January 28 2016 79
ON THE MIND
As we settle in on the New Year, it
s time
to really think about the changes we want
to make this year. I hear people talk inces-
santly about weight loss and kicking bad
habits, making more money, a new exercise
regimen, making amends with
those we have wronged, etc.
I hear it all, all the things
we want to do that we didn
t
accomplish in 2015. You know,
kind of like a tally of all the
wrongs and screw-ups and mis-
takes and blunders.
Your very own personalized
self-deprecation report card
where you can be the Simon
Cowell of your own character.
Excellent.
Anyone who knows me knows that I
have a real issue with endings. In fact, I
quote Shel Silverstein so often, you
d think
he was a member of my immediate family.
There are no happy endings.
Endings are the saddest part.
So just give me a happy middle
And a very happy start.
So for me, if you combine the ending of
one year and sprinkle that sundae with all
the things I need to work on you might
as well wrap me in a blanket and put me
to bed because it is very depressing.
I usually cry every year when the clock
strikes 12. No matter whom I
m with,
what I
m doing or how happy I am I
still tend to cry.
I cry because I
m nostalgic, superstitious
and, of course, reflective. I am not crying
because I am so disappointed with myself.
I cry because when the New Year rings
in, I realize more than ever how Father
Time never stops for anyone or anything.
And for that brief moment when the
countdown begins, I become more con-
scious than ever of just one thing.
Time.
How time has aged my parents, my chil-
dren, me, my friends, the people I love.
I cry because I want just one thing each
year for the people I love so deeply and
dearly to just stay healthy and safe.
I am able to say each year, wholeheart-
edly, that those I love know they are loved
always. I never get off the phone with-
out telling them, I love you.
I have a new way of looking at the New
Year. I think we should reflect back at 2015
and see all the things that we did that were
actually right the things that we are
proud of, the progress that we
ve made, the
friendships that we have maintained, the
accomplishments of our children, our new
relationships that have grown and thrived,
how we
ve shown our love to the ones we
love. The things we did that mattered.
We are all so critical of ourselves
brutally. We look for validation constantly
from others when it really needs to come
from within.
We all know where we could
do better on many things the
little voice that whispers in our
ear when we are doing some-
thing wrong. We hear it and we
know it. Ignoring it doesn
t stop
it from talking to us.
We just justify it.
How about this year, instead
of resolutions to do better, we
set out with the intention to
love others and ourselves just
exactly for who we are.
After all, anyone can love a rose but
it takes a huge heart to include the thorns.
ON THE TOWN
Speaking of New Year intentions of love,
former Detroiter Mike Young, now of Los
Angeles, wrote and directed his labor of
love, A Stand Up Guy, debuting nationwide
in theaters and video on demand Feb. 9.
The cast includes Michael Rapaport, Ethan
Suplee and Danny A. Abeckaser. Mike also
performed at the Royal Oak Music Theatre
on Jan. 15 with Bob Saget.
This year
s Unabashed Bash,
Birmingham Education Foundation
s
annual fundraiser, to be held Saturday,
Feb. 6, is moving to the Somerset
Collection South. To make an auction
donation, contact auction coordinator
Ryan Abney at bashdonations@gmail.com;
for info and tickets ($175; $500-friend
of BEF sponsor) visit supportbef.org/
unabashed-bash.html.
I recently had the experience of get-
ting my makeup done by Shifra at Style
the Salon in Orchard Lake Mall, and she
s
amazing! She
s done several celebrities
when they come into town, like Delta
Burke and the late Marjorie Fisher.
With Valentine
s Day approaching,
look to Tamara
s Spa in Farmington Hills
for gift certificates and services. Many
local celebrities are seen there frequently,
including Rhonda Walker and Diana
Lewis (plus Barbra Streisand when she
comes to town). *
Karin Katz explores her Zen-centric journey into self-
awareness through her nationally renowned blog
BuddhaBarbie.com, which balances spirituality with
beauty. Contact her at bbarbiejn@gmail.com for
comments, questions, events and sightings.
on the mind/
on the town
Buddha Barbie
New beginnings.
Karin Katz
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