4B - Thursday, March 20, 2014 THE VAG From Page 1B When TeRaye Walker told members of her church that she was acting in "The Vagina Mono- logues," someone joked "Your vagina can talk?" The recent School of Social Work graduate laughed it off, but doesn't deny the sense off fear, and shame, that surrounds the scary V-word. LSA sophomore Irene Suh - who is a member of Students for Choice sod proodlh wears a T-shirt emblazoned with the reproductive rights slogan "My kitty, my choice" . has yet to tell her parents about her role in the show because she worries about their reaction. "Until I got to college, I was broughtup in the household where it was not OK to talk about sex, or vaginas or reproductive health, so being able to talk about this is really liberating for me," Suh said. Fear, shame, ignorance: symp- coms of a culture focused on sex rather than sexuality, objectifica- tion rather than understanding. "The Vagina Monologues" is an effort to recreate what we think about the female reproductive organ -- and about women them- selves. "This is kind of stuff that's still so taboo to talk about," said LSA senior Suzanne Maclaren, cast member, "Sex in general is kind of taboo to talk about, but sex in women and the 'power of the vagina' - it's still something that people are afraid to talk about." Performance with a purpose "The Vagina Monologues" was first written in 1996 by Eve Ensler, who conducted over 200 inter- views with women of all ages and backgrounds to write a series of monolgues ostensibly about one hing: the vagina. Now the show is performed by groups around the country, with the proceeds going to support a non-profit of their choice along with V-Day, the organization started by Ensler that strives to end violence against women. The show was brought back to the University last year by Students for Choice, an organiza- tion that promotes reproductive rightsonscampus "'(Students for Choice) brought 'Vagina Monologues' because we are a feminist organization and women's empowerment is very closely tied with reproductive rights," said LSA junior Sophia Kotov, co-president of the orga- nization. "When female bodies are mentioned in the media, this is alomost always deeply problem- atic, offensive and oppressive. 'The Va'ina Monologues,' on the other hand, provides an experience for people of all genders to hear frank talk and trrue stories about women and women's bodies coming from these same people." This year the show is going to be performed in the Rackham Auditorium on T'hursday, March 21. In the Rackham lobby dur- ing the half hour leading uo to The Michigan Daily - michigandaily.com the perfor Choice will from differ campus, ma health and I students. 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"Seeing ( theater prac and powerf back from have very m mance, Students for host representatives ent activist groups on ny promoting sexual providing resources to many other perfor- ups on campus, "The mologues" is not affili- the theater program, have a plot or staging scripts. The show is a series of snapshots 's lives rather than a e. olute, overwhelming the cast is not pursu- as a career or major," sophomore Madeline the show's producer. f women who have a :his subject, who were and who rocked it out Frita Bati'dos is worth the trek LSA freshman Celeste Goedert at 'Mono from history," Suh said. Not just feminist, but "humanist" ion is well-placed, as While "The Vagina Mono- of the proceeds of the logues" has proven to appeal to upport the SafeHouse any audience with an open mind, smestic violence shel- its value at the University is all htenaw County. This the more significant consider- es as a transitional ing rising concerns about sexual iter for those fleeing assault and gendered violence on olence, and it offers a campus. rams to assist moth- "On college campuses, vio- ldren while they are lence against women is so preva- and in the years and lent that it's so important to have 'r they have left. the show, especially for the col- ve a 40 bed shelter lege community," said School of n, women and chil- Social Work doctoral candidate ne who needs a safe Kylee Smith. "The show demands Parkinson, who is an end to gendered violence and in one of the center's violence against women, and in ach programs, said. thatway, it does demand equality." have a first respond- There is a growing movement if there is a call to the toward highlighting violence t a domestic situation against women not as a woman's ouse is also contacted issue, but as a human issue. "The send representatives Vagina Monologues" takes this the survivor." idea one step forward, asserting ices of the center link that women's health, sexuality and the more sobering experiences canbe celebrated and "The Vagina Mono- understoodby all, as long as people hich may surprise are open to listening. think of the show as "This is