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Give them space, if and when needed. Some kids will have a lot to say and show many emotions. Others may take time and will need help verbalizing their feelings. Many teens may lean more into their friends. This is OK. Encourage their connections and let them know you are there. While feel- ings may be very intense, avoid words such as “devastating” and “catastrophic. ” Reflect where they are with accurate labels while modeling a resolve that we will recover and heal. Providing hope for the future can be helpful while recog- nizing kids may not be ready to hear about how they will have many more summers or opportunities. Adults have this vantage while kids’ perspective is based more in the present. Encourage your kids to connect with friends and family, share photos, stories and memories. Allow for them to talk about what they will miss and what is lost. One of the concerns for many campers is the plan for next summer. Will they get to make up the program that was lost? The honest answer is camps have so much to figure out in the weeks and months ahead. Acknowledge the uncertainty and discuss how they have successfully dealt with the unknown in the past. Encourage kids to share ideas with their camp. Having their voice heard can help. Think of ways to financially support our community camps as they will need our help to survive. FINDING THE POSITIVE Families are now facing very practical challenges with job commitments and day care. Children and teens desperately want to see their friends again. Families are stressed. The old adage of one day at a time is a good approach for now. We need to find positives in each day while we navigate these uncharted waters. Parents are asking how to keep our kids occupied with meaningful activities. Here is a golden opportunity that lies in the days and weeks ahead: When the raw emotion begins to settle and the time feels right, talk with your kids about what they gain from going to camp. Ask your child why the camp experience is so important. Parents should reflect on this question, too. Is it about connecting with friends? Building and growing new friendships? Being authen- tic and your best version of yourself? Trying new things? Unplugging? No, we can’ t re-create camp in the same exact way. We can’ t replace the loss. However, if we really consider these thoughts as opportunities, we can approach our coming weeks similar to camp. By being creative and resourceful, we can tap into the spirit, the essence and even some of the magic of camp. Talk with your child, teens and/or young adult about how they can be more authentic, vulnerable and accepting in their relationships. Light Shabbat candles. Sing together. Take your child on a hike. Build a fire. Find new and unique arts and crafts projects. Create a family Havdalah, reflecting on the past week together while sharing feelings and looking ahead. Look out at the stars each night. These are just some examples and together families can discover many more. If we integrate these types of expe- riences into our families in the coming weeks, the impact will be great for your family and the memories can be very special. Losing a summer of camp is very painful for our kids and the community of camps. At the end of the day, it’ s said that camp is about people and the relationships. This is not just a camp lesson but also a lesson we learn in life. Relationships shape the core of who we all are, and they will help us heal from this moment in time. No relationship is more important than the one with your child. This is exactly what will help you, your family and community get through this very difficult time. Dr. Daniel Klein is a licensed clinical psychologist and founder of Child and Family Solutions Center. A self-de- scribed “camp lifer” whose career was inspired by camp, he is a former camper, counselor and parent of two campers who live for their summers. He presently serves as an officer on the board of directors of the Bloomfield Hills based nonprofit Tamarack Camps. continued from page 6