Page Ten THE MICHIGAN DAILY Friday, November 19, 1976 Page Ten THE MICHIGAN DAILY Friday, November 19; 1976 ot"Isj f 0o 0 r . rt4 F 310 MAYNARD WEEKLY SPECIALS TUESDAY: 1/2 price on beer 7 P.M.-1 1 P.M. WEDNESDAY: 12 price on beer & liquc 7 P.M.-14 P.M. FRIDAY: 15c Hot Dogs 2-5 P.M. Sun ago ir -Was fl;mm WINE WE, i~flr wk r,,-, Il " 5 r: st p Y t 4 F { fi Two 11 (Continued from Page 1) "The knowledge that I was going to be raped was one that first, it couldn't be happening. When you read about rape, it's something that happens to other people. It's like car accidents,! or being robbed or having can- cer. I'd never applied it to myj body before. "I FELT it was like a movie - a feeling of unreality. I kept expecting it to go away - that I'd wake up. Well, I knew I wouldn't wake up." Three days agoaMary's house- mate Jill was haunted by the same nightmare. Jill, who had a premonition all day long that she would be raped, was at- tacked in the same South Uni- versity and Oxford area. The rape occurred in the early eve- ning, unlike the rape of her friend which happened late at night. Jill was returning home from the library at 8 p.m. As she was one block past Angell Ele- mentary School, she heard steps behindhher and started screaming immediately. He came up from behind and cut her in the mouth with a knife. At this point she stopped screaming and he put his arms around her from the neck. Lat- er, Oxford residents said that they had heard the screams but ran looking for her in the wrong direction. HE TOLD me to take my oCal women I I tr -- i pants off but I tried to explain to him that he'd have to take his arms off me first. He said to do it anyway. I pulled my pants off to my knees. He was rubbing my left breast really hard." Then, he got on top of me. I tried to be nice and to get it over with." Pleading with him to stop she asked him if he | wanted some money and he said, "Just fuck." "At one point, he could not get it (his penis) in and asked me to do it. This is when I could have done something like jabbed him or squeezed his balls." HE REPEATEDLY asked her questions such as "Haven't you ever done this before" or, "Don't you like doing this?" She replied, "I can't because I'm tired, I'm bleeding. Please let me go." "He asked me two times to put my arms around him. I don't know why . . . He had his hands over my eyes and I asked him if I could tilt my head sideways because of the blood in my mouth and he said okay." Jill was also breathing veryy hard throughout the long fif- teen-minute ordeal and her at-' tacker told her to stop. It was' a good thing, she said, because she was hyperventilating. Finally, the man took her, money, leaving her with the words, "If you tell anybody, I'll kill you." Jill got up, dressed and ran to her Oxford home across the street. JILL'S resident director called the police and she went through the same police ques- tio -ing and 3-hour hospital stay as Mary. But there was an adled complication because Jill' was ovulating, a time in the menstrual cycle when women are most susceptible to becom- ing pregnant. The doctor ex- plained to her the different op- tions she had available to her to deal with an unwanted preg-; nancy,. '"I began crying hysterically for the first time." Jill said, looking back at her hospital ex- perience "What could be worse - not only being raped but I'm going to be pregnant too?" Unlike Mary, Jill did not feel her life was in danger. "I didn't resist at all except when I screamed. I just wanted to get it over with-I knew what he wanted and.it wasn't to kill me. I really didn't think that far ahead. I just tried to be! really nice and cooperative." BOTH WOMEN agreed thatt their previous sexual experi- ence with men 'prevented the rape from being a lot worse that it could have been. "I was; glad that I did have sex be-' fore. If I were a virgin, it! would have been traumatic." The lives of both Mary and Jill are returning to normal though they are still trying to get used to the idea that they were raped. % "How could I ever be like I{ was two days ago?" Mary said,: looking back to those days right after her rape. "How could' people look at me and not know? I felt no desire to do any- uiscUSS thing. I tried to forget it for three days then I realized it wasn't something you can for- get. Finally, I realized I had to resolvek it and face what had happened." JILL CAME to the same