14 U. THE NATIONAL COLLEGE NEWSPAPER FEBRUARY 1981 14 U. THE NATIONAL COLLEGE NEWSPAPER FEBRUARY 198 MYTHS ABOUT RAPE 1: It will not/cannot happen to me. FACT: The misconception that only a "certain kind" of woman is raped may serve as a kind of false security against the frightening knowledge that anyone can be victimized. However, obvious feelings of insecurity or restrictive clothing may be interpreted by the rapist as an indication that she is an easy target. 2: Rape is primarily a sexual crime. FACT: It is not a sexual experience for the victim and is not primarily motivated by the assailant's desire for sexual gratification. The object of the rape is to control, dominate and degrade the victim. 3: Rape takes place in unfamiliar territory and at night. FACT: Staying at home does not guarantee safety. It is estimated that approximately 40 percent of all rapes occur in the victim's home. 4: Rape is an impulsive, "spur of the moment" act that takes only a few moments. FACT: Most rapes are carefully planned. FBI sta- tistics show that 90 percent of all group rapes and 60 percent of all single rapes are planned. Many attacks last for several hours. 5: The rapist is a stranger. FACT: Approximately one-half of all reported rapes are committed by a man the victim knows or trusts. The fact that the woman and the man know one another may make the assault more difficult to deal with afterwards, but it does not alter the fact that a rape has occurred. .Amy Stirnkorb- Daily Bruin, U. of California, Los Angeles DATEAP Continued From Page 13 one thing, the law another, and indi- vidual men and women something else. Usually it boils down to sexual inter- course without consent, using force, the threat of force, or deception. To the vic- tims, rape is a deliberate violation of their emotional and physical integrity. A serious drawback to prosecuting ac- quaintance rape is whether or not the victim will be believed. An accusation of "stranger" rape pits one person's word against another's. Acquaintance rape, or date rape isn't as clear cut and may result with two parties hurling accusa- tions and insults at each other. What is worse, most acquaintance rapes are planned and the blame is put on the victim. "What she was wearing," "She's giving me the come-on," or "I could tell she wanted it too," are common argu- ments. This leaves the victim feeling that it's her fault, because she didn't take the precautions seriously enough to prevent an attack. So what are women supposed to do? One way to abolish rape is through awareness and education, and by dis- pelling the myths that prolong the agony for all involved. The line on the phone co. By Sabrina Wenrick R Daily Nexus U. of California, Santa Barbara My roommate called the phone company last week to get the phone plugged in. The woman needed all of Debbie's identification: driver's license, social security number, and major and local credit card. It was a long conversation. "Would you like your number listed or unlisted?" the woman asked. Debbie hesitated, "Uhh... unlisted probably." "That will cost you an extra 60 cents a month," the woman said. "What?!!" my roommate ex- ploded. "I have to pay to keep my name out ofthe book? I would think it would cost more money to be 4 listed. That is RIDICULOUS." The GTE employee hung up. De- bbie didn't have her name. The next day we tried again, resigned to paying the 60 cents, on principle I suppose. The charade recom- menced and when the listed part came up, Deb said, evenly, "un- listed." Lori, the GTE rep, had another trick. "Do your parents support you?" she asked. Debbie thought, if she said no, they wouldn't give her the phone, so she said yes, thinking this would reassure GTE that the bill would be paid. "Oh," said Lori. "If you had said no, you would have received a stu- dent discount (which turns out to be roughly 50 percent of all fees). Debbie hastened to add, "Well, we are financial aid students, and my Dad doesn't support me unless we get into difficulty." Lori explained that it was too late to change. Then she offered us insurance. We could pay 95 cents per month for maintenance, or we could pay $95 an hour for serviceifsomething ever went wrong. We opted for the 95 cents. There was a forty dollar installa- tion fee and a $1.14 mystery charge, in addition to our regular monthly fee of $10.75. Our calling cards were generously thrown in. Due to a busy season, she couldn't hookup the phone directly. We had to wait two days. No prob- lem. Friday came and we could call out. But GTE's Lori had made an error -perhaps the first in her 20-year career. She had forgotten to tell us our phone number. Debbie called back on Friday afternoon, a half-an-hour too late to find out the number. She rang back Monday morning. The comedy was not over. She spoke to a Mr. Zim- merman who said, "Oh I'm sorry, but you're an unlisted number, and I can't give out this information." She had to go down to the office in Santa Barbara and show a picture I.D. to be given her own phone . number. She was upset. He was sorry. He agreed to fetch his supervisor who said he could make an exception if she gave him all the information correctly. Once again Debbie gave her personal data. We had our tele- phone number by the time I came home. It's now among our most prized possessions.