Thursday, October 19, 2006 - The Michigan Daily - 7A MARRIAGE Continued from page 1A amically, there are no premarital relations of any sort. No touching, no nothing. Given that, the logical solution is to get married:' LSA senior Aliyah Rab, who shares an apartment with Jukaku and is also married, echoed those thoughts. "It's harder to not date and to just be normal" she said, "Once you get this religious marriage, you're allowed to be normal by American standards." Rab and her husband, Zeeshaun Ahmad - who graduated from the Ross School of Business last spring - met in Statistics 350 more than two years ago. The two found they shared interests, goals and values. After spending a year and a half visiting each other's families, they were engaged in March and married in May. These couples are part of a gen- eration of college-age Muslims who are increasingly likely to marry, Rab said. "If you look at a couple of gen- erations ago, like my older broth- er's generation - he's 33 now - they were very, very goal-ori- ented,' she said. For them, finding a mate often took a backseat to their studies and careers, Rab said. As today's students relax about their futures, they are able to socialize more and find partners earlier, Rab said. "People now are more like, it's OK to get married," she said. "I don't know what I'm doing (as a career), but it's OK to get mar- ried." A MODEL STUDENT There is much that sets Rab apart from other University stu- dents. First, there is her hijab - the traditional headscarf worn by many Muslim women. Less prom- inent but more distinct is the small silver band on her right ring fin- ger. She is not a typical student, but she is happy that way - being both Muslim and married means thinking about her actions in a new way. "I always have to think," she said. "(When you wear a hijab), you're always a model of a greater thing." Being married, she said, is similar in that she must now think about how her actions reflect on her husband and his family. Rab's former roommate, Lubna Khan, roommate who graduated from the University this spring, agreed. Khan was married in June to Michael Dann, an Amherst, Mass., native with a Christian upbringing who converted to Islam at age 15. "You start thinking about hav- ing a good influence on people around you," Khan said. "It made me really think about where I wanted to be in my religion and perfect the flaws." While many students see long- term commitments as burdens, to Khan and Rab they mean another pair of shoulders to help bear the load. Rab said the financial security of marriage allowed her to aban- don her pre-med track in favor of anthropology, which she pre- fers. She hopes to attend graduate school in Chicago, where her hus- band works as a consultant. "A spouse is like a backbone, a frame," she said. "It provides that for you for everything, which is so nice." GROWING TOGETHER Back atNYPD, El-Sayed folded his hands and looked thoughtfully at his young wife. "Being able to grow with your significant other is an experience that a lot of people miss out on," he said. "(Sarah and I) are happy and lucky to have the opportunity, thank God." Since their marriage, Jukaku and El-Sayed have grown togeth- er in the same way many serious young couples do. They visit the library, get dinner and indulge their frequent dairy cravings. "Getting ice cream is the num- ber-one thing we do together," El- Sayed said. Like many young Muslim cou- ples, El-Sayed and Jukaku do not live together. They are in the first yearlong stage of a two-step marriage pro- cess that is traditional in most Arab and some Indo-Pakistani Muslim cultures. Increasingly, American Muslims are adopting this practice. During the interim, the two live separately and do not consummate their union. "It's a time to get to know each other more personally," El-Sayed said. "It gives you time to finish up whatever you need to figure out." Most surveys show that divorce rates among Muslims are lower than the U.S. average. The two- step process is one reason for this trend, El-Sayed said. "The interesting thing about the Muslim perspective on (com- mitted relationships) is that it's a lot more serious," he said. "If you think about the difference between a really serious boyfriend or girl- friend and marriage, it's the ring on your finger and the contract - the stakes are higher." For Jukaku and El-Sayed, high- er stakes meant adjusting, both academically and socially. Next year, El-Sayed will be in medical school. Though he has been accepted into the Univer- sity's program, his formidable MCAT score means he could be traveling as far as Cambridge, Mass., to Harvard University. If he does move, Jukaku, who plans to teach high school, plans to accompany him. Other changes were necessary. Jukaku said most of her friends, including Rab, were supportive, but that a few were less sensitive. "They just fell off the face of the Earth when I