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He is up with the sun, eats his simple- breakfast of wheat bread and tea, prepared by his wife, and then is, off with his older sons to work the fields of cotton, jute, wheat or rice. His wife spends the better part of the mornig attending to house chores. Later she and some of the children may join the men in the fields. Babies, or those too. young to work, are left with a younger daughter or taken out in- to the fields, where women erect hammocks for them to lie in. "The little children." Viquar laughs and shakes her head. "There are so many of them."' Families average eight or nine children. A minute later she is serious, leaning forward to im- press me with a point "You know, don't you that this is one of my, country's serious problems?" It is more of a statement than a ques- tion. Before I can answer, she is ex- plaining in a low, but emphatic voice, "You see, we are trying hard to introduce birth control. We set up centers and send social workers to the country. But it is still much the same: one earning 'member and so many dependents." Viquar smiles again, an expres- sion, I've mentally labelled as her "crusading smile." "We will change this . . . someday . . . soon." she adds firmly. IT WAS WHEN WE discussed growing up in Pakistan, I real- ized why Mohammed is uneasy in my presence. From the time they are born, until they are married, Pakistani boys and girls are sep- erated. Dates are an unheard of phe- nomena. There are no coed schools, although boys and girls both have equal educational opportunities. Explains Mohammed with an empty gesture: "It's just not the socially acceptable thing to do. If you should even be seen going with a girl to a show, you are consid- ered very low class." He leans for- ward with a shy smile: "In college, a boy sneaks a date now and then. But it is never anything serious," Marriages are arranged. Som4- times the girl has never seen her husband-to-be. Vigar, who will be married four years this August tells me how it's done, but -only after rve leafed through a well- stuffed photo album of her hus- band and two-year-old son. Unlike many, she had met her husband and talked with him sev- eral times before the formal pro- posal from his father to her father was made and the traditional "tea party" for the couple-to-be ar- ranged. "MY MOTHER then proceeded to find out all about him, his family background (an essential in Pakistan, where family ties are of the -utmost importance), his educational standing, social stand- ing and other things." She thought he was quite well educated-he's a petroleum geologist--and that he had a good future. Then she asked -me if I was willing." "I guess you were." "Well, to tell you the truth," Viqar said self-consciously. "I was a bit reluctant." "Was it your first proposal?" "Oh no." Viquar looks surprised and a little hurt. I hasten to say that I don't really think it had been and add with an attempt at restoring my good standing, "you must have had dozens." "Oh yes." Viqar's warm smile assures 'me that my slip-up is f or- given. "Oh, I don't remember how many. They come and go, you know. You start having. proposals from age 14. Most girls will get married at 16, maybe 17. But my parents wanted me to get my edu- cation before they married me off. I was 22, my husband, 30." wife relationship is carefully re- strained. "A wife must not show the least bit of affection to her husband in public," continues Vigar. When I am with my hus- band, we must walk yards apart. Why,, if I was to take my hus- band's arm, I am sure that people would jeer at me." "And no one wants to change this?" I expect the familiar "cru- sading smile" and an announce- ment that progress is being made. Instead Viqar replies indifferent- ly: "Oh no. It . has always been like this. No one pays much at- tention. We have more important things to do." "'1IQAR," I say cautiously, "you don't have to answer this question, but you've been in the United States for a year now and seen our dating custom. If you had it to do again, which method would you prefer?" As Viqar gives me a long, hard look, I squirm mentally and won- der if'I've really over-stepped my bounds this time. She smiles. "Yes," Viqar replies quietly, "I would like to know the man bet- ter, but I would not like to date him." "Why not?" Viqar leans forward. Her hands are "talking" as fast as her lips, "You see, I live-in this dormitory and I see these girls going out with these boys. This is fine. But I also seems all the tensions that follow and make them so unhap- py. Emotions should be latent. When you are encouraging emo- tions, here will be pressures on nerves. It is very bad." Viqar leans back. Her face looks tired and a little strained. There is a moment of silence. Then Viqar bounces up, with her old vigor to show me pictures of her brother and sister-in-law in California. AT THE END of the school year, Mfohammed, a graduate stu- dent in Naval Architecture, 'and Viqar, who is doing graduate work in Physics will return to their na- tive land. I ask them how long they think it will be before Pakistan will be able to stand on her own feet. Mohammed hazards an optimis- tic 10-15 year guess. Viqar, more conservatively shakes her head sadly and murmurs: "It will be a long time. We must do so much, you know." - ____ -- - CHAIRS like those in the Undergrad Library "BUT VIQAR," I persist, "if you don't know . your husband, how do you know the marriage will work out?" 'It does," she replies simply. "Well, you know, women don't know the difference. They have not had contact with other men. They look up to their husbands." She pauses thoughtfully. "Maybe marriages are successful because the women can't afford to leave their husbands. 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