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xtober 22.2015

JN

e live in age preh
w aden gossip
is more widespread
than it has ever been.

people with the purpose of disgracing
someone — well, that's what we call
"public shaming:'
Ever.
Somewhere out there, someone always
Social media and accessibility to any
has a bigger platform on which to speak;
piece of information we want, or need,
and how they use that stage speaks vol-
puts the world at the tips of our fingers.
umes about their character.
Immediately.
Whether you're responsible for gossip-
This is a time when
ing or publicly shaming some-
Facebook updates your rela-
one, if it's negative in nature,
tionship status faster than
then you are guilty of reputa-
your local county courthouse,
tion theft; and the Talmud
where your 1,000 "close and
teaches us that gossip is like
personal" friends can see
a three-pronged tongue that
your life's every move on their
kills three separate people: the
news feed (if you choose to
person who says it, the person
post) and where you can see
who listens to it and the per-
firsthand all the pictures of
son about whom it is said.
that gorgeous party you were Karin Ka t z
In the end, it's better to
not invited to — and quite
just bite your tongue, reroute
possibly discussed at
conversation and take the high
I have noticed that when we read a
road when it comes to malicious chatter,
story or hear a salacious rumor, most
otherwise it always comes back to bite
people don't give a second thought as to
you down the road.
how it affects those being spoken about.
However, there is something called
We just pop it in our mouths, chew
"good gossip:' which can be used to pro-
it up and swallow it whole —relishing
pel a person or a business into an earned
every morsel down to the bitter end.
and much-deserved spotlight.
And if you ever get to thinking about
This is what I will use my column to
how an outsider knows so much about
do each month.
you, my mother always says — "check
Publicity helps increase awareness and
your insiders:'
visibility, and I hope to help promote
We certainly can't stop gossip, and we
area businesses and events as well as talk
definitely can't control everything that is
about relevant everyday topics.
posted or talked about on social media.
But the real question is: When does
ON THE TOWN ...
gossiping turn from harmless banter into Recently seen at Bistro 82 were Red
public shaming?
Wings defenseman Niklas Kronwall,
While gossip can be slanderous and
left wings Justin Abdelkader and Tomas
not 100-percent accurate, the intention
Tatar, and new goalie Petr Mrazek.
typically is not to humiliate the person,
At Townhouse Detroit: Actress Vivica
but is more related to social bonding and A. Fox shared lunch with a girlfriend.
making conversation.
Two-time Olympic gold medalist Abby
Public shaming, on the other hand, is
Wambach shared a late-night dinner
the spreading of gossip that intends to
with her wife, Sarah Huffman. Michigan
humiliate someone as punishment or as
State Spartans basketball alumni
a form of intimidation or revenge.
Draymond Green visited for dinner —
It's more of a strategy to shine the light and was a fan of the Whole Roasted
so brightly on a subject that he or she
Chicken.
suffers embarrassment.
Upcoming charity events: Jennifer and
Even worse than committing the act
Dan Gilbert will chair The Benefit III on
of public shaming individually is calling
Nov. 7 to raise funds for the Children's
upon others (family members and close
Tumor Foundation.
friends) to hop aboard the "shame train."
Dennis Miller will be in town on Nov.
This is when character assassination
17, for an evening to benefit JARC. *
turns into a group effort.
So what differentiates the two?
Karin Katz explores her Zen-centric journey into
Let's say I pass on a rumor or a piece
self-awareness through her blog BuddhaBarbie.
of gossip to one or two of my friends just corn, which balances spirituality with beauty to
for the sake of idle banter and coffee talk
help empower women. Contact her at bbarbiejn@
— that is "gossiping:'
gmaiLcom for comments, questions, events and
When I pass on that same piece of
sightings.
gossip or story openly to a group of