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for the dance,
ha do I do?"
OUT OF YOUR SHElLL
. . . I
front of you. Release all of your
pent-up frustrations by scream
ing, shouting and criticizing
them for intimid ting you and
putting fear into your life. Ad
dress each 0 e individually, in
your imagination, and tell them
exactly wh t you have always
wanted to ay to them.
Here is an example: "All of
my life yo hav criticized me
but I won't let you do it anymore.
Get out of my life because I am
sick or you. You h ve lied about
my weaknesses just to ma e
yourself feel good. You have
taken advantage of me. But I am
going to do everything that you
said I couldn't do, I am going to
d it, now, and I don't care wha
you think about it.
"Last wee you told me that
I couldn't get the company to
hire me but I will get them to give
me a job and I want you to mind
your stupid business. You told
me that I couldn't play any
sports but I am going to practice,
ge myself in shape and learn
everything there is to know
�bout tennis or karate. And I
don't care t you or anybody
else think abou it I am going to
stop letting anybody teU me what
I can or cannot do. I'll be the
. judge of my own . e and I am
going to succeed. No 0 e will
ever agam ab me or hold me
bac.
No , get out of my life.
Watch me succeed"
By Dr. Charles W. Faulkner
'Dear Dr. Faulkner. The (U
ticl« that you have written about
how to use psycholo(y 10 get
pepple to buy thih&r [rom you
� fascitulting. I am going to
stII1t my own businus IIIId I wiU
be selling merchandise right from
my home. How can I use psychol
ogy to get people to buy from me
and get rid of my inhibitions?
How caryl become � aggru-
sivet �tra, Ml .w
Dear Dietra; In order to get
your business off to a flyins start
you must break out ofyourlsbell
so that you can have e con
fidence that you need and you
must learn the psychological
"tricks of the trade" that you
I need to m e people want your
product. I
H to Brea Out of Yo
ell. Think of all th negative
factors in your life that scare
you. Think of all the negative
people in your life who have
been holding you back. Write
· these items on a list. Now go to a
place where you will have com
plete privacy and can shout to "
· the top of your voice.
Imagine that each person
holding you bac is tanding in
JackllOL
Dear 'Doris',
You can go to 'Ralph' d let
him kno very special this
dance is to you. Let him know
that your family has offered to
drive the two of you to and from
the dance. .
You can also tell him that be
cause you have as ed him to the
dance, that you would be
honored if he would allow you to
pay fo the evening's "expenses.
Ask him to think abbout it
and to give you a call the next
day. This is another way of giving
him your telephone number and
asking him to call you. If he
doesn't feel right about it, then
don't press him. Tell him that
you understand and that you are
sorry he coudn't make the
dance, however, there can be
other dates.
This is a wonderful way for
you to get to know each other.
Invite him to your home to meet
your parents. Please let me
know ho it turns out.
Sincerely,
Erik W hlngton
DID YOU OW.. that ac
cording to recent study left-
· handers tend to be more sensi
. tive to drugs than right-handed
people. Left-hander had the
strongest reaction to pirin, an
ti istamines and antidepres
sants.
Need advice? got a question?
Contact Dr. Faulkner, P.O. Box
50016, Washignl01l, DC 200fH.
1515 BROAD\NAV
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paid the rent in our apartment
because he couldn't or wouldn't
hold a job. He also became in
volved in selling drugs. I didn't
want to be a part of that no mat
ter ho mall a part. I n r told
any of this to my family because
I felt it none of their busi
ness. The problem that I am DOW
having with my family' th t they
are still seeing my ex-boyfriend.
He goe over to their home
whenever he feels like. My
mother has cooked dinner for
him on several occasions, this is
omething that he has never
done fo my husband and me.
My h band is uncomfortable
whenever he is around my fami
ly beca they are always talk
ing bout bow wo derfuJ my'er
is. I have ed my mother DOt to
do this b t ." changed.
Also I don't like the f that he
ill visi my family aod teUs
them still cares me .
. do)lOU • I oukl do?
ewty, Married,
P . p�
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Thursday I Sunday
$8.00 Advance
$9.50 AI Door
Friday I urd Y
$10.00 Advance
$11.50 At Door
Curtain .8:00 p.m.