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6B Wednesday, October 3, 2012 // The Statement
Wednesay, Otober 01231
the leaders and the worst
by zach bergson and kaitlin williams
LEADERS
a week of daily stories
* A drug dealer in Pennsylvania s
named his brand ofheroin LeBron
(James, but chances are you can't
get high enough to help you dunk,
according to Buzzfeed.
Justin Beiber almost
gained some rock star cred
when he puked onstage.
Then he tweeted "Milk was
a bad choice! Lol." and we
remembered he was a man-
child.
The UGLi is now open 24 hours a
day, seven days a week. Expect an
in flux of posts from U of M on Asian-
ssleepinginthelibrary.tumblr.com.
Breitenbach also emphasized that
committed relationships tack on yet
another responsibility to the already
overextended schedule of a typical col-
lege student.
"Relationships are quite mentally
straining, and when you're trying to grad-
uate, especially from Michigan, you have
all these kind of other stresses - you have
to get a good GPA, you have to do all this
extra work - you kind of want to die some-
times," she said.
The preponderance of the double
standard
Despite the advancements young
women have made toward sexual empow-
erment, Aubrey argues that "old-fashioned
patriarchy" has continued to prevail in a
culture largely based on sexual objectifica-
tion.
According to Aubrey, in a party context
women are more likely to be evaluated by
their appearances than men, whereas men
are more likely to be evaluated on other
attributes: resources, access, social con-
nections or financial means.
While out at a bar one night, Cronin said
she was approached by a man who groped
her breasts. Clearly violated, she inquired
what possessed him to engage in such an
inappropriate manner.
"He was like 'Well, didn't you want
me to? That's why you were wearing that
shirt,' " she recalled. "That's the kind of
stuff that I hate."
In a study, Aubrey analyzed televi-
sion shows to see how sexual experiences
and their consequences were distributed
among females and males. She found that
female characters received negative pen-
alties for their behaviors more often than
males.
"Hooking up is portrayed in a less con-
flicting way for men than it is for-women,"
Aubrey said. "Women are definitely shown
hooking up, but there is a variation on the
emotional outcome of that for women ver-
sus men."
But despite the enduring stereotype
that females have an inherent tendency to
develop feelings in the wake of a hookup,
Breitenbach said she more often experi-
ences the opposite.
She cited a former relationship attempt
as evidence.
"He was totally gung-ho about it, and
then I was like, 'Oh, I'm not interested
in you at all,' " she said. "He wanted to
take it from being hook-up buddies to
being a relationship, and I was just not
into it."
Til death do us part?
But what about marriage? Is this cul-
ture - marked by the conflict between the
physical and the emotional - just a titil-
lating means of keeping marriage on the
backburner? Or is the institution slowly
becoming obsolete?
In a study from the Pew Research
Center, 39 percent of Gen Yers claimed
they believed marriage had become an
archaic practice. Only 30 percent consid-
er marriage to be a top priority in their
lives.
Additionally, data shows 22 percent
of individuals ages 19 to 29 are married.
This number is down from 29 percent in
1997.
In her November 2011 Atlantic piece
"All The Single Ladies," Kate Bolick
paints a portrait of the American wom-
an's undulating perspectives on mar-
riage, amplified in the wake of vast
economic gains.
"As women have climbed ever higher,
men have been falling behind," she writes
in the article. "We've arrived at the top
of the staircase, finally ready to start our
lives, only to discover a cavernous room
at the tail end of a party, most of the men
gone already, some having never shown
up - and those who remain are leering
by the cheese table, or are, you know, the
ones you don't want to go out with."
LSA senior Charlotte Myers's experi-
ence growingup as the daughter of a single,
working mother struggling to raise three
children has made her skeptical toward
wedlock.
"I just want to do things for myself,"
Myers said. "If things work out that I get
married or have kids or something, then
that's fine too. But it's not in my plan for
life."
LSA senior Erin Reed, whose father
walked out on her when she was three
months old, said she would like to get
married someday, but is doubtful of the
ability to find a partner who will fully
commit.
"I definitely think that I'm more cau-
tious in that situation and in the qualities
that I would need to see in another per-
son," Reed said. "My number one is com-
mitment."
Despite contradictory feelings toward
marriage and mounting skepticism toward
monogamous institutions, many students
haven't completely foregone the desire to
tie the knot.
"There's a big part of me that's like,
'OK, marriage is this antiquated ritual.'
But then there's the part of me that's
grown up in America, that looks at my
parents' wedding photos and their fabu-
lous wedding, and thinks, 'Man, I really
do want that really beautiful white dress,'
" Cohen, the woman in the open relation-
ship, said.
"Being in an open
relationship is just
great. You have all of the
security and the support
and the love that you
have in a traditional,
monogamous
relationship. But you
also have the freedom to
go out on Friday night
with your friends, and if
you end up making out
with some frat guy, you
don't have to break up
over it."
-Music, Theatre & Dance Senior
Laura Cohen
Cronin, the woman who describes her-
self as "in-between," said she also antici-
pates marrying someday.
"I think eventually I'd like to get mar-
ried," Cronin said with a smile. "Probably
when I'm, like, 40, though. Because I've
got to get my career going first."
University students gathered in the Diag Wednesday for a vigil spon-
sored by the Sikh Student Association in honor of the victims of the Wis-
consin Sikh Gurudrwara shooting in August.
Seth MacFarlane is host-
ing the 2013 Oscars, but
we're still holding out for the
dream duo of Clint East-
wood and an empty chair.
15
.. T ES S
* Lady Gaga smoked marijuana
Betches love this Umversity. Well, at onstage in Amsterdam, inadvertently
@ least Greek Life and everything asso- launching what couldbe the most suc-
ciated therein. cessful anti-drug campain the world
has seen.
WORST
No. 419:
Yes, putting the
header on your
eight-page paper
counts as an
accomplishment.
No. 420:
1 was going to
make this rule
about marijuana,
but then 1 lost all
motivation...
THE rules
No. 421:
The "W" on your
transcript does not
stand for "Win."
The Michigan men's soccer team beat Ohio State 3-2 after a last-
minute overtime goal by freshman defender Jack Brown launched a
free kick 60 yards into the Buckeyes' net.