody can live in den. It will be the warm-hearted middle class who regard European
phone call from a woman, who sought information concerning th
whereabouts of either Hershel Wiesenfeld or Leazar Eder, in connec- freedom and comfort, when the Jews as their brothers and sisters who will carry the real load."
tion with a request for information from Czechoslovakia. Mr. Spalter standard of living is high enough
For amusement, he works on a farm that he owns between Plym-
gave her the telephone number of Mr. Wiesenfeld, but to date she has so that anybody can live in com- outh and Ann Arbor.
fort without fear hf starvation,
not contacted him.
Could you help us to locate this woman, who called Mr. Spalter, then will be the time to decide
"It doesn't pay," he grinned, but it certainly is lots of fun."
and ask her to contact me as soon as possible, as we are very much on the question of ultimate state-
hood.
"In the sphere of their activity," he concluded, "both the Jewish
interested about the nature of the request for information and front
If we hold out for a state now, Welfare Federation and the Community Council are doing a splendid
whom It came.
there is a good chance that we job. I see no area of conflict or any need for any. I do see a great
Thank you for your assistance.
SUE WEISENFELD, • may lose everything. A bird in the need for continuation of the excellent work they are doing. The more
community-minded we all are, the better community we will all have."
RAndolph 4662 1 hand is worth two in the bush.
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