The Michigan Daily Thursday, March 30, 1989 Page 5
Brady would want us
live in happiness
BY TARA GRUZEN
I wrote this with much help and
insight from Jason Putnam
I am writing this with a lump in
my throat and sense of spirit in my
heart at the same time. Each time I
start to scream out and curse who-
ever is responsible for this tragedy, I
think of yesterday and of the music
that was played at the end of Brady
We walked into the church
straining to contain our tears. We
walked out yearning to live our lives
as fully as Brady always seemed to
live his. Although the music was
somber before the service, it was full
of life and zeal afterwards. It was the
music that Brady loved during his
life and that he would want us to
We kept hearing the same thing
again and again. His friends said the
same things as his teachers and as
his family. They all said that Brady
was a friend to everyone that he met
and that he took advantage of every
part of living that he could. Brady
wouldn't want us to cry, they said.
He would want us to live on and to
keep a part of him in our hearts
wherever we go and whatever we do.
Brady would want us to continue
everything that he lived for in his
I was talking to Carmen Nieto,
Brady and my Spanish teacher at
lunch yesterday. As she moved her
hand in a steady and constant forward
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appeared to be happy with the life
that he was living at the time, never
wanting much more than he had.
And as I listened to her, I realized
that he really had touched everyone
and will continue to live on in all of
us, whether or not we realize it.
Without even thinking, everyone
in the Residential College became
the closest family that ever existed
when we heard of Brady's death. I
suddenly felt as if I knew everyone
in the college and that everyone was
there for anyone who needed some-
one, just as Brady had been there for
anyone who needed him.
There was a memorial service for
Brady in the RC auditorium last
Monday night. It was packed with
people who knew Brady from every
capacity possible. After the service, I
was hugging a friend of mine and I
felt a soft kiss on my cheek. I turned
to the side and saw that I had just
been kissed by someone I had never
talked to in my life. She gave me a
kiss because she saw my pain and
she wanted me to know that she
shared that pain. It didn't matter who
we were, all that mattered was that
we both missed Brady.
It was exactly this type of friend-
ship that Brady would have wanted
us all to show to each other, at all
times. A friend of his from high
school said Tuesday at the funeral
that Brady chose his own friends and
it never mattered to him who they
were or who their other friends were.
It was true. Everyone sitting in great friend; we're all going to miss we have for the past week, we can Just think of the philosophies by
the church knew it was true and ev- him a lot. Hopefully if we all con- come through this with a renewed which Brady lived his live and you
eryone who ever metb him knew that tinue to love each other as much as sense of life and hope for the future. can do no wrong.
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person to talk was his younger _
brother, followed later by the class- -<'
mate he went to prom with and then it
by the owner of a music store in
Kalamazoo, his home town.
I wonder how he managed to
know so many people, and to love
so many people. It really did seem
that he loved almost everyone he
And so I left the funeral yesterday
with a sense of optimism for the fu-
ture, a sense that my sorrow would
soon turn into an impetus for trying
to live my life a little more like
Brady lived his: more relaxed about
the things in life that aren't so seri-
ous, more open to loving the people
around me, and more willing to be
satisfied with what I have now, not
with what I want to have at some
But I must say, Spanish class re-
ally was hard today. I tried to con-
centrate, but I don't really know how
successful I was. Things are going
to be lonely for a while. Brady was a
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