con- clusions. "I wasn't worried about dwelling on it. I wanted to go to class. It was a time problem," referring to the phone call with her parents the night of her rape. They asked her if she wanted them to come to Ann Arbor from her Kala- mazoo home and she said no. "The rape was over. It only took fifteen minutes and I did not want to go through the has- sle of being comforted and go- ing to the police. I knew that people cared about me and I didn't need anything else. I didn't want people to feel sorry for me." But the doubt and anxiety continues to persist in their minds. Should I have resisted" more? Should I have tried to get away? "I STARTED feeling guilty that I could have prevented the rape", Jill explained. "I. was doubting myself. Who's really sick - me or the rapist? I probably would have gotten it worse - but what is more im- portant - maintaining my body or giving in?" The image of the rapist looms in their minds as they live their day to day lives - whether it be while riding a campus bus or being stopped onthe street by someone who needs direc- tions. NEW GIANT 7 FT. T.V. for viewing your favorite televised sporting events NO COVER 310 MAYNARD/ rapes "Rape is one of the worst things but I don't hate the per- son for it. I. just hate the cir- cumstances. I don't hate the rapist who's running around. I just hate what he's doing. I do't think it's his fault - something else was causing him to do it. MARY and Jill both had to reassure their parents more than they needed reassurance themselves. "I was telling her it was okay, Mary explained, referring to the visit she had with her par- ents the day after her rape. "My father, who is very reserv- ed, and never one to show emotion, started to cry. He said, It may be okay for me, but it's not okay for you."' Both women expressed ap- prehension about telling the men they are seeing about the rape. Jill's roommates advised her not to tell her boyfriend of two months because he might walk out on her. But she did anyway and is glad. "HE WAS in shock the first five minutes and then depress- ed after that. He said he had alternated between feeling mad and depressed and feeling hap- py - happy because he rea- lized how much he loved me- and that's exactly what I want- ed to hear." Mary has decided not to tell the man she is dating for the time being. "I'm going to have to see how I'm going to react to sex. If I am acting adverse- ly, then I'll have to tell him. I'm not in any rush to resolve it. The time will come." As Mary looks back to that Tuesday three weeks ago, she gives some words of advice. "Walk in the middle -of the street. I wasn't even aware that he was behind me. Be aware- look around. If you think some- one is following you, either run or go to the nearest lighted house. If he does move toward you, scream - don't wait to see if he grabs you. "If I had a dollar for every time my mother said don't walk home alone at night, I'd be rich. It went in one ear and out the other. Listen to your moth- er. Mothef does know best." EUsi*~a.,: Um .A C But our goldsmiths can! Our hand-hammered masterpieces in 14 karat yellow gold, to highlight today's fashion emphasis on careful detail. A. Cuff bracelet, $225. B.16" necklace, $125. C. Hoop earrings, $95. Something Beautiful for Everyone., Lay Away now! Or use our convenient char plans. Also. American Express. BankAmericard, Maser charge I' FRYE BOOTS GUYS and GALS Our great western boot takes to the wide open - spaces of town, country or campus. Frye does it in leather inside and out. Just what your jeans need < at a price you needn't r' worry about. That's FRYE n < THE BEST SELECTION IN TOWN AT THE MOST REASONABLE PRICES MAST'S SHOES 217 S. MAIN 619 E. LIBERTY, 662-6326 662-0266 R ESTAURA NT 215 N. Main @ 663+7758 W kZ KA Fine Jewelers Since 1861 Briarwood Mall - Ann Arbor Also Detroit - Saginaw "Now, every time I see a black man, I think of it. It' bothers me to be physicallyI close to a black man. I don't want to deal with any black men at all-I don't want to' touch them or look at them. I don't feel it as strongly as I did three weeks ago but the feeling is still there. But Jill said that she does not .hate her rapist. "I just fig- ured he was sick and there was nothing I could do. Even' though he was holding a knife . to my throat, I felt he was be- ing as nice as he could," she said. 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