The Michigan Daily-Thursday, September 9, 1982-Page 5-C Gays By FANNIE WEINSTEIN Despite the social progress that *seems to have been made over the last :20 years in the battle against discrimination, it is still not easy to be a minority in this country, especially an invisible one. And although Ann Arbor, which in 1972 became the first city in the nation to pass an anti-discrimination policy that included sexual preference, is sup- posedly a liberal town, life here for gays can still by trying. a "I FELT LIKE the whole hall wanted me out," said LSA senior Donovan Mack, who came out of the closet in 1978 as a freshman in South Quad. "The threats were both verbal and physical. It was really quite scary," he said. "They (people) were belligerent and harassing. There was very little understanding about homosexuality." Mack moved to another hall after telling his two roommates. "The whole thing was handled very quietly," he *said. "From then on, I was much more discreet and much less willing to divulge myself to other people in the dorm." JUDY, A member of Lesbian/Gay Male Community Services of Ann Ar- bor, said she experienced similar aharassment. "I've gotten spit on. I've gotten water balloons thrown at me for standing in front of the Rubaiyat," she said. "I'm just somewhat cynical because I've had some bad experiences," said Judy, who claims she was forced to leave her job at a local restaurant because of harassment about her homosexuality. For some gays, however, coming out come out despite lingering biases is much easier. George Lavdas, a University law student in his second year, said he gradually told only people he knew fairly well. "I CAME OUT in such a way that was indirect and they (those he told) had to think," he said. "It was never a con- scious decision-now I'm going to come professors and fellow students don't take it too well," Mack said. "I can see a person giving him or her- self the benefit of the doubt and keeping closeted," especially when their career may be on the line, he added. LAVDAS agreed, saying "There's a personal conflict. Here I am being Mr. "I've gotten spit upon. I've gotten water balloons thrown at me for standing in front of the Rubaiyat. For me, (Ann Arbor) hasn't been all that progressive of a town.'' -Judy, member of the Lesbian/Gay Male Community Services parental dominance, I felt really free to do something like that (come out)," he added. "You want to feel like you belong to a gay community," Mack said, because some gays feel alienated from the regular community. ALTHOUGH many groups for gays have formed, and more and more gays are coming out of the closet, some believe acceptance is still a problem. "For me it hasn't been all that progressive of a town," Judy said, referring to the harassment she has received. "It's not better for gays here than in any other town." Many leaders :n the gay community do feel that Ann Arbor has advanced in the area of accepting gays. "Things have become progressively more liberalinthe past several years," ac- cording to John Sugars, a member of Michigan Gay Undergraduates, which was formed last winter. "More people are feeling comfortable about being out." ORIGINALLY, the group was mainly a social organization, an alternative to the bar scene, Sugars said, but in the past few months, it has become more political. "I think it's close to impossible to have a gay organization without having any political activities at all ... The political aspect was inevitable," Sugars said. "There's a lot of people who wanted to become political but didn't know how to or didn't want to do it alone;" Sugars added. "Ann Arbor's ripe for something like this (the group) right now. I don't think a group like this could have been formed a few years ago." ALTHOUGH many gays seek coun- seling at the University, the number is not any greater than straight students coming for help, according to the University's counseling office. "There are different social pressures, not necessarily increased ones," said senior counselor Nicki At- wood. "In some ways (the problems are) less," she said, "because there is the supportive community there to link up with." Informing family and friends and dealing with their reactions are the society doesn't approve in general of homosexual orientation . . . You can't really be yourself," he added. "Most people can be quite open about their sexual choices but it's harder when :a gay person can't just bring a date home." Mack said he came out to his mother at the same time he came out at the University. "As a lot of parents do," he said, "she had a lot of difficulty under- standing. There was a lot of en- couragement for me to get counseling so I could get cured, concern over the "Oftentimes, straight people have no knowledge of a gay person. For a hetero- sexual person who hasn't met an openly gay person, they have no way of dispelling myths." out. It was a gradual process." He ad- ded that he never made a choice to be gay--"I just was." Most of those Lavdas told reacted favorably, he said. "They accepted me well. It was just a matter of being in- formed," he said. "I would say their reactions, in general, were positive." He added, however, that when he was a freshman at the University, "the thought of telling anyone I was gay was horrifying," mainly because he was afraid of harassment. MANY GAYS are also afraid of, academic or career setbacks that might result from revealing their homosexuality. "I feel I'm getting to be very vocal.... and I feel that, collectively, both my Vocal, but I'm not going to put it on may resume." He added, coming out "has a stifling effect. It's viewed as a trade-off. If you knew your career would not be affec- ted, who cares." Lavdas said he came ot to help him- self and others. "My personal life was not being lived to the fullest," he ex- plained. "It's not fun living in the closet. I'm a very emotional person. I need to express my emotions." IN ADDITION, he said, "I began to feel an obligation to inform straight people about gay people. I thought if I didn't, who would?" Mack had similar reasons. "I wanted to be honest," he said. "After leaving the narrow halls of high school and the -Beth Doyle, program coordinator for the Office of Human Sexuality a : , more common problems gays face, ac- cording to Lyn Scott, another Univer- sity senior counselor. "MOST OF the (students) I see are struggling with internal conflicts and uncertainties which are sometimes made worse by social pressures," Scott said. "Our society makes it tough. Our people who were influencing me in Ann Arbor, and reluctance to talk about it any further. "THERE'S still very little acceptan- ce of it, very little understanding, but I haven't followed