The Micbigan Daily-- Thursday, October 26, 1989 - Page 5 Sexual Assault Awareness Week SAPAC shows how to help by Gwen Shaffer When supporting a survivor of sexual assault, people must remain non-judgmental and keep a "sympathetic ear," a counselor said during a Sex- ual Assault Prevention and Awareness Center (SAPAC) brown bag lunch and discussion yes- terday. "No one ever invites rape," SAPAC Coun- selor Kata Issari said. "The rapist chooses to take advantage of the situation." The program, titled "Friends Helping Friends: How to Help a Survivor of Sexual Assault," was one of several SAPAC-sponsored campus events. during Sexual Assault Awareness Week. The workshop focused on what family mem- bers and friends can do to make recovery from- sexual assault easier for the survivor. A group of students started the week about five years ago on campus. The main purpose of the week, Issari said, is "to get people thinking about the issue of sexual assault and how it af- fects them and the community. We want to break the silence and support the survivors." Although everyone is a potential victim of sexual assault, the most likely victims are women between the ages of 17-24, said Issari, who led the brown bag discussion yesterday. When reacting to a survivor, Issari said it is necessary to remember that sexual assault is a life-threatening experience. "The survivor has been forced into the most intimate act we know, making it the deepest violation possible," she said. Often it is difficult for survivor to tell some- rape survivors one they have been sexually assaulted, Issari said, adding that they feel ashamed, fear they won't be believed, or no longer know who to trust. However, people who simply let survivors know they are there for them, and that they care,; can make a big difference, Issari said: "Act as, normal as you can, but not as if nothing hap- pened." While getting help for the survivor is very important, "you can't push someone to see a counselor until they want to be there," she said. Most participants said the discussion was worthwhile. "I learned a lot about how to bring up the subject of sexual assault," said LSA ju- nior Angela Loftus. "I'll be more comfortable talking to or helping out my friends." "It was interesting to see a lot of men here and caring about the issue," she added. Rape survivors to 'Speak out' by Laura Counts Daily Women's Issues Reporter Survivors of sexual assault will have the opportunity to "break the silence" and talk about their experi- ences during the third annual "speak out" tonight in the Michigan Union Ballroom. "The purpose is to celebrate the strength of survivors in going for- ward with their lives. It is also an opportunity for the community to. listen and show their support," said Kata Issari, a counselor at the Sexual Assault Prevention and Awareness Center and organizer of the event. Issari said although the speak out can be painful and even tearful, it is not negative. "It aims to turn what is a really horrible experience into something positive" by empowering the survivor, she said. She added that the environment is one of energy and warmth. Everyone is invited to the pro- gram, and Issari stressed that sur- vivors are encouraged to attend even if they do not want to identify them- selves. Survivors may choose to speak from a media or non-media micro- phone from which they can be seen, or from an anonymous mike back- stage. The microphone will only be open to survivors, Issari said, to give them as much encouragement to speak as possible. Original artwork by survivors will be displayed during the event. More than 500 people, including about 100 men, attended last year's speak out. San Francisco resident Suzanne Kleiman holds up a pair of panty hose while searching through the rubble of her earthquake-demolished home yesterday. i QUAKE Continued from Page 1 billion quake relief package Wednesday, and sent it to the House, which had passed a $2.85 billion measure just a day before. The Senate bill tacked on $600 million for Small Business Administration *emergency loans. VA survey in yesterday's San Francisco Chronicle found 36 percent of Bay area residents polled found the federal response to the quake "fair" or "poor." Forty-nine percent found it "excellent" or "good," compared with 72 percent who felt that way about the local government response and a * 59 percent positive rating for the state. Damage estimates have been set a $7.1 billion. Police said six people remained unaccounted for, and the death toll from the Oct. 17 quake remained at 63, including 39 from the collapse of double-decked Interstate 880 in Oakland. New aftershocks did not damage the structure as crews continued to dismantle it. An aftershock of 4.5, the strongest in four days, was registered on Tuesday evening and a 3.7 shock followed yesterday morning, the latest of about 3,500 aftershocks since the quake. Buck Helm, the I-880 survivor, remained in serious8but stable condition. "He's doing well," said Phyllis Brown, a spokeswoman for Highland General Hospital in Oakland. Yesterday, BankAmerica Corp. announced it would give $1.1 million to quake relief programs, in addition to $250,000 already donated to the Red Cross. And state aid has begun to flow. Santa Cruz County got a $356,460 check from state Controler Gray Davis on Tuesday. The check is 75 percent of the money the county already has spent on earthquake response. Film and discussion examine gender by Karen Akerlof Daily Staff Writer "For most of history learning one's (gender) role was relatively easy. The man, being bigger and stronger, protected the family from enemies and dangerous animals." By demonstrating the archaism of gender stereotypes, "Masculine or Feminine: Your Role in Society" - a film shown last night by the Sexual Assault Prevention and Awareness Center - began its exploration and critique of male and female stereotypes. More than 30 people attended the event, one of several events recognizing Sexual Assault Awareness Week. John Ifcher, co-coordinator of the center's peer program and the coordinator of men's issues, said, "We believe sexual assault is an issue for both men and women. It occurs because of how men are socialized. Men are brought up to be ag- gressive, dominant, and to take control away from other people." Ifcher said he was constantly embarrassed by men because of their violence against women. 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