got married," she said. Time with their own families has diminished as well. They now split their weekends between each other's family homes in Shelby Township and West Bloomfield. El-Sayed even gave up playing Michigan lacrosse, a seven-year passion to which he devoted more than 25 hours per week. "I wanted to make sure this went the right way," he said. "I figured you can only play lacrosse for so long, but you'll be mar- ried for the rest of your life." Since settling into the routine of married life, he has returned to the sport, much to his wife's plea- sure. "Good choice. I tried to tell you earlier," she said to him over his objections. The couple's attitude toward married life is as optimistic as it is unusual. "Whatever we have to rethink or change is forthe better," Jukaku said. "It wasn't anything we lost." El-Sayed said he always knew he would marry young. "I was going to meet one girl and I was going to marry her," he mused in his thick basso voice. "In some senses, I feel like that's the purest form of a relationship with someone. It cuts out all the B.S." Suicide note leads police to dismembered body NEW ORLEANS (AP) - A note found on the body of a suicide jumper led police to a French Quar- ter apartment where they found a woman's charred head in a pot, her arms and legs in the oven and her torso in the refrigerator, police said yesterday. Zackery Bowen, 28, leapt from the seventh floor of a luxury hotel in the Quarter on Tuesday night, police said. His note, found in his pocket, identified the woman as his girlfriend but did not mention her name. The body was found in the sec- ond-floor apartment that Bowen and his girlfriend, Adriane Hall, had shared on the edge of the Quar- ter above a voodoo shop, according to the landlord. Authorities said they were trying to find Hall, but did not speculate on the identity of the dismembered woman. A woman who identified herself as Priestess Miriam Chamani in the Voodoo Spiritual Temple and Cultural Center below the apart- ment said Wednesday that the cou- ple had recently moved in. "You see people and never know what's going on with them" the woman said. STUDY Continued from page 1A effort to achieve a diverse student body. The study claims that a black male with the median GPA and test scores for all admitted blacks had a 28-percent chance of being accept- ed to the University in 1999. This chance increased to 43 percent in 2005. A white applicant with the same test scores and GPA had a 1-percent chance both years. In a written statement, Peter- son said the study relied on flawed analysis that statistical experts have rejected as unsound and misleading. She also pointed out that the study missed crucial pieces of information considered in the University's admis- sions process, like extracurricular activities and application essays. "No top university admits stu- dents solely on the basis of grades and test scores," she said. Roger Clegg, a spokesman for the Center for Equal Opportunity, defended the study's methodol- ogy, saying it did not make sense to consider subjective variables like application essays and letters of rec- ommendation. Even if the center could control for essay quality, Clegg said, it is not possible that the gaps in SAT, scores and GPA between black and white admitted students could be explained by differences in applica- tion essays. "There is no reason to think that African Americans are better at writ- ing essays than whites," Clegg said. The Center for Equal Opportu- nity was founded in 1995 by Linda Chavez, who was appointed by for- mer U.S. President Ronald Reagan to the U.S. Commission on Civil Rights. The center is dedicated to eliminating race-based affirmative action and campaigning against bilingual education. The study's release comes less than three weeks before Michi- gan voters will vote on Proposal 2, which seeks to ban the use of race and gender in admissions and gov- ernment hiring and contracting. The University's admissions policies have often been a rallying point for opponents of racial preferences. Peterson questioned the timing and motives of the release. "This is a politicized attempt by (the Center for Equal Opportunity) to narrow the focus of the debate to college admissions at a single insti- tution, rather than acknowledging the broader potential impact on state employment and contracting, K-12 schools and public universities and community colleges," Peterson said. While the Center for Equal Opportunity is dedicated to ending race-based affirmative action pro- grams and is openly supportive of Proposal 2, Clegg denied that the center coordinated its efforts with the Michigan Civil Rights Initiative campaign. i MORI Continued from page 1A Opponents of MCRI, or Pro- posal 2, say it would eliminate programs that help underrep- resented groups overcome dis- crimination. MCRI would not just affect racial minorities, but also women, Rodgers