through. I haven't given her enough information to form her feelings." See GAYS, Page 6 We Repair your Breaks Local groups available to gays By FANNIE WEINSTEIN The gay community in Ann Arbor is certainly large and diversified. To meet the different needs of this community, more than 20 University and non- University organizations, ranging from Gay Volleyball to Gay Alcoholics Anonymous, have for- med for gays to go for counseling, support, or just to socialize. One of the more well-known groups is Lesbian/Gay Male Community Services of Ann Arbor, which was formally organized in March, 1981. - THE GROUP, which is open to both gays and non- gays who support gay rights, is divided into three .committees: a political committee, which works on activities such as Gay Pride Week, a social commit- tee, and an elucation committee which publishes the group's monthly newsletter. A number of the local groups, however, serve only as resource and referral services. "As an organization of people that do things, the Gay Liberation Front (GLF) does very little," GLF *1member Ric Chollar said. "It's a networking and connecting type of group." Then there are other groups, according to Chollar, like the Pink Triangle Collective, which conducts :support groups and "coming out" groups. "IT'S SUPPORT groups for gay men who may just be learning what it is to be gay," Chollar said of the collective. For gay students who want to meet with others at the University, there are groups that cater to specific students, such as Lesbian/Gay Law Students and the Alliance of Lesbian and Gay Male Social Work Students. There are also religioussgroups for gays of all* denominations in the Ann Arbor area. "WE'RE HERE if someone has felt alienated from the church or has something against the church because of the old church teaching on homosexuality," said Gene Galley, president of the Ann Arbor Chapter of Dignity, a predominantly Catholic group. "It's not meant to be the ultimate end for gay spirituality," Galley said. This year, Dignity, which meets at St. Mary's" Chapel on E. William, plans to work more closely with the other members of the congregation and to take a more active role in community service, accor- ding to Galley. "RIGHT NOW, we're somewhat separated but we're trying to blend those into one another," he said. "We're finally getting our feet-on the ground and going. In 1979, Northside Presbyterian Church on Broad- way became a "more light" church, a term used to describe a church which is open to gay members, ac- cording to Cleve Qvans of Presbyterians for Lesbian/Gay Concerns. "The church is open to full membership of all people of any sexual orientation without having to deny or hide it," Evans said. THERE HAVE been few problems between the gay and straight members of the congregation although Evans added, "There have been a couple of people who haven't quite understood the stand the church has taken." In addition to services for gays, a support group is now available for the parents and friends of gays. The group, which was formed in March, meets once a month at the First Methodist Church on S. State Street. According to members, this type of group was sorely needed in the Ann Arbor area. "I was sur- prised that a community with as much diversity as Ann Arbor didn't have a parent support group," one member said. The group's meetings, which are attended by both mothers and fathers, revolve around small group and panel discussions, and guest speakers, including psychiatrists and social workers. Watch Repair,,Batteries, Watchbands, Ring Sizing, Clasps, Stone Replacement, Soldering, Re-Stringing, etc. FXIe Need to escare? -Recreate After one month at the University, students begin to realize that they must -evote much of their time to their studies. What they must also realize is that all work and no play not only makes Jack a dull boy, but a flabby one, too. Never fear. There is an unending supply of recreation outlets at the University and in Ann Arbor all year long, most of which are free. No matter what's your pleasure, you'll find it here. So you have no excuse for not getting, enough exercise. THE UNIVERSITY Department of Recreational Sports offers students the chance to participate in a wide variety of sports. The Intramural Sports Program offers competitive sports and other recreational activities for teams and individuals. The department also sponsors the Sports Club program, consisting of more than 35 sports clubs ranging from sailing to lacrosse that compete against schools both in the Midwest and around the country. Four University buildings house the University's recreational facilities: the Central Campus Recreation Building, on Washtenaw and Geddes; the In- tramural Building, on Hoover near State Street; the North Campus Recreation Building, on Murfin and Hubbard; and the Sports Coliseum, at S. Fifth Avenue and Hill. THE FACILITIES available at these buildings include swimming pools, courts for basketball, volleyball, tennis, handball and squash, weight rooms, running tracks, and saunas, to name a few. Reservations must be made for many of these, but there is no charge for their use. For fair weather play, the Ann Arbor area offers a number of parks and fields. One of the most convenient is Palmer Field, which sits below the Hill Anr... i n nn a.- .-. :a t_ _nran - +w ^I __ __ l. courts, a field games area, and 10 soc- cer fields. Nichol's Arboretum, more affec- tionately known as the Arb, is one of the most popular places in which students can commune with nature, throw around a frisbee, or mellow out. The 35 acres of sprawling hills, trees, and various other forms of foliage is also a favorite spot for winter sports, such as tobogganing and traying (tobogganing on dorm cafeteria trays). The main entrances to the Arb are off of Geddes Rd. and in back of Mary Markley Hall. One general warning about entering: it is easier to get in than out,, so if you plan on going exploring, plan on getting lost. FOR PRE-MEDS (and others so in- clined) there are three public golf courses in the area, One of these, located on Stadium Boulevard across from Crisler Arena, is run by the University. Leslie Golf Course, at 2120 Traver Rd., and Huron Hills, at the in- tersection of Huron Parkway and E. Huron River Drive, are both run by the city. When winter arrives, many neigh- borhood parks, including Fuller and Buhr Park, 2751 Packard Rd., freeze their grassy areas for skating rinks. In- door skating is offered at the Univer- sity's Yost Arena, on State Street, and at Ann Arbor's Veteran's Park, 2150 Jackson Rd. YOUR VISIONS FULL SERVICE PHOTO LAB We specialize in: custom color prints, custom b/w nrints .21/ hr Fktachrome slide nrnonpsinn slide