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same life experiences and 
religious values. Others 
prioritize location, while 
many seek out certain 
personality traits.
“I encourage people 
to look outside their 
community,” Tessler 
Lopatin says. “People often 
reach out because they feel 
like they’ve met everyone 
around them. What I’m 
able to say is, ‘You actually 
haven’t met everyone.’ It’s 
important to keep stirring 
the pot.”
By stirring the pot — or 
making introductions — a 
match is likely to be made, 
she believes.

KEEP AN OPEN MIND
Tessler Lopatin encourages 
Jewish singles looking for 
love to keep their minds 
open. Things like job and 
location, which some 
prioritize, are subject to 
change, she says.
“A job is changeable,” 
she explains. “You have 
to look deeper; look 
for values. Is someone 
ambitious? Is someone 
hardworking? Is someone 

caring and passionate?”
Most importantly, 
she advises, is finding a 
partner who is compatible 
with you and cares about 
you, with lifestyle details 
coming secondary. It’s 
this advice and more that 
Tessler Lopatin shares on 
America’s Top Rebbetzins 
podcast, highlighting 
the importance of 
everyone striving to be a 
matchmaker.
Now, as the ongoing 
pandemic continues to 
present new challenges in 
dating, sometimes making 
it hard for people to meet 
in person, these actions 
are more essential than 
ever, she explains. 
People are also 
embracing long-distance 
relationships more, a 
positive trend that Tessler 
Lopatin has seen grow 
since 2020.
“A long-distance 
couple that I matched got 
engaged two weeks ago,” 
she says. “Keep an open 
mind and an open heart 
and I think you’ll end up 
meeting someone.” 