said. Ryan Fantuzzi, co-chair of Washtenaw County MCRI, said if the proposal passes, women will be admitted to college based solely on their qualifica- tions. He said it would eliminate gender discrimination in public education. Sue Kaufmann, associate director of the University's Cen- ter for the Education of Women, published a study on MCRI's impact on women in January. According to the study, if MCRI is passed, many Univer- sity programs may be eliminated that encourage women to pursue opportunities in fields where they are underrepresented, such as math and science. Fantuzzi said MCRI will not affect any outreach programs and would only ban programs that give gender preferences. Elizabeth Tappan, president of the Society of Women Engi- neers, said MCRI will adversely affect women's programs. "Affirmative action has given women inroads into male-domi- nated fields," she said. "It reduc- es the isolation and challenge of being the only woman in the room." The study says Proposition 209, a California initiative sim- ilar to Proposal 2 that passed in 1996, led to a decline in the number of women working in skilled trades and attending col- lege. Kaufmann said she is con- cerned that if there is a decline in the number of working women in Michigan, it could cause more problems for the state's already fragile economy. 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Monts said the study has also found that the campus climate can be unwelcoming. For Thursday, Oct. 19, 2006 another person or even to a group. To combat this problem, ARIES SCORPIO Monts advises students to join ethnic student organizations like Black Student Union or the cam- pus chapter of the NAACP. But some students say organizations are not enough. "There are not a lot of black professors that are tenured," said LSA senior Staci Daniels, who is black. "It's hard to find someone to help us along who's had the same experiences." Daniels credits the Office of Academic Multicultural Initia- tives for helping foster a con- nection between faculty and minority students to create an inclusive environment. The question that looms over the University is how much Pro- posal 2 on next month's state ballot, which would ban some affirmative action programs in Michigan, would affect gradu- ation and enrollment rates if passed. Monts said Proposal 2, also known as the Michigan Civil Rights Initiative, would have a much heavier impact on the state than Proposition 209, a similar initiative that passed in 1996 in California. "Circumstances in Michigan are much more dire than in Cali- fornia," he said. "We only have one highly selective higher edu- cation institution, whereas Cali- fornia has nine highly ranked campuses." Monts said California schools can admit many more in-state students and better reflect the diversity of the state. At Michigan, out-of- state students compose more than one-third of the student body, and thus in-state spots are more competitive. Many minorities say that the campus is not always welcom- ing to them and that may be why some black students leave. John Matlock, director of the Office of Academic Multicul- tural Initiatives, who is part of Monts's task force, said many racial incidents that occur on campus happen because it is pre- dominantly white. "Minority students and white students both look at the Uni- versity to fix (racial) problems," he said. "Students have to create that friendly environment." I t I (March 21 to April 19) Close friendships and partnerships can really deepen today in terms of affection and mutual admiration. Everything seems to be more important and defi- nitely more intense! TAURUS (April 20 to May 20) If you fall in love with someone today, it will be a memorable relationship. Relationships that begin now have a fated quality to them (right out of the movies). GEMINI (May 21 to June 20) You might feel that you're madly in love with someone. Relationships and romantic contacts are unusually intense today. (This is definitely good diary material!) CANCER (June 21 to July 22) There's a strong energy in the air. today. One good way to use it is to make where you live look more beautiful. Get rid of what you no longer need. Streamline your belongings. LEO (July 23 to Aug. 22) Your conversations with others defi- nitely have vigor and energy today! You mean what you say, and you say what you mean. (Believe me, people will hear you.) VIRGO (Aug. 23 to Sept. 22) When shopping today, you feel practi- cally obsessed about buying something. Wait until late in the day to shop. Avoid major purchases in the morning and early afternoon. LIBRA (Sept. 23 to Oct. 22) It seems like all your emotions about practically anything are deepened today. You feel a strong need to belong to (Oct. 23 to Nov. 21) You're willing to work on behalf of others today. You have a desire to relieve the causes of suffering for someone. You can't go wrong, because what goes around comes around. