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When it' a fast and health­
ful main dish you are looking
for, ir-frying i for you. Stir-
frying i healthy ay to
prepare deliciou meal in
minute b cau vegetable coo
quickly to a tender-crisp texture
and bright color. This rapid
coo . 8 method preserve
nutrient and, b ause there is
no cooking liquid to drain off,
mo of the important vitamins
and mineral are retain d. In
addition, very small amounts
of coo ing oil are used, meat
de elops a rich, natural flavor.
This m el for nutrient­
p ed di that is not only
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fat ell. Whether you stir­
fry in.. ok (the traditional
C illet) or a 1arJe frying
tl are the e.
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Heat oil in a illet or wo
over high he t; dd beef and
scallions and saute 2 minutes.
Pu beef to 'de of illet.
Sprinkle with soy uce. Stir
in vegetable and water. Bring
to a boil over medium heat,
parating vegetables with a
fork and tirring frequently
until sauce cube are blended.
Reduce heat, cover and immer
3 minutes. Makes about 3-*
cup or 3 rving.
Suggestion: Serve over Crisp
oodle Pancake.
CRISP OODLE PANCAKE
2 tablespoons oil
4 ounces Ronzoni fideo coo­
ed and drained
(2 cup )*
* Or use Ronzoni thin spaghetti.
Heat oil in large met.
Spre noodle evenly in illet
and brown lightly, without stir­
ring, over medium heat. Turn
in one piece and brown on
other side. Place on platter and
keep WHm. (Do not cover.)
ake 3 or 4 rving
F or each of 3 individual
panc es, heat scant tablespoon
oil in S-inch skillet; and 2/3
cup cooked noodle and brown
a directed.
CRUNCHY SPANISH SALAD
* cup Po t natural bran flake
2 tablespoons butter or mar­
garine
2 t blespoons grated Parmesan
ch se ,.
4 ounces fresh inach leaves,
tom into pieces
all onion, iced
cup prep red Good Seasons
ela 'c herb salad dressing
ute cereal in butter in
illet until lightly browned.
Remove from heat; add. chee .
Cool.
Place spinach and onion in
bo l: chill. Just before rving,
dd salad dressing and cereal
mixture and to lightly. Make
3 servings.
Cry for help .
leads to book on 'Man Sharing'
By Henry Duvall
In 1982, Audrey B. Chap­
man, a Howard University
family therapist, began to won­
der if the phenomenon of
American women sharing men
with other women was becomin
a growing reality.
She had been hearing stories
for several years about married
and single women - Blac and
white - who were facing thi
dilemma. Many of the unwitting
victims thought they had one­
on-one relationships.
Then one day a dejected
28-year-old ingle woman walk­
ed into the Howard University
Counseling Service so distraught
that she wa on the verge of
committing suicide. "For me,
this was a major turning point,"
Chapman recalls.
The young woman's cry for
help prompted the therapist to
launch a 'man-sharing" work­
shop in 1983 to find out how
widespread and ex tensive these
relationships were. More than
100 women representing a di­
versity of ethnic groups, showed
up.
ow the nationally kno n
figure on male-female relation­
ships has written a book," an
Sharing: Dilemma or Choice"
published by William Morrow
&Co.
It gre out of Chapman's
finding that man sharing is a
national phenomenon, partly
becau of a shortage of eligible
men, declining commitments to
la ting relationships, and the
fear of intim y between the
sexes, she indicate .
" ot all women are going
to have mate, not even if
every available man were willing
to commit himself," Chapman
note in the book. "... If
e ch of them stood up and
ed for one all to herself,
one quarter would be left
standing - as if in the adult
version of mu 'cal chairs."
, omen in America need to
wake up," she declares, point­
ing out that the book will
"help omen to face a reality
that will reduce depre 'on and
enable them to take better
care of them fves,"
Chapman, who claims she
wa a victim of man sharing
her lf, proclaims in an inter­
vie , "I know what their pain
is! I've been there."
''This book i abou t self­
empowerment for American
women," she stresses at a
recent book reception in her
honor at the ational Pre
Club in Washington. "The
thing I want most for omen
in America is that they learn to
respect and love them lves,"
Chapman's man-sharing or­
shop at How rd three years
ago catapulated her into the
national limelight. Since then,
she has conducted some 20
workshops nationwide and has
appeared on televi ion program
such a the "Phil Donahu
Show," "Hour agazine" and
most recently "The Human
Animal " a documentary hosted
by Donahue. She also h s ,
her own talk show "Relating,"
on Howard's commercial radio
station, WHUR-FM.
While interviewing omen
aCTOS the country for her fir
book, the therapist discovered
a small number of women
who perceive man sharing "a
a choice and not a dilemma.'
The women are not readily
affected by the "male shortage,
lack of commitment or social
games," she emphasizes. They
have figured out a way to deal
with today's social condition
minimizing the hassles in re­
lationships.
characteristic of omen who
share by choice is their will­
ingne to ignore society's
myth about female sexuality"
sh says "as they ek ful­
fillment in many uncoventional
liaisons with the oppo He sex,"
Chapman describes the
woman of choice as today's
"e Woman." The ew
Woman is likely to b 3S years
or older, 'ogle or divorced,
well-educated a middle-class
professional, assertive very sure
of her If and one who can be
happy ith a "cadre of friends,"
"The woman of choice
doesn't have time to sit around
and wait for someone.l'says
Chapman. 'She makes life
M SHARING - At W on book reception, Ho d Uni-
versity family tberapi t Audrey B. Chapman' auto aph
Calling them "women of The family therapist's bro-
choice,"Chapman notes in the ther, Thomas W. Chapman, says
boo : 'omen of choice that his sister "has put the ball
don't allow anyone to decide in the women's court. ow
what' best for them. They they have to respond to it ...
enjoy decision making about work for her rather than being
their own lives and are govern- victimized by life."
ed only by tho rules that "I think the book i going
make n to them and for to rally a lot of bitter feelings
them." of women who have shared
Chapman provides a set of men," the hospital admini rator
guidelines in the book she dds, applauding his sister for
calls the "principles of choice." her courage at the first of
A number of single women, veral man-sharing book recept-
particularly 35 and older, are ions schrduled around the
realizing that they have "power nation.
in numbers" by multiplying And Chapman note that the
social relationships with men, women who react with the most
Chapman points out. They have anger are the ones who "need
found that they can have simul- the fantasy that all of their
taneous relationships with men relationship ill be monogam-
for a variety of reason ous. Thus, they u denial as
They can be tennis p rtners, a way of defending against
escorts, telephone pals or lover . thi a ful reality."
"This a Ia carte method allow Chapman's mother, Alice L.
you some flexibility with your Chapman, ho i ac nowledged
social relations with men.t'she in .the book for her inspiration
writes. say of her daughter, "Maybe'
"Perhaps the mo significant she can help a few women."
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