The Michigan Daily - Friday, October 25, 1991 - Page 5 .0m (47 Surviving rape alt, the University by Henry Goldblatt Daily Staff Reporter For the past few days, many University students have idly glanced at Sexual Assault Aware- ness week balloons being handed out in the Diag without giving the issue of acquaintance rape much thought. Many of these same students will be raped in their lifetime, likely by someone they know. Af- terward, they may face disbelief, or even blame, from a society that might suggest "they asked for it." "The only thing I asked for that night was for him to stop," said rape survivor Jenny Cass, an LSA junior. Those who are raped say the ex- perience lasts a lifetime. "There is a fear of being betrayed again ... of getting into another sit- uation in which you have no control or couldn't make decisions," said Margaret, an RC sophomore and an acquaintance rape survivor who to admit I personally lost control." Margaret didn't seek counseling until the beginning of last winter term, more than a year after the in- cident. She participated in both group and individual counseling with Sexual Assault Prevention and Awareness Center (SAPAC) coun- selor Kata Issari, who said Mar- garet's reactions are not unusual. "Some of the most common de- nominators (in cases of rape or sex- ual harassment) are self blame, re- luctance to trust other people... fear of it happening again and a lot of grief... and anger," Issari explained. Reporting Rape According to FBI statistics, one in three women and one in ten men will be sexually assaulted during their lifetimes. SAPAC Director Julie Steiner said studies have been conducted that show the rate for women to be as high as one in five during the college years. "The biggest myth is that most "There is a lot of activity in the court that discounts the serious ex- perience of women who are sexually assaulted." Margaret said a court case forces the survivor to relive many of the painful feelings already resolved in counseling. "I would never dream of pressing charges after having dealt with it for two years myself," she said. U .. Student rape survivors can file a report with the University under the 1989 interim policy on discrim- inatory conduct. Since the policy does not deal with rape, but only sexual harassment, rape charges may be handled in the same way as a lesser offense. Steiner said the policy is flawed because it does not mention rape. She said the University needs a policy that explicitly outlaws rape, pro- tects the survivor, and has a rape shield clause, which nrohibits an at- Greek system is not insensitive to rape prevention issues, problems do exist. "There is a higher rate of (rape) in the Greek system than on cam- puses in general. A lot has to do with the fact that so many parties go on in fraternities and that there is a lot of alcohol," Steiner said. "There is definitely a problem in the Greek system, but I don't be- lieve it's system-wide," said Sunil Trevedi, president of Order of Omega, the Greek honor society. "There are fraternities that are... known for not treating women with respect and as equals." "A part of the system... sup- ports some attitudes that allow people to commit rape, such as peer pressure, pressure to have sex and have it often, and the kind of things people don't think we know about such as 'Stick a Pig' parties," Steiner said. "These things convey the atti- tude that women are not really pco- Steiner said approximately one- third of SAPAC's programming takes place in the Greek system. However, Trivedi said this pro- gramming often does not target the people who need it most. "Prevention workshops which people have to go to is almost like pulling tooth and nails. To be hon- est, the people who most need to go won't go. We need to bring the workshops to the people," he explained. Julie Mangurten, president of Alpha Chi Omega sorority, said rape prevention education needs to begin in the sorority house. "We tell (our pledges) not to feel pressure to drink, that there are non-alcoholic beverages available and if they feel unable to walk home to get someone else," she said. "People can relate to personal expe- riences - they carry a lot more weight." While president of Alpha Tau Omega fraternity, Trevedi said he took initiatives, such as posting numbers for Safewalk and cab companies in the bathroom. However, if an incident of sexual assault occurs in a fraternity house, the Interfraternity Council lacks formal guidelines to handle it. "Our role is not policing that type of activity," said IFC Presi- dent Matt Commers. "That is an is- sue between the woman and man and the court system." Some sororities are lobbying na- tional chapters to change policies that ban men from private areas of their houses. "Women might feel more com- fortable being able to be in their own rooms. If they are in a guy's room, they are stranded there, if it's late at night and they don't want to walk home by themselves," said Mangurten, whose sorority is try- ing to make that switch. "And where a party is held makes a difference," Steiner said. "If a woman gets sick and has to go lay down, she is more in peril in a fraternity man's room than in her own or a friend's room." Rape Prevention While campus-wide education continues with SAPAC programs and information tables, stirring people to think about the issue re- mains a challenge. "We need to make both men and women unlearn all of the things they learned about what it means to be a man or a woman," Steiner said. Trivedi said that people need to take an active role in educating their friends and encouraging them to at- tend programs. "Executive boards should talk to their friends and tell them to do programming or to tell your friends, 'You do have a prob- lem and people can't just cover it up.' Then they'd be more willing to have these workshops." But no policy or programming can eradicate Margaret's feelings. "There is still a constant fear. I don't know if I ever will feel the same about sexual situations." Duke, Republicans gohand in hand Maybe Rep. Gaylord Griswold of New York knew, during the debate over the Louisiana Purchase back in 1803, that one day David Duke would run for- Stephen with a fair chance of f-lndemSOn winning - the Gover- norship of Louisiana. Maybe that's what he meant when he said allowing the Louisiana territories into the Union would allow for undue and unwanted influence over the country's politics. If he did, he's probably enjoying a big, "I told you so," right now. Duke, a former KKK grand wizard, is uncomfortably close to getting his rear end into the highest seat in Louisiana. And he's doing it with a Republican name tag, a fact that has everyone from George Bush to Michigan Gov. John Engler scrambling to disown him. They even got John Sununu out of the president's dog house to say the Republicans wanted nothing to do with Duke. But when you think carefully about it, and look closely at Duke's platform, is