Dear Erik,
A few days ago I received a
letter from an old roommate.
We re never close when e
lived together and we parted on
bitter terms. That some five
ago and I had almost for­
gotte i. Then the letter came
nd stirred m y memorie .
M of them were very nega­
tive. The letter was an apology
for the y I was treated by her
and our other roommate. She
went on to y that she had tried
to reach me several times during
the p five year but was never
successful. I became very up et
if the incident had happened
only yesterday. My husband
thinks I should answer her letter
and ccept her feeble apology,
then go on with my life. I don't
. want to answer the letter or talk
with her over the phone. I think
it would be phoney of me to
answer her and accep her apol­
ogy.Well?
O.M.,
Comp on, Calif.
DEAR ERIK,
I read your column every
week and I feel that you are
doing a very good job. I especial­
ly enjoy reading letters from
men who are having problems
with their mates. Your answe
have been precise and helpful to
me in my relationship. Much of
your dvice has helped to main­
tain my two year old relation­
ship. It's my tum to write you
no . My boyfriend feel in­
secure and quite often· jealous
whenCYer I see my male friends.
I love these men brothers and
dear friends. Being with them
gives me a chance to confide my
fears, dreams and hopes. I tell
them about my relationship and
they in turn tell me about theirs.
To them I am their younger
sister. I can't and won't give
them up. I need them in my life
just as I need my boyfriend Yet,
I don't know ho to make him
understand my feelings.
P.R.,
Brooklyn, New York
Dear P.
Its almo t onder tandable
th t your boyfriend ould have
feell of being left out and
Jealousy. If you go to your
friend with all of your con­
cern ,hopes and problems than
at re you aharin th lllin?
Is It beea you don't feel that
e nsltlve enoug to under­
tand and appredate 1OU' and
your co cerna? Trust h to be
part of the foundatlo ofyoor
relatlo hlp, tho t It 70 will
belntroub
Itch?
ByDr.C
if she approaches you, you will
embarrass her.
Making eye contact is next.
Imagine how you feel when a
young lady in whom ou are in­
terested smiles at you and 100
you in the eye. That obviously
ys, '1 like you. Please come
over and introduce yourself.·
Doesn't this make you feel
great? It h the same effect
upon the young lady.
When you do pproach her,
do 10 with an air of confidence,
congeniality and careCreen .
This is � with you f cing
her squarely, at an angle,
and not with hesitation. As you
face her directly, establish
andmaintain the smiIc and eye
contact, and lean gently in her
direction. This indicates interest
and friendlin
Next, extend your hand in
greeting while introducing your-
elf, today, it is considered
proper for the man to extend his
hand to the lady first. It really
lets her kno that you a nice
guy and have a sincere desire to
very safe treatment.
4) Can yo e be hyp-
notized? Ye Any normal
person can be hypnotized.
Hypnosis is similar to the
normal condition of daydream­
ing that everyone experience.
S) Is hypno . p? o.
Hypnosis is a condition of
deep relaxation which is me­
where between being wide
awake and asleep. Some sub­
jects may drift off into sleep
a the direct result of feeling
deeply relaxed but the wake
up, shortly, feeling terrific.
6) Can I be hypnotized
ithout my kno led ? The
honest answer is yes becau
hypnosis i such a normal
condition. Montonous sounds,
soft pu ic, slick commercials,
no algic memories, long auto
trip and even a gentle mas­
sage can induce deep relaxa­
tion and concentration - the
ingredients of daydreamin and,
thus, hypnosi .
7) Can I be mad to do
yth· g ttl ould not nor-
mally do, I am hypno-
tized? Again, the hone
answer is ye. However, a
trained profe tonal provide r­
vices of high-integrity to help
you ccomplish the goals that
you desire. Your tru is im­
portant.
8) ill I re eal
penonal bu'
under hypn .?
very fe people talk
are under hypno .
9) Can. peno f
e up from hyp 0 • ? 0
one fails to come out of the
hypnotic condition becau it is
little more than deep, relaxing
of my
I
get ot know her better. Compli­
ment her ( that is a lovely dress
you are wearing).
Once the conversation is ig­
ni ed display interest while she
answers your question. As you
tal , keep your hands away
from your face, do not Q'OSS your
arms or legs, gesture with your
hands, do maintain eye contact,
keep smiling, keep leaning
slightly forward, show interest
and curiosity, be enthusiastic,
and show vitality.
At a party, 100 for receptive
faces (&I ys with a smile and a
friendly, enth • tic expression
on your face). When you spo a
receptive individual pproach
her and introduce yourself. Be
confident and take a risk. As you
practice, you will become better
and better, and your life will be
filled with friendly people
whom you made happy by saying
"hello" first.
Dr. Faulkner can be reached
at P.O. Box 50016, Washington,
DC 20004.
daydreaming. If the hypnoti
were to le ve the room bile
you are hypnotized, you might
open your eye immediately
feeling great, or drift off into
eep from which you ould
ortly awaken, feeling wonder­
ful.
10) Ho Ion ill • lUII�t
ion , after the hypo . .
o e ? gge ion will la for
a eek a year, or forever. It
all depend upon ho badly
you want to accompli your
goal and how much you are
willing to crifice to change-
your habit.
11 ) Wh t can hypoo'
bel me to ccompli ? I u
hypnosis regularly to help tea-
. chers, hou ive , doctor, u-
dent thlete and people from
all alk of life to be more
confident, get rid of s re ,
1 weight, top smo ing, be
more a rtive udy better,
p better and be healthier,
happier human beings.
o r Eric:.
'I got a Istter ... II
·Dear Dr. FauIJcnu:
I want very, very, very badly to
meet nice ladies but don't exactly
know how to do it. Can you give
me some advice, please? Mr. S.
Milwaukee.-
Dear Mr. S.:
I have writen recent column
about the proper thiDgs you
should say to a potenti I
partner. Two-thirds of the com­
munication that you make with
the opposite sex is done without
a word being spoken. Non-ver­
bal communication conveys
more than anything that you
could possibly say.
Most important is that you
appear friendly, easy to com­
municate with, and unlikely to
reject the youug lady if she takes
the chance to repond to your ef­
forts. Ho do you do this? You
smile, or least, have a pleasant
100 on your face. A frown will
categorize you unfriendly and
will tell you the young lady that
By Dr. Charles W. FauDmer
1 W t' hyp ? Hyp-
no' is a 'temporary state of
iller t is
quite a bit like daydreaming.
Hypnosi require only con­
centration and relaxation. You
feel relaxed, confident and have
ne habit, when the hypnosis
end.
2) Ho does one
ood hypnothenp' ? 0 t
good hypnotists are also know­
ledgeable counselor or trained
psychologists. Contact your
psychological association for a
referral or get referral from a
tisfied cu orner.
3) hypno' dan ro ?
Ute everything else, it can be
dangerous in untrained hands.
A trained profe . nal provides.
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