f/%C 0 The Michigan Daily - Weekend, etc. 14l e MichiganDaily =Weekend; etc. Magazine - Thursday Maroh ;.2001Q ; A weekly guide to who's where, what's happeningeand why you need to be there.. The List Thursday, March 29 through Wednesday, April 4 Coping with grie ,,.._. , Films opening^ One student shares how she dealt with a deati American Desi This one basically slipped through the fingers of our crackerjack film staff. At Showcase: 1:50, 4:15, 6:55. 9:10, 11:55 (Fri. & Sat.). Spy Kids Yeah, a kids movie from the director who brought you Cheech Marnn taking about the female reproductive organ for five minutes. It's freakin' "apji." At Showcase: 1:05, 1:35, 3:05, 3:35, 5:05, 5:35, 7:05, 7:35, 9:05, 9:35, 7:05, 7:35, 9:05, 9:35, 11:05 (Fri. & Sat.), 11:35 (Fri. & Sat.). Tomcats The kid from "My Secret Identity" and Gary Busey's son. Get me some Prozac. At Showcase: 12:55, 1:25, 3:10, 3:40, 5:20, 5:50, 7:30, 8, 9:40, 10:10, 11:50 (Fri. & Sat), 12:20 (Fri. & Sat). Films holding A An Instant Classic 8 Very Good CFair D Not recommended F Not Worth Your Time, or Your Money Blow Special sneak preview at 8 p.m. Friday night at Showcase Cinema. Free cocaine to the first 30 people in line. The Brothers Imagine "The Cook, The Thief, His Wife, and Her Lover" mixed with "Cannonball Run" and then you would be about as far away from this film as possible without using a boat. At case: 12, 12:30, 1, 2:15, 2:45, 3:15. 4:30, 5, 5:30, 6:45, 7:15, 7:45, 9, 9:30, 10, 11:15 (Fri. & Sat.), 11:45 (Fri. & Sat.), 12:15 (Fri. & Sat.). Chocolat Harvey, you glorious bastard, I'm so glad that you lost. At Showcase: 1:30, 4. 6:50, 9:25, 12 (Fri. & Sat.). A- Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon The origi- nal title, Crouching Tiger, Hidden Pier della Vigne simply made no sense. At Showcase: 1:45, 4:20, 7:40, 10:05, 12:30 (Fri. & Sat.). A+ Down to Earth As funny as MSA elec- tions. Okay, not that funny. At Showcase: 1:20, 3:30, 5:40, 8:15, 10:20, 12:20 (Fri. & Sat.). C Enemy at the Gate Hey, wait just a damn - the Americans don't play any part in this war flick. Who cares which of the panies kills the other? At Showcase: 12:45, 3:20, 3:45, 7, 7:55, 9:50, 12:25 (Fri. & Sat.). B+ Exit Wounds This was the number one movie in America. And Orson Welles had to do "Transformers: TherMovie" to stay afloat. No justice. At Showcase: 12:10, 12:40, 2:25. 4:45, 7:25, 9:55, 10:25, 12:05 (Fri. & Sat.), 12:35 (Fri. & Sat.). Fifteen Minutes Fifteen Minutes? I'll give you fourteen years, baby. Fourteen years of silence, fourteen years of pain, four- teen years that are gone forever and I'll never have again. At Showcase: 12:20, 2:50, 5:25, 7:50 (except Friday night), 10:15, 12:35 (Fri. & Sat.). D+ Get Over It We did, before it was released. At Showcase: 6. F Hannibal Wow, Ray Liota is in three movies currently playing. Am I in hell? Just kidding, Ray. No, I'm not. Yes, I am. At Showcase: 8:10, 10:30. B- Heartbreakers As funny as the Code. Okay, not that funny. At Showcase: 1:10, 1:40, 4:05, 4:35, 6:40, 7:10, 9:15, 9:45, 11:55 (Fri. & Sat.), 12:20 (Fri. & Sat.). A- The Mexican.lf they made a movie about me they'd have to call it the German- Lebanese-Irish-Welsh-Lithuanian. At Showcase: 12:05, 2:30, 4:55, 7:20, 10:05, 12:30 (Fri. & Sat.). B+ See Spot Run You better leave some room for my fist because I'm going to ram it into your stomach. At Showcase: 12:25, 2:20, 4:25, 6:30. Traffic Would have been okay if not for all the unnecessary drug use. At Showcase: 12:35, 3:25, 6:35, 9:20, 12:10 (Fri. & Sat.). A By Jenni Glenn Weekend, Etc. Editor First year student Sarah Martin was learning about bereavement in one of her nursing school classes, but studying remained far from her mind that Saturday night. She had traveled to Colorado for her first karate convention with her coworkers from Keith Hafner s Karate School. Surrounded by friends at. a banquet dinner, she was thoroughly enjoying herself. That was when her colleagues called her out of the room. "They told me I had to call home, that there was a family emergency," Sarah recalled. "I thought there was someone in the hospital with a broken arm." Family ties The oldest of six children, Martin shared a room in her parents' house with her two sisters, Amanda and Molly. Born within a three year span and enrolled in consecutive grades in school, the girls shared so much that their parents dubbed them "SAM"- an acronym combining the first letter of each of their