a show that will ring play about vaginas." true for a lot of people no matter how does use humor your gender or your sexuality," honesty to bring said LSA senior Suzanne Maclar- the vagina itself - en. "It's something that is framed logues about pubic as 'The Vagina Monologues' but it back-riding induced really does just speak about essen- d hand mirror self- tial parts of humanity, like sexual- Ensler sought to ity or just trying to find your own nas surrounding the identity." humor and relatabil- The show is often judged as a t tackles more debili- negative product of modern femi- s as well. nism, reduced to nothing more an relate to the whole than a gaggle of women getting se issues, whether it together to hate men and burn sion of self-discovery bras. erability in remem- "People that have never seen pain. One monologue this show think, 'Oh that's just a bittersweet thoughts bunch of women saying 'Power to woman who felt too the pussy!' but to be in it, or to hear e to ever fully exam- it, or to see it - it is deeper than uality. Another, titled that," Walker said. "So even if you a Was My Village," are not a feminist you can relate to he survivors of rape this show." war in Bosnia. Irene These women reject the myth vor of sexual assault that feminism is all about anger now an advocate for and hate; rather, the show focuses 'ors, connects strong- on reclaiming womanhood instead 'Vagina Was My Vil- of "emasculating" manhood. Though women make up a major- sexual assault) in a ity of the audience, Parkinson said 'tice - it's vulnerable last year men comprised approxi-. ul, taking that voice mately 30-40 percent of the audi- the oppressors who ence. She contributes this high iuch tried to erase it representation to the universal themes of the show. "I know a lot of men who came up to me after the show last year, who had gone with their mothers orsisters orgirlfriends," Parkinson said."They had things they related to as well, like coming of age and finding yourself." Expanding the reach of the show not only promotes education about parts usually ignored - as Smith says, "No one ever asks you about your vagina"- but it decon- structs centuries-old stigmas about female genitalia. NICHOLAS WILLIAMS/Daily "It's all about starting conver- sations," Smith said. "Hopefully logue' rehearsals. it gets people more comfortable talking about their vagina, talking about their stories." Vulnerability and Empowerment Think about the last television commercials you watched. How many included women? Probably most. How many featured "sexy" women - those dressed scantily, those wearing excessive makeup, those in unnatural and hyper-sex- ualized poses? Now, how many of these women had names? How many had stories? How many spoke? Women often have two options: to be silent and overlooked, or to speak and be labeled "radi- cal." "The Vagina Monologues" attempts to give women a voice while still valuing every woman's spectrum of sexuality; it focuses on collective representation over blind definition. Many cast mem- bers repeatedly brought up the show's emphasis onvulnerability. "It's realizingthat sexuality and expressions ofsexualitydon'thave to be a source of anxiety," Maclar- en said. "You can find comfort whether through other people or by yourself. To trust yourself isn't a foolish thingto do." This vein of empowerment is central to the program, for both cast members and audi- ences. However, unlike many representations of the word, this empowerment comes from self- awareness and acceptance, rather than an outside force. "The Vagi- na Monologues" onlyhopes to be a catalyst in helpingpeople discover themselves. "It's women empowering women and supporting each other. Even for me it seems like it's duplicitous," said Sam Wellman, a recent graduate of the School of Social Work. "Like how can you be both angry and vulnerable? How can you be both sexual and inno- cent? But you can be and nobody can take that from you, and that's not youbeing complicated or crazy, that's youbeinga humanbeing." Though each part has been rei- magined and individualized as the actresses shape their characters, it's valuable to recall that these monologues are based on inter- viewswithrealwomen - these are not scenes in a fictional play, but representations of real people's deepest pains and struggles. The hundreds of women interviewed had to bare much of who they were to contribute to the mono- logues, revealing their many human strengths and human weaknesses. "My biggest concern, worry, struggle is making sure that I am doing justice to this story," Well- man said. "Knowing that this not only was from an interview with a real woman with this actual experience, but knowing that it struck a chord with me so it's going to strike a chord with other people ... I want to present it in a way that honors that." pace. We're bundled in scarves and