OCTOBER 7 -13,1985 THE CITIZEN
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Erik Washington
Dear Erik,
I got a problem and I want
to fmd a lution befor I
go crazy or get really angry!
For the past nine week I have
been going out with the mo t
wonderful man. I mean the man
ha brains as well as good looks
plus a great sen of humor.
He treats me as if I were a royal
prince . Its good to be around
him becau he ha taught me
much. ow here is the
problem! He's a virgin!!! He
i 30 year old and he say that
he's waiting for the right woman
to marry. I wouldn't mind
being the r:ight woman', and I
much told him so. We can
ki and go to a certain point
but he will top if I start to get
to serious. I don t think that's
fair. I h ve even told him that
he could stay over but he al-
ways smiles and says no. J
don't know what to do and its
making me mad and frustrated.
'(;.",
Brooklyn, ew York
Dear "G.",
Becoming ngry i not oing
to Ive your problem ... so
try and relax. 1..00 at your
problem from another point of
vie , in today' society where
free love h run ue it'
refre ing to kno that there
are a fe people lookin to
m e life-long commitment.
Thi man h spent nine week
getting to kno you there .
every chance h m y be be­
eomin riou abou t your relat­
ion 'p. But you are' doubt
nd you need to find out from
him ho he feel about you.
Don't be raid to or let
him 0 your feelin . It
great that the two of you are
becoming friend fr·. All
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you are building a strong
foundation for good relat-
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Sincerely,
Erik Washington
Dear Erik
This is a mall problem and
I only need a little advice as
I already think I know what to
do. The woman that I am
going with told me recently
that she wanted a more open
relationship. Meanin that e'
should be free to go ou t with
other people! Whereas before
we only aw each other. I only
want a one on one relati n hip.
I don t want the freedom that
she wants to give me. I told her
that I would think about it and
her reply was' at there to
think about"?
Carl T. in
Roanoke Virginia
Dear Carl T.,
It ob iou that the t 0 of
you don't nt the same thing
in a relationship. nd t thi
time it und if e do
not want to be a part of ny­
thing that i too riou. I
think that you already kno
your ne t ep.
Be t of lue
Erik ington
- -' -Cot a problem? Or d
you just want to talk? Then
write to Erik Washington in ar
of this newspaper or to: V ar
Erik', Times Square Stat' n,
P.O. Box 755, ew Yor,
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Cont ends 5 p.m. October 9, 1985
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End of summer sees
rise alcoholic treatment
The end of summer al 0
marks the end of a permissive
attitude toward drinking that
has allowed the alcoholic
months of non-holds-barred
indulgence.
Consequently according to
treatment authoritie many an
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"hit their bottom" during the
early fall months.
, Summer means vacations,
kid home fr m chool, ba k-
yard barbecue. fishing trip
all s rt of n n- tructured event
that all wee ive drinkin
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who care ab ut his home and
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it's often up to tho e close to
the alcoholic r drug addict to
ek out help.
'A simple way to identify
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dence i to que ti n whether
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is causing any kind of problem
in the p r n' life, y
Scarry. I f it is and they
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pite of the e problem then
we y there' a very g d
chance that per n i alcoholic
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eed treatment."
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oh li int treatment.
Intervention mean e a tl
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th chemi lly dep ndent per n
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By onfronting him with .
pecifi example f hi drink-
ing r drug abu e behavior in a
I oncerned, but fa tual m nner
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ystem. Profe ional killed
in the intervention proce s wor
with family members and friend
to help them prepare for the
intervention.
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aIle ati n ith pe ific e am­
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