y met a madly in his first quite touching to to t r. At· the . nina of IChooi e e up . h him for anot r y. y IOn too t ry hard. We thought he uId et 0 er her in a couple of clay or ,but e re very WIG • He h been very up t for 0 r three eeks and twice I have heard him ayinl alone in hi room. It h affected his at school. I recently found out t at he been cuttin da ( cl that he d the youn lady are). I don t know what e to do for him, he ould not. ta ith hi brother about it. Th Dalla , Te Dear .R., Have you tried talking with your son about his pain oppo to getting your oldest son to do it for you? You may be just the person he needs to talk with. However if you find that he doe n't respond to you and is still depressed over his lost love, find out if he will talk with a therapi t. He may find it easier, once he knows . NOVEMBER 7 -1 ,1984 THE CITIZEN PAGE THIRTEEN Erik Washington • • BRING IT BY that the therapist will help him feel better about himself. It i now a known fact that men respond to broken romances harder than women and be­ cause this is his first serious romance, it can be very trau-> matic for a young teenager. Sincerely, Erik Washington De Erik, I am 10· to be married on Christm. day to a m t I 10 vay much. I am o· to e a large edding with bride maids and 00 er girls. My lOG to be husband h eel to let hill only . ter be a member of our eddin party. The only real problem . h th t,· th I· don't really kno her. And only my . er and do friend will be bride maids. I did not p him a definite an er, I felt he wro to m e uch a requ . AD of the girls will be very pretty d hi . er i ju the opposite. of us. I am re y thinking of er feelin d I kno that e ould feel out of place. Let us j y that e a heavy woman d people ould re at her and m e her feel bad. My problem i , j hat do I say to my finance about his . ter? He· very itive about hi iter. Xm Bride, Detroit, Mich. Dear Bride, You are kidding your If, you're not concern with any­ one's feelings other than your own. If your letter i any indication of your personality, then your finance may be in trouble. A wedding party i suppose to be shared and en­ joyed by both the groom and bride, Therefore the groom is not out of place in asking that his sister share a small part of his happiness. The' fact that you don't want her in the wedding because she is 'large', truely shows your in­ sensitivity. ··*Got a problem? Need an answer? Or do you just want to talk? Then write to Erik Washington in care of this newspaper or to: 'Dear Erik', P.O. Box 1341, New York, New York 10027 .••• , ......•......................•. · . : SUNDAY 2·p.m. : BI GO : MERCHANTS HALL Falrplain Plaza SMI: MA ST. eENTON HAReOR Sign, Erik Washington · · · : B.C.D.C. Cnt� Comm. • , .. � •.••...•..............••... , WBATBAVE¥ COT TO It? Be Slim and Trim for the Holidays! \ . Los 10-291bs within 30 days and FEEL FANTASTIC !! GUARA TEED or your money back. -No sign-up Fees -No exercising requ ired -No drugs 'I""-AII natural herbs & vitamins -Simple, easy and fun to use THIS P-ROGRAM WORKS '!I! CALL US AND ASK US HOW . Area Supervisors SHARON orJERRY PADILLA (616) 429-4389 Don't. keep your news a secret! • z -------OFFiCES AT--------------� WE WANT TO KNOW ABOUT: Weddings - Reunions - Travels - Guests Graduations - Promotions - Births People, People, People in our Community! u e 6 E. Br MUSKEGON HEIGHTS, MI 49444 739-1203 B tonH 219 E. ain BENTON HARBOR, MI 49022 927-1527· But we also want to know those issues that concern you at work, in the community, on your Block. What do you think n eds to be done? WE WANT TO KNOW! YOUR COMMUNITY WANTS TO KNOW!