earmuffs, complaining relentlessly about the blistering wind attacking our face with its frigid T he trek is an investment of time, and even more so today as the smooth ice covering the cracked concrete sidewalks slows our F' NATE WOOD needles. But it's worth it, without a doubt. You see, before the real world cruelly sucked away my graduating friends, this was a regular occurrence. Our pot of gold at the end of the wintery weather rainbow? Frita Batidos. I let my inner self explore the corners of my memory as we navigate back to this Cuban burger promised land. There was the first time I'd tried Frita Batidos: A very confused freshman, I was entirely distracted by the nets full of limes hanging next to the condiments at each table. Were they decor, air fresheners or just waiting to be juiced by citrus-seeking customers? I remember the time that my fellow RAs and I crammed around the picnic tables outside to celebrate/commemorate the closing of South Quad. Only when Mother Nature began pouring down rain were we forced to leave. And finally, I remember the Fritas lunch a close friend and I shared on her last day in Ann Arbor. A casualty to graduate school, she was moving out-of-state and on to bigger and better things. The easiest way for us to say "see you later" was over a burger and milkshake. And as much as it didn't feel like it at the time, it really was only a "see you later." Flash- forward seven months, and here we are again - the same group of friends walking the same blocks in search of the same sandwich. What better way to end the perfect reunion weekend than at our standby rendezvous? With bright red noses, cheeks and ears, we arrive happy to finally be back in the warmth. Drinks are first, with everyone ordering the usual. The health nut, Sean, asks for "the lighter batido," which is made with mango and pineapple juice. Neha sips on a mango soda, which she calls "the nectar of the gods," and Emily and I enjoy our rum-spiked coconut cream batidos (it's never too cold for a tropical milkshake, ironically). The fritas - essentially Cuban burgers with fries stacked between the buns - are next. Again, no surprises here: chicken for Sean and Neha, black bean for Emily and chorizo for me. I've elected to add avocado spread, Muenster cheese and an over-easy egg to my frita, which always sounds better in theory than it ends up being in reality. Ketchup and avocado force themselves out from between the two halves of the brioche bun as my incisors tear through each layer. Runny egg yolk drips down the back of my hand, and chunks of chorizo drop to the bottom of the basket in which the mess of the meal is served. "Oh, that's what this fork is for," I think. The food here is always impeccable, and the company is even better. My friends and I nosh and chat for the next 30, 60, 90 minutes, feeling "just like the old times" as we reminisce about the year before: how annoyingly unavailable Neha had been during internship recruiting season, how Sean had somehow convinced himself to become a vegetarian, how we had to stage a "How I Met Your Mother"-style intervention for Emily - who slept on her couch for weeks to avoid putting fitted sheets on her bunk bed - and how I became embarrassingly depressed one night by watching "Hoarding: Buried Alive." It felt so casually normal, as if only a matter of days had passed since our last Fritas visit. Take advantage of your time in A2. I tried to harness this feeling as I worked to console myself of the fact that it would likely be another seven months before this would happen again ... if we were lucky. The plane back to reality was on its way to transport Emily - in the same way that it had Chris and Rebecca the day prior (who sadly missed out on our Fritas excursion) - to what seemed like thousands of miles away. Of course, they would actually be many hours closer than that, but still far enough away that trips to Frita Batidos were relegated to being an occasional treat. The real world sucks. But we make due. Texting groups, Google hangouts and social media keep us all connected. Life updates don't go unshared, and futons and foldout beds don't go unused. And every once and awhile, when the stars align, a weekend of fraternizing and Frita Batidos in Ann Arbor recharges our spirits and reminds us of the enduring power of true friendship. To all the bright-eyed freshmen reading this, enjoy this rare time in your life when you live within walking distance of all of your friends. To the alumni and staff, consider reaching out to that college friend you've not contacted nearly recently enough. And to Sean, Neha, Rebecca, Chris and Emily, I'll see you at Fritas. You can contact Wood at Fritas on a nightly basis or at nisaacw@umich.edu. re Miriar Dow rehearses at Hillel. WE'RE REALLY STARTING TO GET THE HANG OF THIS SOCIAL MEDIA THING. FOLLOW US @MICHIGANDAILY I I'