JUNE 1 - 7, 1986 THE CITIZEN Erik Washington Dear Erik, y hu band nd 1 have moved to wonderful apart­ ment. I am p ying the r III b I am th one who want­ ed to move and b cau my hu band has had a hard time getting ork. I don't have any problem dealing with th t at all. H buy all of the food and pays the other bills with his own money. I don 't really que t­ ion him bout where h gets the money. But h t I don't like are hi friend. They are com­ mon reet peopl th t h gre up ith and I have never liked them. There is a doorman in my building and of c ur II vi . or must b announced nd wh n the doorman call d me t tell me that tho p opl w re in th lobby and w nted to eom up to e my husband. I. said that he wasn't in. Later my hu band' call friends call d nd told my hu band that I wouldn't even Itt them in and th t they new that he wa hom . y husband was v ry up t with me. But I don't like the people and I won't h v them in my h me. 0 matter what. Mrs. XX, pring/su Chicago Ill. I Dear rs, XX, If you feel that ongly bout it then the pe n you really ould be talking with i your hu d. E plain to hi ho you feel about 'tho people". Remember e ery cou- ple the right to maintain their 0 'd�idual friend. It ould be for you to your hu to' e up hi boyhood friends all to ther. Perh p the two of you can out m typ of com- prom th t will m e the both of you h py. I ay W ington DarEn For . months I as going with a man whom I cared about very deeply, I thought 1 wa falling in love with him and when I told him how I was feeling he told me that he was eing another om an. He said that the other woman really understood and loved him. He said that he re lly wanted to be with hr. I was so hurt that 'I ju t broke down and cried. 1 a ked him for anoth r ch nee and he told me no! Over the past fe w eks I have written him 18 letter and numerous. phone calls and I have gotten o answer from him at all, He won't e m or talk with me. friend of mine told me ab ut a woman who can bring your man back to you for orne money. I'm willing to pay anything to get him back but I am afraid to do this, What should I do? J.P. San Francis 0 Calif. Dear J.P., I think you need to Ope and thi about what you e do' to you f. Realize that the relation . i 0 er and that you can d ould mea ne IKe for you Let go of the pa and cone D­ trate on the pre nt nd th future. Til man i no Ion r intere ed in you and it ould be wa e of your ood time and money to try and t him back through chann tea Ie v and whoo doo. Try bein kinder to you If .J forget· th' man. Give your If time and perh p you can ing meon ne and er fashion on who de rve you! E' W Dear Erik Let me be honest with you and your readers. I come from a simple back ground and a poor family. I am the only per n in my family who has ever finished high hool and business school. But I am till learning a lot. I have a very good job and ju a fe days ag my boss too me ou t to dinner. I t was the fir t time that I have ever been in a fancy restaurant. I was a little afraid and I'm sure that I m de a few mistakes. My date ordered the food for me I didn't like it but I ate it!). I really wanted me­ thing else to eat but I as afraid to say mething because I didn't want him to think that I didn't have any manners. Was I right or wrong? Trying To Do Right Jackson is. Dear Trying It is n er con' ered d manner to order for your If. Or K you are lettin your dinner p er ord r for you then let bm GO hat you ant or di e. What' con­ , ered bad manne i for your : can be w rn However oman with cardigans they also make a short waist look longer. A little shoulder padding helps balance hips. 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