Dear
Dear Erik,
I have been readin your
column for Q er a year and I
feel that you are doing a on­
derful job. This is the fir t time
that I h ve ever written to you.
For th 1 st five or six months
I have been ing girl. Its
not real relation ip yet be-
cau ys that she likes
thing ju t the w y they are.
o of the time we spend at
r apartment or if we go �ut,
it very late in the evenmg.
She Is ery nice to me but she
ha told me veral times that
i not ready for anything
I he vy. I have gone along w ith
verything that she ha said �r
anted in hope that e will
change' h r mind. I don't like
living like this. I need me. ne
to call mine. I want a relation­
ship very badly. I would . like to
et married h pefully ith her
family. I d n't ll e living
ay nd I d n t like being
on and waitin for her to call
me jf and hen e feel H e
co�pany. I d what I
can do no
R.B.
Roan ke
irginia
cans were very funny. I enjoyed
them becau they all had
great sen of humor. This is
thank you letter to you for
making your column light and
breezy that week. It was a wel­
come change. I look forward
to reading you next week.
Mr . Louise Ca n,
Brooklyn, e York
Dear Erik,
I recently met an older man,
whom I wa very attr cted to.
I'm sure he was feeling the
same way becau he was very
kind and attentive to me all
evening. I later found out
that he wa married but I was
told by a friend that he and hi
wife are parated. I don't
believe in going out with
married men, however this man
and his wife are not together.
According to my friends a
divorce may on be on th
ay. ould I be rong to call
him up?
Single
Long Beach
Young,
alifornia,
De Sing),
You ouldn't be
call him but you
on nd fooli to beli e
e erything you he . When you
t with him find out for
you If what hi m ital tu
i Don't be fraid to be open
and hone ith him bout
your feelin It very
impo�nt that you enco
him to be open and hone
ith you. B on that infor-
mation nd the both of your
emotional feel in ,you m be
bl to mea und and
intelli nt deci . n.
key to any kind of relation­
.p with thl man . total
hone y.
Sincerely,
Erik W ington
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s everybody crazy?
By Dr. mies w. F.
I e met m y lICI"4e1W�
up people that my aue .....
everybody crazy?
T Fla."
You have a ed a very pro­
found question, even if you
ed it with "tongue in
chee ."
From a profe ional point
of view, word crazy i Idom
u d bee u it is too general
and " in fact, colloquial.
Professional behavior] t prefer
to identlfy a specific problem
that a person is having with
respect to his/her behavior. The
que ion might be put this way:
, hat i the per n doing that
ems to be unusual or different
from what most other people
do?" The companion question
is, "What is your evidence to
support this?" .
When those two questions
are answered, we can charac­
terize or pu t a label on the
behavior. For instance, a per n
who lac confidence and is
nervous in certain Ituations
might be neurotic jf the be­
h vior i present in most of
their activitles. 0 people
re neuroti to some e tent,
this is what we consider
normal behavior. One should
ek counseling if the neurosis
make it difficult to conduct
normal activitles.
Let's suppo that a person
talks aloud in public or appears
to try to conver with a non­
existent entity· or constantly
complains of people following
and threatening physical harm'
or, has periods of prolonged
depression followed by unpre­
dictable periods of great
plea ure; or, cannot distinguish
between· fantasies dreams. facts
and reality. This per on is
probably psychoti and require
medicine and long-term c un l­
ing.
ow that we have pre. nted
a little background let s be
preci in responding to your
quest jon. If we defin ,. razy"
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meaning unab to or losing
the ability to) cope with a
major aspect of their lives: or,
unable to function in their
daily activities due to their
inability to resolve their per­
sonal problem - we. could
justify the vie that most
people are so afflicted. For­
tunately there are some • nor­
mal" people left so it might be
inaccurate to 1 bel everyone as
'cracy." I
All emotional problems
app ar to gro out of the
negative opini ns that people
have of themselves. This i
kno n as the negative self-
image hich each of us has t
some e tent and has .cau d
pe ple to I the de he to com­
pete or even to live. any
people vie them lve� as ne-
tive incompetent failures or
ju t plain 'n -g od' hen, in
fa t th Y uld do nearly any­
thing th t any ne uld do jf
th Y w uld ha e th nfi­
den e to ju t try.
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