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UnlJ r t nding Lonelines
Ch onic pai n uffer r
invited to meeti n
r been lonely? Did this
condition ca you d . and depr
lon? If 10, you re like milliollJ.Of others I
ho experience p enomenon
even though they e reluctant to admit
it. Lonelin I can take many forms:
ejection. Perhaps a longtime
ip co to un asant abrup
end. ybe you re fared from-your job
after Ying m de enormous, UJll1 arded
crifiee .
o nde ood. You t to be
friendly but othe misinterpret your mo­
ti . You simply can't t close to other
peo b of th difference in ·deas.
- Alone. Yo a lot of peop
but you don't feel really clo to y of
. You don't feel that you can e -
p yourself recei und ding,
com . '0 te r po
ed. uppo you 1 a d
family member. Suppose you ffer an ill­
o ould take care of you? Can
dIe it alone? You j don't
o .
- Uncertainty. You don't kno hat
to do . h your lif . You don't like your
job. t ould you change it? You are
lonely. But 0 Id you get 1IWTied? t
does the future hold fo you?
- By you If. You are ill and cannot
. °t your friend. Your former acquaint­
to ha e forgotten that you -
This· the terrible reality. 0 one
IDS to care bout uyo e • It
that everyo ha his 0 n problems that
occupy all of his time. Once you accept
th reality of the orld, you can then
t e som eps to re Ive the terrible
loneline with which you are confronted.
But hat do you do? Peop tend to
find a fantastic number of ay to deal
lth loneline . Some of the methods e
good d me simply m e probl�m'
o . Some of the pes from loneli-
ne are enter gr duare school, join a'
single club, use drugs, mo e to anoth�r .
city or 0 °t disco . Some of t - tech- J
niques may even create n problems.
Following are a fi te that you ca;.
take to cope with lonelin :
- Chan your ye of living. Vo
teer your rvices to community ora;uw�
tions, join a church, try 0
time round people d I
- Rely on your own CI b tie to
sol problems. Stop deperu:lin& on oth r
people ho may ctually be lonelier than
yourself. You don't have to be alone if
you really do not want to be.
- Use your time constructively. Exer­
cise, improve your education, learn a
skill, p y sports. There are a lot of ays
that you can fill your empty time ith
things that will m e you a better penon.
- Find a penon ho undentand your
plight and ·th hom you can talk per­
nally about your ituation. A sym -;
thetic acquaintance can provide you °th
• a onderful opport6nity to releue your
pent-up frustrations.
Do lOU fit thi
ription -
n you Md 10 problmu 0' difli-
cultia of your 0 t you e worbd
t ?
Do you find it eIU)1 to mUly lilt to
otllen?
A� yotl die to tfIdiwt to II
c inpllDu?
Qua you IICCept IOnIf!JOIIe lifi
style udi{fennt {rom yow own?
Do you enjoy bein811 pill"e1lt?
Do you luzve good memories of child­
hood?
If you can er y to any of th
q e . on , YOU h e the potential to be­
come a ccessful olunteer, Riverwood
Community ental Health Center .
offerin a 3 day trainins program for indi-
o d to volunt r in Individual and
Family Treatment Progr
y parents d childre in 0
unity are viet of the cycle of
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and neglect. y go un-
n01tiCe�, othen are identifaed and become
umolftMi in prosr to help change be­
vior become informed in the com­
munity and learn positive methods of par­
ent
According to June Star e, - SW, Pro­
gmt Coordinator , "You can be a help to a
family in need if yo care. You can help
100000ne e if you have experienced dif­
ficult imes your own children and
have learned po Olive ays to raise your
children ° You can help by becoming a
friend, a link to the community. Being
able to listen to a frustr ted parent and
help them recognize their own potential
to change b 0 e or n tful tterns
of behavior is a positi e y to h p. U
If you are inte ed l p' fam-
ille irnpro e the quality 0
are not ho to go bout it,
call June Star e, 983-77 1.
teer y are sed to e a one year
commitm nt and to ha e 2-3 boo c
ee available to spend ith a family.
Your help 0 greatly n ded, please call
today.
Dr. J H.
KiJney Beans anJ
Chicle P.as Ic.
D.licious Picnic S%J
Italian b an salads
make marvelous to abIes
for picnics. The beans
( idney and chic peas
are perfect) come already
prep red in cans in your
supermar et. The salads
c n be made in minutes.
early on the da� of the
outing or the night before,
And they on • t be il ted
hen you get there.
For a satisfying chick
pea salad. combine one­
quarter cup mayonnaise
ith a half-teaspoon oreg­
ano leaves. crushed, in a
medium bowl. Add 1 can
( 19 ounces) Progresso
chick peas, drained, and
one-qu rter cup each
diced celery. tomato,
green pepper and scal-
lions. ix ell; cover and ,;. ••• :. ..
refrigerate at least 1 hour 0
YIELD: about 2� cups
Another delicious salad
combines one can (19
ounces) Progresso red
kidney beans, drained,
and 1 can ( 19 ounces)
Progresso chic peas,
drained, ith two cups
sliced celery, 1 cup each
sliced cucumber and thin­
ly sliced carrots, plus
cup olive condite ( vail­
able in jars), undrained 0
ix ell; cover and re­
frigerate at least 3 hours
before serving for flavors
to blend.
YIELD: about 4Vz cup
Chronic pain sufferes and health care .
profe ionals are invited to attend an u
coming presentation at St. Jo ph Public
Library by te Cragwall , ACSW,
entit d "Recent Innovatio in the
ement of Chronic Pain Syn-
dromes." I
Cragwall is
"
Y HOUSE"
y noon stay du y even hen I eep
From . different sizes of little feet.
Front door open ; th one goes bang
o soon I onder will' I gro fan
anut butter and jelly marking each on
I can't . do n from fmding I m.
I say "pick that up" they me hy!
The tables am, the dishe packed high.
Falling and stomping on the Iivin room
floor
Knock, knock, on my bedroom door.
Bathroom 0 dentify each child
Lord, sometimes I'd like to run a mile.
At night it's clean and quiet
You ouldn t believe it
house.
a mouse
the same
AD 0 feet are dry, urn and clean
Tuc ed in bed, kids having nice t
dreams.
I e my he d, smile and say
God be with me, for tomorro 's another
Day!!! By ary Allison
-B.8.
orker, ffiliated ith the Chronic P in
Pr am at Mary Fr Bed Rehabillt tion
Center in Grand Rapids, 0 chigan.
Local graduat of the Free Bed
Program 0 to begin a If-heilt group
for all chronic pain ffere d inter­
ested others in the Benton Harbor-St.
Jo ph area.
According to one of the group' organ­
izers, "Chronic pain 0 a ery demoraliz­
ing experience that rob you of much
needed rest to cope wi h daily living and
all other of life. It affects your
family life u ell your ork. The pur­
pate of the group 0 to help each per n
find n ays of dealin and living uc­
cessfu.lly with chronic pain."
s. Cra ali's presentation 0 being
offered in an effort to initiate such
group. The will begin t 7:30 on
onday, June 18, 1984 at th St. Jo ph
Public library. 0 admission ch ge, For
furt r inform tion p call Gi 1 t
983-6727.
977 Ogden
Benton Harbor, M I 49022
Appointments Only
ESSIE JO ES
Ph. 925-5703
Mon - Fri 9:00 to 8:00 p:m.
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