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22 to Dec. 21) You have an opportunity to deepen your bond with a friend today. You might turn a casual acquaintance into a bud- ding relationship that lasts a lifetime. CAPRICORN (Rec. 22 to Jan. 19) If someone in authority is trying to dodge an important issue, you'll come at this person again and again. You want to get at the real truth about something. (It's important to you.) AQUJARIUS (Jan. 20 to Feb. 18) Political, religious and philosophical discussions are quite intense today. Keep in mind that you can't reason anyone out of something he or she wasn't reasoned into in the first place. PISCES (Feb. 19to March 20) Love relationships are very intense today. If you're in love with someone, everything seems to be "way-out" in a wonderful, passionate way. YOU BORN TODAY You're highly independent. You do your own thing (and others let you). Nevertheless, you're not afraid to take responsibilty for othsers. You're highly dependahle. You're a loyal friend and a faithful fam- ily member. Be open to exciting new beginnings this year. Each door you open will lead to another door, which leads to another door, and so on. You're starting a new cycle. Birthdate of: Evander Holyfield, box- ing champ; John Lithgow, actor; Ty Pennington, TV host. MSA Continued from page IA 'Okay; let's sit down and figure out what our process is going to be,"' he said. On Oct. 8, Baker realized that no one was searching for an election director, so he began his own search. The person Baker found was Ben Beckett, his former cam- paign manager from when he ran for a representative position as an independent last March. Baker knew that nominating a former campaign manager was not ideal, but he had full faith in Beckett. "I would never have gone to the assembly with someone who I thought would have been biased in any way," he said. The MSA Executive Board did not agree and refused to nominate Beckett. "We as the nominating group didn't feel comfortable," Yost said. "We couldn't in good faith put forward that nominee." At the meeting, Baker shouted at the MSA executives, urging them to approve his nomination. He did not succeed, however, because the MSA Code states that only the executives or the Rules and Elections Committee chair can nominate the election director. Baker was aware of this stipulation but believed he was entitled to present his nom- ination because he said he had been acting as the Rules and Elections Committee chair. He said Van Hyfte was not taking charge. Instead, the executives put forward Tim Wiggins as their nomination for election direc- tor. Wiggins, an LSA senior, had previously been on MSA but has been disaffiliated from MSA and S4M for over a year. During the meeting, Baker also said there was a lack of leadership in the Rules and Elections Committee and tried unsuccessfully to add a vote to recall Van Hyfte as chair to the agenda. When Van Hyfte was given the opportunity to speak, she said Baker's statements were fallacious because the Rules and Elections Committee had only one meeting for the semes- ter, and she did not think this was enough time to show a lack of leadership. Baker took offense to Van Hyfte's statement and began to yell. "Who do you think you are to come in front of all these people and accuse me of lying?" he shouted at Van Hyfte. Sensing the tension in the room, Susan Wilson, the director of the Office of Student Activi- ties and Leadership, and Anika Williams, the MSA Administra- tive Coordinator, stepped in to calm Baker. Yost then made a motion for a five-minute recess to "get some control over the meeting and bring it back down to earth." The motion was approved. The meeting resumed after the recess, only to have anoth- er recess called by MSA Vice President Justin Paul moments later. During the recess, Paul met with Van Hyfte, Baker, Wilson and Williams to resolve the issue. When the meeting resumed, Van Hyfte proposed to move the election dates back a day to Nov. 16 and 17. This move bought an extra week for the Rules and Elections Committee to find a qualified individual for the position, during which she found Bouchard. Because some- one was nominated for the posi- tion 36 days before the election, MSA was able to elect Boucha- rd to the position as long as he starts working 29 days before the contest. At the end of the meeting, Baker apologized to MSA for his behavior and resigned from his position as Rules and Elec- tions vice chair. "I thought it was best to remove myself from the process and focus on some of the health issues, like insurance, that I wanted to focus on this semes- ter," said Baker, who is also a co-chair of the Health Issues Commission. !!ME SOOOOO HUNGRY!! Want free pizza for a year? Enter to win and get a sweet deal at www.banzai.com HORSE BOARDING/TRAINING/ FOR SALE. equinecharmschool.com c 2006 King Features Syndicate, Ine. b A