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I Dear Erik: 'Ho w
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DcarTeni,
Pi of alii am glad that you
are enjoyiag the column and I
hope . bas been of some
beadit to you. You can tell him
you feel and at the same
find out bow he feels about
you, but that uld be obvious.
In order to have a closer,
relati . p, both of you must
want· aDd rk to keep it close.
JUdging by your letter your
friend Is to keep your invol
vement � light. Perhaps you
d see other men at least
until you find Mr. Right
8e5t of luck,
Erik Washington
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them.
S' <%rely,
Erik W iogton
Got (l ptrJbIem? Need 1M
tIIISWD'? Or do just WGPIt to
III/Jc 1 TIem ..w to EriJc
Waslainston in aile of The
Michigan Cilizen, P.O. Box
03560, HiFiIInd PaIIc, MI
48203 or to 'De .. Erik, Minick
Mile SUItiota, P.O. Box 36a24,
Los Angtelu, CIL, 90036
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If you are to send mesages to your former
go thr a separation or spouse.
dMJrce receody, you are going - Do
through a· period of d- the other pare
justDICnt - and so are your childre
children. A clear, common- - Do D CIlUClIftII
sense pamphlet published what they should think or feel
recently by the American Men-., - Do CBUClftD
tal Health Counselors Associa- I to take si
tlon points out important ways
you can help your childre cope
with . diffiaJ chaoge:
- Re e r t at y ur
C I still need to love and
feel loved by both of their
parents.
Ke.l1IS lare y Catldlftll
that you will always be their
parent
it dear to that
the divorce is an adult proble
and that they were not the cause.
- Allow y CbUCltre.
to express their feeliDgs about
twhat h happened I"
I - Try to keep many of the
s m household routines that
existed before the divorce or
separation.
- OfI'er C eire COlll-
fort, warmth, and support,
- Make sure that your
childr n's teachers, doctors,
baby' sitters, and other adults
they know weU are aware of
what h s happened
- As far you are able to,
tell your children the truth
about the divorce. Encourag
and answer clearly th que
tion that th y have.
to yoUr fa
and u pport groups for
Take care of yourself and ur
own well-being.
- Do ot
Dear Angry,
Guilt· a tate of mind you
Dear Gr ddaugbter, needn't endure you know
Both you and your mother that its your best Your mother
should talk ·tb the doctor, in-la' wrong in trying to get
is treating your grandmother ·you to oonform to her y of
about her medication. There is thinking and doing. Her
every possibility that your weapons are the guil trips thus
grandmother has misre d the she hopes to mot.iw e you to do
directions d could be taking what she believes i right. You
too much of her medication. As • and your husand must decide
quite often happe the elderly wh is right or wrong for your
do not have a norm&l tolerana: family and once you have, the e
'for medication. It can build up is no reason to feel guilty for ac-
in their bodies to a dangerous ling in manner considered im
levels. According to doctors, proper by someone else' stand
remini cing can be very' ards, You are a human being
theraputic and can help get her and you must accept fact
out of bee depress' • that you ar� not perfe Ther-
Best Always,
Erik Washington
DID YOU OW I ..
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� __ C de in your
childre or use them ub
stitutes for your adult friends or
former spo
- Do C • elren
i id of fights with your
former spouse.
_. In addition to these basic
do's and don't' , this useful
pamphlet desaibes the normal
reactions you can expect from
your children during the divorce
or separation process. It tells
you warning signs to look for
that many indicate more serious
problems. It lists useful boo
for both parents and children.
For a free copy of this brochure,
send a stamped, self-addressed
envelope to: Divorce Pamphlet,
Center for. the Changing Fami
ly, 109 Willett Avenue, Port
Chester, NY 10573.
Marian Wright Edelman is
President of the Children'
Defense Fund, Q national voice
for children.
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