ARCH 6 - 12, 1985 THE CITIZE
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1 t er r man
from Florida ho h d left h r
fi n ortly b fore they ere
to be m rried for another guy.
Sh ju tified it all by ying
the guy had pretty f ce and
ooth line. d fter coupl
of month thi new guy drop-
ped her d to quote her,
then "went on rie of date
ith rie of different m n .
And no h ant to 0 bac
to her ex-fiance. But what
really de me up t the
f ct that you encouraged her to
call him and give it a try, and e
ho h i feeling. ell I can
tell you ho he' feelin, he
doesn t ant anything to do
ith th like of her, e r gain.
He ould be fool to tru
r e r gain. She i coming
b c to him ith damage good
ant him to love her
and God forbid re pect her
ain. I think both you and
tha man are crazy.
D.A.,
Brooklyn, e York
Dear Mirror J.,
o you re not wrong for
w nting a rel tionship ith
omeon that you re p ct and
fallin in love with. But you
must a1 ay keep in mind, that
it ta . e two to have a relation
ship. e term 'ti d down"
can bring to mind m ny nega
tive connotations, therefore you
may have to redefine what you
both want in your 'fri ndship.
Its not healthy for you to have
to stifle your emotions for thi
man. Do you kno how he
feels about you? If not then
you hould find out. Let him
kno how you are feeling.
clo carin friendship i one
of the sure t and mo t solid
ways of building foundation
for that relationship you want.
Be t Always,
Erik ashington
Dear rs. Harvey,
Before any marriage i 0 r
both parties owe it thems lves
to e plore every po ibility
of ving their relationship. If
you truely feel there is a chance
then find out where he is and
tal ith him. Also eep in
mind that when a marriage or
ny relation hip fall ap rt, it
not ju t the fault of on p rson.
Learn through your mi ta e
and try not to repeat the me
one. Once you find out how
your hu band feels about the
relationship and you, then' you
will kno what tep to take
next. It may take some time
becau e nothing is worked out
during just one or two conver-
tion .
Be t ofluc ,
Erik Washington
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me.
right
to m.
I.D.,
San Franc' 0, California
Dear 1.0.,
If you take time to think
bout it you will realize, that
y u don t hav a future ith
him. Thi man can only
you h n h can safely t
a ay from hi wife and kids.
Don't make the mi take of
thinkin that you ar an impor
tant part of his life becau
you are not. You are bein
d and you cho to call it
Jove. Bein involved with a
married man will not only com
plicate your life but can cau
probl m for other s ell
most li ely hi wi fe and chil
dren. Bing the woman on the
'de can give you little or no
pride in your relationship and
more importantly, in yourself.
Be smart top eing thi man
altogether.
Sincerely,
Erik Washington
, .
P.T.
Dear P.T.
e ar livin in strange and
very dangerous time today.
Young children turn up mi ing
and/or hurt and quite often
even or dail according to
the ne s report on television
and the ne paper. It i be t
for children not to talk to
trangers at all. I kno you meant
ell but you er ron t
keep q uie t. The child ren
parent would b right in cor
recting their behavior. P rent
hay to be careful and be alert
at all times and rai ing chil
dren is becoming more dif
ficult. It i very sad to ay but
true.
Sincerely
Erik ashington
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