business >> Have Courage And Be Kind ... To A Point I was on a cruise, returning to the kind to others assailing the quote as ship after taking a quick jaunt on but another outdated suggestion for the island. As I entered the pool women to be subservient even when deck, there was an eerie quiet and subjected to undue hostility. stillness. I glanced across the deck I remembered an old movie favor- and noticed that everyone was look- ite, Road House, a 1989 movie star- ing up at the large screen, eyes trans- ring Patrick Swayze as a cooler hired fixed and glossy. to tame a dirty bar. His advice to his I'm talking about men and women, bouncer staff, in telling them how young and old, guests and to escort the troublemakers crew, from virtually every from the bar, was, "Be nice nationality, all glued to the His instruction was to be large screen. No hoots and nice in attempting to achieve hollers with beers in hand your goal as long as you can and no flopping or slosh- possibly do so, until it was ing in the pools. All eyes time "not to be nice were fixed on the screen. The Swayze advice works I thought, "What is going for me and, as a lawyer, I've on?" always abided by that with What could muster such the opposition. If you can attention and emotion Ken Gr oss achieve your goal and be among all of these people, pleasant about it that is cer- many in a rowdy party tainly the right road. If, how- mode? The answer — Cinderella — ever, you face a hostile adversary, the latest Disney release. courage is certainly necessary, but As I walked across the desk, reach- at some point "being kind" is simply ing Bonnie, my wife, who was also not in the cards. one of the watchers, I felt a sense of satisfaction that amidst all of the problems of the world — ISIS, the mass shooting in Oregon, the U.N. vis a vis Israel, Iran, North Korea and so on — there remains "good- ness" in the world, such that people from all nationalities and ages can be captivated to the extent of silence and tears by the words and emotion conveyed in a movie. My daughter, Jenny, and son-in- law, Shawn, were also on the trip, and we all ended up in a discussion Be kind to ISIS? Be kind to the as to important quotes from the Ayatollah, who repeatedly calls for annihilation of Israel? I don't think movie. Most notable is the death- so. There is unimaginable evil in this bed words told to Cinderella by her mother, "Have courage and be kind:' world — and evil, just as goodness, The moment I walked upon the transcends everything. ship's deck and witnessed this heart- Cinderella's task was to "be kind" felt silence, I knew it was something and "have courage" in dealing with I wanted to write about; but as I her evil sisters and the misfortunes thought about the quote, I realized she had to bear. In addressing our it presents a multitude of issues in enemies, we should display courage the context of addressing today's dif- and be polite (not kind) in seeking ficult affairs. appropriate solutions, but we should Courage certainly is needed and is also heed Patrick Swayze's advice a worthy attribute, but precisely how and not be nice, when it is time not does "be kind" fit in if faced with to be nice. * a hostile foe? 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