AY 11 - 17, 1986 THE CITIZEN
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rik Wa hing_t.on
Dear Erik,
All of my adult life I h ve
b n with on man. There
have been good and bad tim s
with thi man, but no matter
h t the p bl m sIs
alw ys there for him. Twice
I ve found out he wa ing .
other women. Wh n I told him
th t I knew ab ut the women
all h said a" hat"!
This ent on for a long time and
I too all of it. We are divorced
now b cau he wanted to
marry another woman, who was
younger than me. That was
three year ago and he is ill
married to that me 'youn er
woman'. However he arted
calling me again, h say that
h still loves and want me
but he won't ave his wife.
H made th t v ry cl ar and
do n't really want to talk
about it anymor. I gu s I
ill love him bu t I kno how
hi wife mu feel. But e took
him from me and sometime
I feel that I shou d do the same
to her. Th n ain I don't
know what I should do.
F.A.,
Orlando, Florida
ould be red ced to a leCond
po ·OOn. Remember ho bad
y felt hen you ere married
to hi he in other
women. There· no need for
you to try to retuni the p .
that you felt, I'm t t
been II·
h . ni
to do .
tho man.
Dear Erik,
I h ve a problem dealing with
my roornma e. He date a lot
of different girls and he alway
bring th J1l home with' him.
The problem with that is that
we share a one bedroom apart-
. ment. If I am home and in bed
h will me to give up the
b droom to him and his lady.
It make no difference to him
if I am eep or not. Also it
ems that I do all of the work
around the apartment, we were
sharing it at one time. He's a
nice guy and all and I don't
want to give you the wrong
impre ion. But I hav paid his
share of the rent and he has
prom to pay me back and so
far he hasn't. This has happen
twice, when I bring up the
subject he ys he will pay me
soon. I have talked ·th him
but it doesn't em to do any
god. I don't know what el
to do.
W�am K tlin,
n the Service
avy Ensign DO ill E.
HART , n of Dr. and
r. Ed rd J. Hartmann of
1503 cademy St., alamazoo,
MI, w design ted a val
Aviator. Pre ntation of the
• ing of Gold" marked cul­
min tion of 18 months of
flight trainin .
A 1976 gradu te of n-
John R. Hac ett High
chool, alamazoo, I, and a
1982 gr du it of Florida t­
lantic University, Boca Raton,
FI with a Bachelor of Arts
Degree, he joined the avy in
July 1984.
avy Seaman Recruit BILLIE
ORRI�, IOn of BOO A.
orris Sr. of 2340 Seventh
St., egon Heights, MI, has
compl ted recruit training at
Re . it Training C mmand,
Great Lake ,IL.
A 1985 graduate of uske­
n Heights High -School, he
join the avy in January
1986
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Dear William,
Vou can f your money
and him to pay h'
on time. You can aI
y no to him bout . ing up
the bedroom in the middle of
the night to him and hi lady.
If he doesn t nt to are th
o millf of th apartment
then you ould him to
Conquering Depression
leave. Your b choice m y
to find another roomm te or
live alone.
E' W
What should you do: Get
sufficient exercis , find out the
causes of your depression, stop
criticizing yours If, get involved
in meaningful activity, stay
'around people and do not i 0-
late yourself, use your tiale con­
structively - do not r� your
private time cause you gloom,
make thing ork for you,
refuse to give in to failure, plan
alternatives for whatever do s
not work, change your 0 n
moods by thinking bout sue­
cesse that you had, reliv the
happy moments in your life,
stop dwelling on your uncom­
fortable feelings, assert your-
elf, burn off your anger, fight
back at tho e ho abu you,
stop bemg a coward, realize
your personal lue, top put­
ting your If down, stop feeling
guilty, take chance even if suc­
cess is not guaranteed, give it a
try, anyho , get tough hen
problems confront you, don't
back down to hard times, don't
give in, establish a large but
reali tic goal in life and let noth­
ing dissuade you from fighting
to accomplish it, ubmerge
yourself in the things that you
want to obtain from your life
and keep plugging a ay to get
them in spite of obstacles,
replace the negative people in
your life with people who are
fair, honest, po itive and sup­
portive, don't let other people
dump their problems on you, if
you do not ant to hear orne­
one el e' problem, avoid
them. Depre ed are you? Then
enjoy the rest that moments of
depr ion force you to get,
enjoy the opportunity to re­
evaluate your life and get it back
on track.
Everyone can become dep­
ressed but not everyone does
b com depre ed. orne peo­
ple are sharp enough to ot the
early signs of depre ion and
take immediate step to counter
them. You can, too. If you are
depressed, follow the teps in
the above paragr ph now - and
atch the un hine in your
life.
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"Dear Dr. Faul nero
Something i rong ith
me. Something is happening
to my mind and body. Iud to
feel enthusiastic nd lively but
no I feel phJ� ically nd
emotionally eak, my energy
level i do n and I'm al y
leepy. For some reason I ju t
don't have any intere t in any­
thing anymore except my 0 n
problem . I am really u le . I
kno hat my problem are
but I can't get enthusia tic
bout doing anything. I feel
10 t, de rted, if I am all
alone. Life' 0 dis apointing
th t I really don't feel like get­
ting our of bed in the morning
even to eat. I'm 0 tired that I
could leep 24 hours a d y. Am
I ic am I going crazy, I or
hatl" B. J., H rtford, CT.
Dear B.}.:
You have the classical sym­
ptorns of depression. Perhaps if
you acalyzed your recent p t
you ould find something has
gone terribly in your life. Your
depression might be caused by
disappointment, frustration,
family/job problems, bills or a
combination of these dif­
ficultie . The depres ed person
yearns for someone to affirm
his/her value a human being;
he may desire omeone to take
care of hirn/h r; or may have
erious phy ical illne . Depre
ion is a ignal tha omething
is rong.
Depr ion is a feeling of
dne that may be caused by
10 of a loved one, anger that
has become internalized, 10 s of
elf-esteem, hame, extreme
feeling of guilt, loneliness,
negative expectations, self­
blame and self-criticism, and
perceiving oneself as personally
inadequate. Some depre ed
people contemplate suicide. .
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