DECE 8E 12 -1', 19 4 THE CITIZEN PAGE FtVE ,Voting against Re'agan- Were Black led into a Ipolitical Jonesto n? is a ing its next moves, pondering such 'questions as whether the time has com to begin distancing itself from organized labor, Blacks and other traditional constituency group. In taking time to consider where they go from here, Blacks should not only consider their isolation, but also realize that their situation has not been so grim - regarding govern­ ment' role in ensuring citizens' rights and addressing th effect of past discrimination - since before World War n. But it would be a mi take to let tho new realities cau us to faD victim to the vicious quid pro quo mentality that overlook Reagan's constitut­ ional obligation to repre ent all the people, a Vice President Bu prorni d on election night. he president' obligati n aside this effort to find new ideas won't proceed jf th Black community . unable to find merit in a wide spectrum of leadership. Twenty or 30 years ago, .Blac leadership included in- People's Temple leader Jim Jone w hite and the fol­ Io ers who died in 'm ui­ cides at Jonestown, Guyana, six year ago we e predominant­ ly Black. In th spirit of encouraging diversity, I wan t to shift the focu away from Pendleton's motivation and toward a tiny grain of truth implied in his attac: In the aftermath of Reagan's victory, Blacks must reexamine themselves as a political force and reasse and possibly redefme their future in light of four more years of conservatism. I In thinking hard about the future, they on't be acting in isolation. The Democratic Party tellectual leadership. Psycholo­ gist Kenneth Clark, for examp , w s a ey player in the 1954 Supreme Court decision out­ lawing public school segregation. The opportunity now exists to invite intellectuals back into the fold. The 21-member Con­ gre . onal Black Caucus is a potentially powerful 1 adership group, a are thousand of Blac elected officials, key busi­ ne people, corporate officials and academic . Outsiders may fmd it hard to understand, but Blacks have always been able to e merit in a wide variety of leaders. At the tum of the century the Bl ck community found mething to love in W.E.B. DuBo' and Booker T. Wash­ ington, even though the two m n were frequently at odd . In th 1940s and 1950s, Blac s li tened to con rvative Gorge Schuyler and progressiv Paul ob n. In the '60 the follo er of the Rev. Martin Luth r King Jr., coexisted with ,tho of alcolm X. Already, th tactics for the future are emerging. One i a By Dorothy G . The Waming'ton Post ere the Black Americans ., who voted 9 to 1 again Pre' - dent Reagan led into a "political J one to n" by their leaders, Clarence . Pendleton, chair­ man of th U.S. Commission on Civil Right , charge ? In vehemently denying that this was the c ,some Bl c le ders have called Pendleton unfair and even stupid. Since h did not propo any solut­ ions or alternative beyond pled­ ing,' 0 more Kool-Aid, Je (Jac son), Vernon (Jordan) and n (Hooks)," his motive have been labeled diver . onary . Some have called his analogy di gusting and faulty becau cn tin uat ion of the coalition politics outlined by J c during his presidential campaign in an effort to 'move from r cial battleground to economic com­ mon ground." Another t ctic is confrontation oolitic. of which we've had a fore ow- ing in the recent 't-ins by civil rights leader t the South . African emb y. Debate and internal 'on will continu, and Black community do no have to choo on voice over another. It ha only to main­ tain control and anoint it own leaders rather than let hite leadership do it. I hope that on ne idea to emerge would be I the healing of the partisan division be­ tween Black Democrats and Blac Republicans. Becau Blacks hi torically h ve coun­ t nanced a diversity of idea I expect them to toma h Pendleton as easily oth r before him. In that pirit, to the degree that Pendleton' outburst can be timulus for thought rather than vi ed only as hot rhetoric, it can be' excused - if not welcomed . .. ' •. .1 By Dr. Charle . F ulkner WASHI GTO D P A) - Last week we dis­ cu ed the impact of loneline s on the lives of many people. Blacks e perience a profound setbac econ mically, emo­ tionally and profe ionally • .JI..iI�"'" I the direct r ult of effort to over om lonelin The result of th effort by the Blac female are astounding and more than a little sad. ost Black teenagers (54 percent nationally are the outcome of the Blac females attempt to e cape the un­ happines of loneliness. The male leaves the female as soon as he has sexual ucces ith her. She ubmits too easily nad he 10 s interest in her. Here is the three-fold impact: -The woman becomes in­ creasingly unhappy, lonelier than before and distrusting of the advances of the male. rna thinks that Black female are too easy, have rela­ tively little class, are not wort the effort and "dumps" the dame. He continues to be lonely, wondering if he will ever fmd the "right" woman; -The fatherle child, who i I th regular result of the sexual encounters (or, of the efforts of others to relieve their lone­ lines is reared in a horne in which he wa not expected and is not wanted, is considered the cau of the woman in­ ability to g t more educati n because of the care that he requires is the child of a career­ les mother, a poor mother and unhappy mother. What is to become of these thousands of Black children who are the result of uch encounters? I have coun led and help d many many lonely people who desire is merely to be wanted; who want only to have omeone say: "I- lov you." This expression is like the long sought after pot of gold at the end of th rainbo ost peo­ ple don't begin to live until they hear the e words. Shortly "�ter they hear them they b in to die a low emotional de ost people are very quick to say that they want some­ one who is able to support them, someone making a .lot of money and someone ho is handsome, beautiful, exciting, affectionate, intelligent. They want ''the right per on." Very few people ask them­ selves if they are the right per on for th mate for hom they are arching. It is much e ier to ek the right person rather than to be the right person. And therein is the pro­ blem: Are you willing to ask of yourself the acrifice to rna e anoth r per on happy. Or, i y ur goal nl to find meone el e ho i willin to make a acrifi e for your hap­ pine ? Happine j a to-way treet requmng givmg ell taking. Don t b foo d. Y u are not li ely to find happine if you are not willing to give it. Everyone ha experienced the unhappine that you have ex­ perienced. They may not sho it but it is there hidden from your view. They kno that they are unhappy and lonely but they won't let you kno that they now. Ho can you get rid of your loneliness? By reaching out to someone el e who i lonely. In a world of lonely people you can certainly find s meone who will embr ce you with the inten emotion ith which you want to embr them. But you must take th first step. You mu t b th agre f. Don't say that yo can't do it becau re ching out is the quic e t, b t and, possibly, only way for you to' overcome your loneline . Go to pi ce where the people you want to m et congregate. Mak yourself available. t week I will provide yoir ith The Faul ner Princi­ pl and The Faulkner Techni­ que for initiating and innin the en oun r. i·