FEB. 27 - A CH 5, 1 85 THE CrTIZE
PAGE THIRTEE
Dear Erik,
.Rigqt no I am having
problem and I want to do some­
thing about it before it really
et out of hand. I ha been
going out with thi really fme
man, h treat m j like a
1 dy and therein lie the pro­
blem. e h ve been going out
for 0 er four ee and I like
him a lot but e i just 00 nice
or too kind or me thing. He
everything about me
I ep no cret from
al ay to ther
d he h ne r tried to .
me. I have e n hinted that he
could spend the night, but
didn t cat my meaning. I have
been aiting for him to
do bing but he'
oman',
nt Ro , California
Dear '"Woman',
Becomilw won't lve
your problem 10 try tIIId rem.
Stop droppilw hint and find out
if the mJDJ is ronumticlllly
intere!l«i iii you or periuIp he
only WG1ItI to be tl good /rlmd.
Then ill he could be tryinl
to get to know you better �e­
fore beco� romaIIIbIJIy
involv«l. But tlte only � you
CtI1I kllOW th« II1UWerI to yow
questio", . if to tIIIk wttlt your
friend. By becomint frltnd,
, tlli hWJ 0/ �
I
ing a trong foundatio for a
good relationship.
• Sincerely,
Erik Washington
De . Erik,
I have been eing thi man
for some time now. I care deep­
ly for him but I am afraid to
tell him th t I love him because
he may not feel the same ay. I
thin the only time that he
about me is during x
thats really the only
time that e pend together.
e don't go out becau e he say
he doesn t have the money but
I ha . offered to pay for the
movies or for mething to eat.
But till he say no, we end
up aying t my place until
he has 0 lea . The way he cts
me feel b d but then
I 10 him and 1 don't
hat to do.
D .,
Chic 0, m
DetzrDM,
In your letter you Iuxl no
problem teUinl me how you
felt, the bat lICKeltion tluzt'
I CtI1J offer you is to be honell
wit" lite fUy you 1ft �.
Tell him ItOw you)'e ftelbrg,
he rIw&Ild kllOw how the relll­
tioruhip if affect1n6 you IIItd
wluzt you fII't go,. tluouth.
f ou need IIIItl daewe more out
of a reIIttitHaItip In order to
feel complete, you tWd to be
Ctlred for tl penon IIOt a tl
• leX object. If tlte two of you
don't wrmt tlte .me thm,. in
your reliltiQlUhip then you
ould find someon« ebe.
: '. Don" fII10w younelf to be uJtd
IIIId don't &ettle for las. You
don't Nwe to.
Dr. Jo n H.
Alway ,
Erik Wahington
Dear Erik,
I e bee going wi
nice look;ing woman for about
a year and e are in 10 with
e ch other. But I am having a
problem, I went out with her
b t friend bout a ee ago.
e spent the night together and
tile next day we both felt b d
ut it. I kno that I wa a
dog and I feel bad about it.
But I am the kind of man ho
doesn't make th same mi e
twice and it will never happen
again. 1 ant to tell her what
has happen bet een her friend
and me, but her friend y
1 should keep this quiet and
for et bout it. Do you think
I should tell her?
"Jimmy",
Orl ndo, Florid
Dear "Jimmy",
You are feeling very guilty
about: your night out with her
best friend. And you want your
lody to be understanding and
forgiving when the truth of the
matter is, e is going to be very
hun and diJIIfJpointed with the
both of you. Total honesty
in a relationship always work
be but in your c it may be
wise fOT both of you to keep
quiet. You should also question
yourself IU what you want in a
relatiomhip. Find out what you
want and need. Everybody
mIlku mi likes but it would
be Pery WIO,., of you to con­
tinue 10 a.ue flIfY more pain
for either yourself or the young
illdy.
Always,
�rik Washington
Dear Erik,
I con ider my If as a adult
yet I am having problems with
my father. I am 19 yean old and
my Ii for me a
if I ere a kid under 10. And I
don't like it. The thing i my
father on't change and he see's
the om in every ituatlon.
lima man no and 1 ant to
be treated as such. I don't
want to hurt anyone's feelings
or make my father mad. But
I have right ... don't 11
Karl illiams,
Brooklyn, ew Yor
DttlT Karl,
Of course you lutve right
... we all do. But as a young
man still living in your paTents
home, you still lutve a certain
f'eqJOnsibiJity to them IIIJd their
house rules. If you find those
rules to be overbt!tlring for a
young man your age then you
owe it to both of you to talk
with yow father. But do it in
an intelligent manner. Explain
cOon. ,s.A.,O.C.
how you feel and what you are
going through. Let your family
know that you are willing
and able to accept the re­
ponsibilities of young adults.
But don't just JaY the words live
up to them.
* * *Got • probl m? N
an an ? Or do you w.nt to ,
just talk? Then write to Erik
W. i on in eare of this
:l sp P or to: '0 r Erik',
Times Squ .... Station, P.O. Box
755, New York, York
1010 -0755 * * *
Best Always,
Erik Washington
ALTER PA YTO i the Gordon' Gin Blac Athlete of the Ye r
for 1984. Along with this honor goes a 25,000 c prize and a
trophy by the noted Black ulptor Ed Dwight. Payton will be
honored t luncheon attended by notable Black leader from many
field. Runner-up a Dwight Gooden, th n tional young
pitcher for the ew York Mets, who set a major le gue rookie re­
cord with 276· trikeout during 1984 on. Edwin 0 s,Olpm­
pic hurdler, third place inner. Pat Ewing, Georgeto n b et­
ball tar, as fourth.
Strawberry Fritters
Fri ters, in all shapes
and flavors, are a tradi­
tion of the Old South.
They take no more time
to make than pancakes
or waffles.
hen you us enrich d,
self-rising flour you sa v
in several as. Th
flour alread contains
leavening an alt. h n
enriched, it also assure
you that each fritter con­
tains a portion of your
daily requirement for B­
vitamins-niacin, thiamin
and ribo lavin+plus min­
erals, iron and calcium.
You can make Stra berr Fritters all year long.
hen fresh berries run out, use frozen, uns eetened
varieties from your grocer's freezer case. Dry the
fresh chunk or pieces of fruit, so that the batter
sticks e ily.
ST A BERRY FRITTERS
(30 to 35 fritter )
Hi cup elf-ri ina flour cup mil
1 tea oon Ifated lemon peel 3 c tra berrie ,
2 ell , separated shed, hulled, dried
1 table poon oil Oil (or fryin
In medium mixing bo I, stir together flour and lemon
peel. Blend egg yolks, 1 tablespoon oil, and milk.
Add all at once to flour mixture, tining just until
flour is thoroughly moistened. Bea egg hite until
stiff, but not dry. peaks form. Fold egg hites into
batter. Fry in hot oil 3 to 4 minutes on each sid or
until golden bro n. Roll in powdered su