metro Mom Knows vv Julie Silberg and her mother, Mary Schwartz, of Farmington Hills "The best advice I ever got from my mother was to always do the right thing, even if others do not:' — Julie Silberg, Northville Readers share the wisdom they received from their mothers. Jamie Blumenthal and his mother, Elaine Yaffe, of Englewood, N.J. he older we get, the wiser our mothers seem to be! We asked our readers and staff to share the best advice they got from their mothers. Enjoy! Janice Lachman of Farmington Hills and Blanche Needle of Southfield. "I owe my mom, Blanche Needle, many thanks for the countless lessons in life that she taught and instilled in me and my brother. When we worried about passing a test, getting into college and getting accepted to graduate school, she would always give the same comforting and strength giving advice. She would tell us each day, 'Try your best ... nobody expects any more: This is the same lesson I taught my children. Her motherly advice went with my kids every day, too. We both taught our families the love of learning without the fear of failure:' — Janice Lachman, Farmington Hills David Shanaman, mom Robin Tobin- Murav of Farmington Hills, Baratt Shanaman and Reisa Shanaman "The best advice Mom ever gave to us is 'lead by example: As 'actions speak louder than words: she exemplifies the sentiment through her own unparal- leled selflessness, unconditional love and unending empathy. She inspires us immensely, ever showing us the kind of people we hope and strive to be:' — David Shanaman, Detroit, Reisa Shanaman and Baratt Shanaman, both of West Bloomfield 14 May 7 • 2015 Susan Feldman and her mother, Helen Charney, of Livonia "It was not so much through her words but rather her actions that advised me to put all of my effort into achieving a goal no matter how difficult it seemed. Although she was the daughter of poor immigrants, she decided that nothing was going to stop her from going to college. She graduated with a master's degree, pay- ing for all of her expenses:' — Susan Feldman, Farmington Hills Mrs. Fay Geffner, Staten Island, N.Y.; Mrs. Judy Ishakis, Southfield; Mrs. Eva Chessner, Staten Island; with mom, Mrs. Toba Cik, Oak Park Mother, Tammy Gorosh, West Bloomfield; Hilary Gorosh, Chicago; Jamie Gorosh, Washington, D.C.; Rachel Gorosh, Ann Arbor "Be true to yourself, love your curls, and don't forget to call your mother!" —Hillary Gorosh, Chicago, Ill. "Our mother, Toba Cik, would always use this Yiddish saying when we would complain about something: Azoi vem betzach azoi shlufmin. The way you make your bed is the way you sleep in it. Take responsibility for your actions:' — Judy Ishakis, Southfield "Sometimes a penny is worth a dollar and a dollar is worth a penny:' — Jamie Blumenthal, Southfield t• AA. Gail Offen and her late mother, Hyla Offen "While not everyone may agree with this advice, it's extremely liberating. Around my 30th birthday, my mother called me with some startling news: She had thrown out her bathroom scale. It wasn't broken. But, as she said: 'Honey, I don't need a scale to tell me if I've gained or lost weight. I can tell by how my clothes fit. So why let a scale drive you crazy?' The next day, I proceeded to throw my scale out, too. Thanks, Mom, for all your wonderful advice that never sounded like advice. And teaching me to enjoy life (in moderation!) by not living by the numbers:' — Gail Offen, Hartland, Mich. "My mom, Rosalie Young, said: 'Michelle, nothing is every quite as good as you imag- ine it will be and nothing is quite as bad as your fear.- — Michelle Sider, Huntington Woods From Our Readers on page 16