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If he had been completely
hone t ith you, he would
have told you about hi family
from the beginning (before the
two of you started dating),
but he kept that side of his
life private and cho e .not to
share this very important fact
with you. Knowing his trac
record in the honesty depart­
ment, do you thin his 'sic '
wife i aware of you and your
affair with er husband? ow
that y u know the truth about
him, it would be wrong for you
to go on eeing him. Don't
all 0 your If to be a con-
I tributing factor to the break­
up of hi marriage. In other
ord don't llow your elf to be
used. The wisest thing for you
to d i to stop seeing him
alt ether and try to reach your
goals another way.
B t AI ays,
Erik ashington
DearE
I h ve very rio pro-
blem with my daughter who .
17 years old. Her mood em
to ch ge so often and e
end a lot of time by her If.
She used to h ve friend but for
for some n they don't
come round nymore. y
hu and feel its just part of
be' a teenager and th t she
will come around. I am not sure
bot I thi that e i drinking, -
her d h e dropped and
m to care. I
A orried motber
Compton, California
Dear ther
There is an organization
called Al-Anon, which consist
of friend nd relatives of
alcoholics. Plea n tact this
group becau they can help
you under tand and teach you
what to do to help your daugh­
ter if she ha a drinking pro-
blem. Try to talk with your
daughter to find out what the
problem really is. Its important
for you to be loving but strong.
You should also try to get
your daughter to attend an
Alcoholics Anonymou meeting
where she can meet others ith
the sam problem and learn to
help herself to recovery.
, incerely
Erik Wa hington
DearE
I ha been married for over
four y to a m th I 10 e
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couple and each other
only in the late e enin. 0
it tbat e have uch little
time together and' hen
my hand' y
Thi h been oing on for over
three month. He h been
ran hene er I try to
get clo to him, yet he y
he illiov me. y si ter ug-
g ed that he m be ing
another oman, hich could'
explain why e h ven't m e
love in month. I don tat
to belie this but I don't kno
h t el to think.
R .. ,
Lakeland, Florida
Dear R.M.,
First of all don't believe
your sister's negative pint of
view concerning your marriage.
What you should do i create
orne time for y u and your
husband to it and talk alone
together. There is obvious a
problem and you need to talk
about it to get an wer to your
questions. If you find that the
problem or problem are too
much for the two of you to
handle alone, then together you
. ould seek guidance from a
marriage councilor. Quite often
working couples need to make
more of an effort to be together
and not take each other for
granted.
Always
Erik ashington
Dear Erik,
. I been goin ith Karen for
. month nd I am very much
in lov with her. I now tha
e ca for me in pite of wh
e ys and doe. I ant our
relationship to become m
riou and I ant to Ii e
tog her and to all of this, e
ys th t she ant more
opened relation ip.
en gge ed that I go out
ith other omen. Thi m e
me feel bad bee I kno that
e feel the ay th t I
do. Ho can I m e h r
realize her feelin about me?
" arvin",
Roano e, Virginia
Dear" arvin" ,
You can't, but I think you
need to really li ten to what
Karen . s really saying to you.
She is trying in a very polite
way to let you know her feel­
ings and they are not the same
as yours. She alre dy knows
how you feel about her and she
doe n't want to become any­
more involved with the 'relat­
ionship'. Don't keep pressuring
her for a stronger commitment
instead take her advice and start
to see other women.
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an answer? Or do you just want
to talk? Then write to Erik
Washington in care of this
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PAGE THIRTEEN
CO GRATUL TlO S - Ho ani E. RoDin Jr., ho ta
Captain Richard Da nport in Columbi Picture' bo offi e hit,
"A Sold' r' Story", ares a con tulatory mom nt with
Boone President of Cohimbi Pictures' rketing and Di tribution
Group. Boone, ho in W • gton rec ntly to attend ial
V.I.P. reening of "A Soldier' Story',' one of Holly ood' top­
ranking e ecutiv and the major force behind the marketing
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CO VENIENCE FOOD
Contrary to eneral belief, con­
venience food are not alwa}'B mor
costly than food prep red at home.
Recent tudi by the U.S.
D partment of Agriculture ho
that 60 percent of 228 selected con­
venience foods cost more per erv­
ing than the homemade version.
But one-fourth cost I ,and the
remainder cost about the ame ae
convenience food .
According to Barbara Sharp, ex­
ten ion agent in USDA's expanded
nutrition program. the average con­
sumer wi 1 have to shop carefully to
ave money on convenience foods.
"Generally, the more ingredient.
involved and the more preparation
nece ry, the limmer are the
ehane that one of th e item will
be cheaper than the me food
prepared at home."
M t canned and frozen veget.­
able ,are 10 er in ca.t than their
fresh counterparts, he laid. 80 -
ever. vegetabl with added aaucea
and in cooking pouch incre
dramatically in cost.
U Pancak and am made
from mixes requiring ater are
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When comp ring convenience
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remember that m t. home
prepared entre contain a high
proportion of meat,. poultry, fj h
and ch e. The convenienc coun­
terpart usually has more ltarchy
ingredien uch sauces, pasta.
bre d and topping.
For con umers whose time ia
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manufacturer handl cost of t.he
food preparation. ahe concluded.
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