names. The family resided in Chelsea, a small town located a few miles west of Ann Arbor. Here the Martins attended St. Mary's Catholic Church and took karate classes together. Sarah, Amanda and Molly all had achieved the rank of black belt along with their mother, younger sis- ter Katy and younger brother David. The sisters spent countless hours laughing and discussing friends, sports and school together over the years. Their conversa- tions continued by phone once Sarah began attending the University. But Sarah was involved in a different type of phone conversation in Colorado that Saturday night, Nov. 11, 2000. Across the lines, she heard the news that 17-year-old Amanda had been killed instantly in a car accident on the way home from a football game earlier in the day. Amanda's dreams of attending Hope College to study business and of later becoming a mother would never come true. Unexpected loss Like Amanda's death, the loss of a youth frightens family and friends because it is unanticipated. The deaths of students Candy Wei, Shannon Mayes and Byung Soo Kim during the past aca- demic year impacted the campus in a similar manner. These losses can be par- ticularly difficult for students who have never experienced the death of a close friend or relative before. And in instances of sudden losses, people may experience shock and trauma in a way that isn't associated with the death of someone elderly due to long-term illness or other natural causes. "If you have a friend who has just had a death in their family, the first thing to Courtesy of Revolution Studios Jerry O'Connell will be lucky if he has any furniture left after "Tomcats" tanks. chink about is whether the death was anticipated or unexpected," School of Social Work professor Sallie Foley said. "Either way it hurts, but if it was unex- pected, the person may not react with a normal grief reaction." As a result, those responding to unan- ticipated losses can experience feelings ranging from anger to numbness and shock. "I think it's a way for the body to han- dle the magnitude of what's going on," said Jim Etzkorn, a counseling psychol- ogist at the University's Counseling and Psychological Services. "It's just too big to handle." Support system In the aftermath of learning about her sister's death, Sarah said she didn't expe- rience denial but simply couldn't absorb what had occurred. Dazed, she found herself on a bereavement flight home from Colorado. A colleague accompa- nied her on the trip, but she felt utterly alone without her family. "I was with people vWho loved me, but not people who loved (Amanda) in the same way I did," she said. She felt completely relieved to see her family upon pulling into the driveway of her parents' house. Friends had flown in from as far away as Connecticut and Washington, and her relatives had driven up from Indiana. "As soon as I got out of the car, there were people to hug and be with," Sarah said. "We weren't alone for a week. I couldn't handle being alone." According to interim director of the University's Counseling and Psychological Services Todd Sevig, death can be particularly difficult for stu- dents who are geographically separated from family the way Martin was when she first received the news. Without the direct connection to a personal support network of friends and family, grieving is a much more difficult process. Those experiencing grief often fear isolation the way Sarah initially did fol- lowing her sister's death. In difficult periods like this, friends should try to be available during the individual's grieving process and encourage the person to talk about it. "The main thing is that people need someone to listen and be with them," said Robert Hatcher, the director of the University's Psychological Clinic. "In terms of actually doing things beyond YOUR EVENT IN TRE LIST C.AL 163-0379 .AND ASK ITOR ELUZABETH AND JENNI OR EMAIL -WEEKE.ND.EDITORS@UMKCH..E.JU Phone Numbers: Briarwood: 480-4555; Fox Village; 994-8080; Michigan Theater: 668- 839 7; Quality 16: 827-2837; Showcase: 973-8380; State: 761-8667. Showtimes are effective Friday through Thursday. Matinee times at State Theater are eftective for Saturday and Sunday only. Thursday CAMPUS CINEMA Caveman's Valentine (2001) Hey, how about a club to the head and a free trip back to the cave? State Theater. 7 & 9:30 p.m. Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon (2000) All right Ang, I hope that little Academy fiasco has taught you about messin' with my boy Stevie "dressed for success" Soderbergh. State Theater. 9:30 p.m. The House of Mirth (2000) Okay, wipe that stupid grin off of your face or I'm not mowing the back yard. State Theater. 6:45 p.m. Pollock (2000) A rip roarin' good time for anyone who thinks that movies about splatter are nifty. Michigan Theater. 7:30 p.m. MUSIC Donkey Punch Please grant them boy band status. Blind Pig, 208 S. First St. 10 p.m. $7. 996-8555. The Gryphon Shepard Herding their sheep all the way from K-zoo, these guys break out the hip hop jams. T.C.'s Speakeasy, Ypsilanti. 10 p.m. $3. 483-4470. THEA TER Struggling Truths Performance Network performs this Peter Mellencamp drama about a Buddhist monk with an attitude and his contro- versial opinions on the Chinese Invasion of Tibet. Performance Network, 120 E. Huron. 8 p.m. $17. 663-0681. stands in for "Mr. Show" David Cross. Comedy Showcase, 314 E. Liberty. 8 p.m. $8 in advance, $10 at the door. 996-9080. Les Murray Reads, Mate Australian poet reads from his newest collection as part of the University's Visiting Writer's Series. Rackham Auditorium. 5 p.m. Free. 647-6471. Poet Nicholas Harp The English Department presents this writer, plus a TBA fiction writer. West Conference Room, Rackham Auditorium. 8 p.m. Free. 764-6330. Ken Waldman Former college profes- sor traveled American West, wrote book about it titled Nome Poems. Hear him read. Shaman Drum, 8 p.m. Free, 662-7407. Scenarios: Recent Work by Lorna Simpson Simpson, who is known for her controversial images of racial and sexual identity, displays three of her most recent film projections in this exhibit. Museum of Art, 525 S. State. Free. 764-0395. Paradise Now: Picturing the Genetic Revolution Spanning a variety of media and art forms, this exhibit is an artistic reaction to the Genetic Revolution and the implications that accompany it. Museum of Art, 525 S. State. Free. 764-0395. Friday CAMPUS CINEMA Caveman's Valentine See Thursday. State Theater. 9:30 p.m. Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon See Thursday. State Theater. 7 & 9:15 p.m. Theater. 7 & 9:30 p.m. MUSIC Smokestack Eclectic band blows their top. Blind Pig. 208 S. First St. 10 p.m. $7. 996-8555. Blissfield, K4 Too good for T2, too bad for K-9. T.C.'s Speakeasy, Ypsilanti. 10:30 p.m. $3. 483-4470. Brass Band of Battle Creek Popular brass band from Battle Creek, per- forms a diverse program, including jazz music, swing and classical tran- scriptions. Hill Auditorium. 8 p.m. $10-22, 764-2538. THEA TER A Midsummer Night's Dream The RC Players mix Elizabethan and punk cul- ture in this interpretation of the bard's comedy, involving four misguid- ed lovers and a lot of fairies. R.C. Auditorium, East Quad. 8 p.m. $5, $3 students. 936-2777. Struggling Truths See Thursday. Performance Network, 120 E. Huron. 8 p.m. $20. 663-0681. A LTERNA TIVES Scenarios: Recent Work by Lorna Simpson See Thursday. Museum of Art, 525 S.sState. Free. 764-0395. Paradise Now: Picturing the Genetic Revolution See Thursday. Museum of Art, 525 S. State. Free. 764-0395. Saturday CAMPUS CINEMA Caveman's Valentine See Thursday. State Theater. 4:15 & 9:30 p.m. First year nursing student Sarah after her sister's death. Each of and ex-boyfriend received one o that, you can show them that y and spend time with them and d that remind them that life is f going out, but the core is to remit that someone is there with them: In Sarah's case, her sister understood her feelings since s experiencing the same loss. TV before the funeral, the pair wet ping in order to get out of the h< a while. At the mall, they spotte play of silver necklaces. The desi tained three entwined hearts. Th chased three of the necklaces, or around Amanda's neck before he and one for each of them to wea day to remember their trio. This was not the last display ZWeekend - .-- Magazine Weekend, Etc. Editors: Jenni Glenn, Elizabeth P Writers: Rob Brode, Jenni Glenn, Lyle Henretty, Meredith Keller, Andrew Kleir John Uhl Photo Editors: Louis Brown, Jessica Johnson Weekend Photo Editor: Abby Rosenbaum Photographers: Brendan O'Donnell, Abby Rosenbaum Cover: Abby Rosenbaum Arts Editors: Ben Goldstein, Managing Editor. Jennifer Fogel and Robyn Melamed, Associat Editor in Chief: Geoffrey Gagnon The House of Mirth See Thursday. ALTERNATIVES State Theater, 6:45 p.m. Kevin McPeek Superfly comedian Pollock See Thursday. Michigan