"Parents should realize that the most
important gift is their relationship
with their children."
— Natasha Kendal, Ph.D
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Rabbi Levi and Mushky Dubov
Rachel Kapen with two of her children,
now 22 and 23
"Everybody can enjoy the holidays,
and my girls can learn how fortunate
they are and how other people are
not as fortunate," said Ziff, who lives
in Bloomfield Hills.
For Rabbi Levi Dubov, who
serves as co-director of Chabad
of Bloomfield Hills with his wife,
Mushky, Chanukah was a time to
learn valuable lessons about money
and choices. His parents, Dovid and
Malky Dubov of Princeton, N.J., gave
each of their eight children a sum
of money, 10 percent of which they
were expected to give to charity.
"We learned about the various
charities and chose one we wanted
to donate to," Dubov said. The kids
were then allowed to choose how to
spend the remainder of their gifts.
"We got a real education about mak-
ing healthy and holy choices."
Natasha Kendal, Ph.D., who also
specializes in "financial psycho-
therapy," a form of counseling that
addresses the emotional aspects of
money and finances, urges parents
not to get up in the "Chanukah
guilt" that ensues when children ask
for the same expensive gifts their
friends are receiving.
While busy parents often buy
extravagant gifts to compensate for
the lack of time they spend with
their children, Kendal urges these
parents to keep in mind that a small-
er gift accompanied by a promise of
time spent together, such as a game
you promise to play with them or an
art project you will do together, is
better than an expensive toy.
"Remember that Chanukah is
not a competition," Kendal said.
"Parents should realize that the most
important gift is their relationship
with their children. Regardless of
what they may ask for, most children
would rather have quality time with
a parent than a pile of stuff."
She recommends interactive gifts
such as board games, puzzles or
other items that encourage families
or siblings to play together instead
of electronic devices, which tend
to separate people. Other ideas are
tickets to a family play or concert,
or memberships to local museums,
the zoo or other places everyone can
visit together.
The word "Chanukah" comes from
the same root as "Chinuch," which
means education, according to Itty
Shemtov, education director at The
Shul in West Bloomfield. Shemtov
encourages parents to engage chil-
dren by explaining the historical
context of the holiday through books
or a family game of dreidel, where
parents can explain how the letters
relate to the Chanukah story.
Kendal also believes it is impor-
tant to encourage children to buy
gifts for their siblings as well as their
parents and grandparents.
"It gets them in the habit of giving
to other people, and it teaches them
the pleasure that comes from making
someone else happy," she said. *
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