6 - The Michigan Daily - Weekend etc. - Thursday, October 21, 1993 BUILDING BLOCKS 0, By the time they told both moms and dads, they had plan. What to do. How to pay. Where to live. It was her first year of school, his second. She was pregnant and they were getting mar- ried. Another young couple pre- pared to join the ranks of students who are parents on campus. They anticipated anger, but when Areli Cavazos told her mom, "All hell broke loose." She was furious. Areli's mom, Gloria Cavazos, wanted her to have the baby, but to send her home to Brownsville, Texas. She couldn't understand her daughter's decision to get married and raise the child. "No matter what I do, I cannot change her mind," Areli said. "She's from the old country, a different generation." Gloria and Manuel Cavazos im- migrated from Mexico before Areli's birth. Their American dream con- sisted of a butcher shop, a house, a $40 car and the desire to give their children chances they never had. The odds were against Areli. Only 656 seniors, out of a class of 1,500 ninth graders, graduated from her high school. Areli knew she had succeeded when she was accepted into the Comprehensive Studies Pro- gram at the University of Michigan. Sean Kottke graduated second in his class from a high school in West Lafayette, Indiana, where 95 percent of the students proceeded to col- lege. However, Sean wasn't sure if he would be accepted at the Uni- versity of Michigan or if he could afford it. After all, his family was still paying off loans from his mother's nursing school. He was accepted and managed to find ways to pay for his education. Sean's parents were less then pleased when he told them about Areli's pregnancy and their impend- ing marriage. But they came around - eventually. Visits to grandma and grandpa are frequent now, since his parents live in Michigan. Despite their different backgrounds, both Sean and Areli Cavazos-Kottke assert that their cultural differences are not a point of conflict, but rather a point of interest. "We are so close in ideas and philosophies," said Areli, "that we really don't have a cultural gap." Alexis changed Sean and Areli's lives, but education remained their con- stant focus. "From the moment Areli was preg- nant, I never got less than an A-," Sean said. "From the moment she was a re- ality, I really worked for it." Sean, who graduated last year as a Film Studies major, is currently study- ing in Eastern Michigan's Teacher Cer- tification Program. After taking 12 months off to care for Alexis, Areli returned to school. She is now a junior in American Culture, with plans to become a lawyer. If anything, her work ethic and fo- cus have increased since Alexis' birth. "If I don't do well, it reflects on my family," she said. Sean and Areli share family respon- sibilities. Between writing papers and reading to Alexis, they fold clothing and 0 0 .r +; . . :: a .