he really that much different from other Republicans? Duke talks a lot about getting rid of the "welfare state" and getting "able-bodied" people out of the house and off to work. Not six months ago, our beloved Gov. Engler was essen- tially saying the same thing. And the State of Michigan now has about 80,000 "able-bodied" adults off of government assistance, but not quite off to work yet. Duke also goes after affirma- tive action programs, claiming they promote "reverse discrimina- tion" and set racial quotas contradicting the principles of equal opportunity. Last year, our Republican president in Washington vetoed the 1990 Civil Rights Bill on the same grounds. Today, we have women and ethnic minorities in the workplace who are largely unprotected from the real discrimination that still takes place. And don't forget, this same Republican president sealed his own election in 1988 with the now infamous Willie Horton cheap shot, in which he used a Black man's felony during a weekend furlough to get the "racial resentment" votes. Duke also garnered 44 percent of the vote in Louisiana's last U.S. Senate race, running as a Republican against a three-term Democratic incumbent. The fact is, racial politics have been the game of choice among Republicans for some time now; David Duke is just a little more forthcoming and politically unwise about it all. The most glaring difference between David Duke and other Republicans is not so much in their policies, but in the fact that we have pictures of him running around with a sheet on his head. Of course, I find it trouble- some that the people of Louisiana don't seem to be able to recognize this difference. In fact, if Duke is elected governor, I think Congress ought to heed old Gaylord Griswold's words and try to renegotiate the purchase with the French. Maybe they'll take that part of it back. But Ialso think the rest of us should start thinking a little harder about some of the things the G.O.P. has come to stand for, and looking a little harder at the things Republicans are saying. I doubt we'll find President Bush burning- a cross on someone's lawn or Gov. Engler leading a Klan mmdep but we' might hep nretty asked to have her name changed. "One of the hardest things I ever did was tell myself that it could happen again," she said. Personal Story Most students spent their senior year of high school anticipating homecoming, prom and graduation. However, Margaret had other things to worry about. Margaret was raped by a friend during the fall of her high school senior year - and says she is still recovering. For months after the incident, she couldn't bring herself to tell anyone about the experience. In fact, she tried repeatedly to call the man and maintain a friendship with him. "I did not tell anyone for at least three months. As part of the denial, I tried to talk to him after- ward, trying to convince myself we had a friendship," she said. 0 Margaret, who sounded very matter-of-fact as she described the incident, said the experience was particularly painful because the man was someone she trusted. After a date, he raped her in his apartment, where she was forced to stay the night because she was alone and in an unsafe neighborhood. "I needed several months just to figure out what happened to me and be able to call it rape," she recalled. "I didn't want to admit it was someone who I respected and who was a friend." Margaret said that along with denial she experienced fear because her assailant had been close to her. "I didn't want to admit I had no - power in the situation. I didn't want rapes are committed by some crazy man who is drooling and psychotic and jumps out of the bushes with a knife," Steiner said. She added that the statistic for men is misleadingly low because they are reluctant to come forward after being raped. "There are a lot of men who are walking around this campus, who will never tell anyone because of the humiliation involved," said Mary Bejian, co-coordinator of the SAPAC peer education program. And yet Steiner estimated that, despite the statistics, only 10 per- cent of survivors seek counseling at SAPAC. "If I get 100 cases per year, there are at least 1,000 on this campus, maybe even more," Issari said. Furthermore, even fewer people press charges. Of her clients, Issari said that 30 percent make reports to law enforcement officers, but only two to three cases a year are tried in court. One reason, Issari said, is that many prosecutors advise survivors that they do not have enough evi- dence to press charges. Jenny Cass, a rape survivor who filed a report, said she was discour- aged from pressing charges for just this reason. "I can't describe how bad that makes a person feel," she said. "It's difficult enough to actu- ally bring charges against the as- sailant. It's difficult to report the crime and to know that you'll be the one on trial - not the assailant," Cass added. Issari said the problem involves a court system that is biased against the survivor of sexual assault. "More and more assailants are torney from delving into sexual history during a trial. The current policy, which covers only incidents of physical force that occur on University property, pro- vides for mediation and negotiation between the accused and the com- plainant. Possible sanctions include formal reprimanding, mandatory at- tendance at sexual assault work- shops and suspension from specific extracurricular activities. Associate Vice President for Student Services Virginia Nordby said she received five complaints of sexual harassment between Septem- ber 1990 and September 1991. She attributed the low number to stu- dent unfamiliarity with the policy. Seeking Help Students who have been sexually assaulted can also seek help in a less formal way. SAPAC - the primary source of sexual assault counseling and education at the University - was opened five and one-half years ago in response to student concerns about campus safety and ignorance of issues, Steiner said SAPAC offers workshops and educational programming for class- es, fraternities and sororities, co-ops and residence halls. Services include individual and group counseling for rape and sexual assault survivors. Issari - SAPAC's only coun- selor - said she handles more than 100 cases per year and in any given week advises 12 to 18 clients. She said that while some clients come to her only once or twice, others return for three to four months. Greek System Members of the University community often single out the Greek system as a center for mci- ple, but objects... and allows them to justify the behavior of rape." Panhellenic Association Presi- dent and LSA senior Katie Kendall said she believes the negative image is due to the Greek system's high profile on campus. "I think (sexual harassment) happens in every aspect of this cam= pus. It is more easy to identify in- stances in the Greek system because it holds more visible social func- tions," she said. I