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Roman Bonislawski of Ron and Roman Design, Jon Goldstein, managing
partner, Maple Theater, and Greg Miracle of Great Lakes Coffee Company.
T
rust is an important value
relationships or marriages. But casual
that shapes who we become
contact with a prior suitor can be mis-
throughout our lives. A life
interpreted, insinuating evidence of
built on trust gives us confidence to
untrustworthiness. Such assumptions
take on new experiences.
can degrade trust, which
However, trust takes on dif-
can affect intimacy and lead
ferent forms when viewed
to conflict or disaffection.
over our lifespans.
When an emotional alterca-
The late psychologist
tion occurs, it can take a
Erik Erikson was the first to
long time to reestablish the
recognize that infants need
broken trust.
trust to develop positively.
To rebuild a marriage
A baby learns trust when
and restore trust, both
her needs are met, creat-
spouses must work hard to
ing an early sense of reas-
jettison their suspicions so
surance. It is her parents'
that communication and
Dan iel
fundamental responsibility
understanding can improve.
Rosen baum,
to engender trust. Doing
This entails being honest
PhD, LMSW
so encourages the child
with each other about feel-
toward appropriate social
ings, asking questions in
adjustment; all other emotional inter-
ways that alleviate apprehension and
actions derive from this.
refusing to replay problems, such as
A trusting child will be inclined
bringing up old arguments, people or
to be friendly and interact well with
events that trigger distrust. No one can
others. Trust in oneself motivates a
change what has already occurred; at
child to strive to do well. Supported by
best, the past can be used as a refer-
teachers and other parent-like figures,
ence to promote acceptable conduct.
a child will also learn to gain the trust
As one moves into life's later years,
of others.
loss of trust can be perplexing, par-
To forge trust, parents need to make
ticularly from someone in whom one
reasonable demands that match their
has previously confided. Friends fall
child's age and ability. Teaching your
away. A trusted spouse may no lon-
child to be potty trained or to dress
ger be able to function effectively or
himself without pressure builds his
provide adequate support. Children
self-trust. As your child becomes capa- may be distant both in miles and emo-
ble of judging whom or what to trust
tion. The resulting loss of trust can be
correctly, you will feel comfortable
exacerbated by feelings of loneliness or
putting your child into situations that
abandonment.
will invoke mutual trust and increase
Replaying the loss of trust first
individual gratification.
felt in childhood can be disturbing,
When your child advances into
particularly if mistrust has been a life-
adolescence, you can expect he or
long pattern. Over time, subsequent
she will break away from parents
doubt can develop into distrust of
and seek trust more from peers.
medical personnel, friends, relatives,
Trust in the teen years can be elusive
colleagues or clergy, all of whom just
because allegiances change in a flash.
want to help. These advocates will
Uncertainties in trust occur when
need to renew their resolve to create
rumors and belittling remarks chal-
an environment of trust for loved ones
lenge even the well-adjusted teen.
who resist their efforts.
"Once burned, twice wary" is a com-
No matter what the age or upbring-
mon, if unstated, creed at this age,
ing, trust is essential for a satisfying
though it can take a number of inci-
life. Trust me on this. ❑
dences for trust to be disturbed.
By adulthood, Erikson explains that
Dr. Daniel Rosenbaum is a clinical social
trust is satisfied through intimacy,
worker at Counseling Associates Inc.
a crucial aspect of a good marriage.
in West Bloomfield, where he counsels
Since the 1960s, our social mores
children, teens and adults experiencing
have changed, so now it is acceptable
family or personal psychological problems.
for our spouses to have had previous
Reach him at (248) 626-1500.
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November 1 • 2012
114
It's Back!
Updated Maple Theater re-opens with
new concessions, roomier seating.
Ronelle Grier
Contributing Writer
A
fter several months of
extensive renovation, the
Maple Theater is back,
with larger screens, roomier seats
and aisles, and a redesigned lobby
featuring a cozy fireplace and new
concessions where patrons can relax
with a locally brewed beer or gour-
met coffee creation.
A longtime local favorite for
art and mainstream films, the
Bloomfield Township theater re-
opens on Thursday, Nov. 1, with a
benefit for Variety — the Children's
Charity, featuring an exclusive pre-
view showing of The Sessions, star-
ring Helen Hunt and John Hawkes.
The grand opening weekend con-
tinues with additional showings of
The Sessions along with another new
film, The Other Son, a moving story
about two very different Middle
Eastern families, one Jewish and one
Palestinian, whose worlds are turned
upside down when they discover
their sons were switched at birth.
Previously known as the Maple
Art Theater, the name was changed
when Cloud Nine Theater Partners,
a Michigan-based company led
by Jon and Lauren Goldstein of
Bloomfield Hills, took over owner-
ship of the theater last February.
Cloud Nine is an offshoot of
Highline Investments, a company
with multiple theater interests
across the country. According to Jon,
the renovations were intended to
provide a more upscale environment
while retaining the original charm
that made the theater a favorite for
almost four decades.
"We made a conscious effort to
maintain the essence of what the
Maple Theater was: a local neigh-
borhood joint," said Goldstein.
All three movie theaters, which
seat a total of 700, have been reno-
vated to include larger screens, more
legroom and wider aisles. Each the-
ater also features two rows of special
Club Seating with tables and access
to wait service for food and drinks.
New additions to the redesigned
and enlarged lobby are the Maple
Bar, which offers an array of spirits
as well as a variety of Michigan-
based beer and wine selections, and
the Great Lakes Coffee Roasting
Company cafe. A new dining con-
cession, American Tapas by Chef
Kelli Lewton, will be open soon.
"We've designed the new Maple
Theater to offer an upscale movie-
going experience for the local neigh-
borhood and cinephiles all across
Metro Detroit," said Goldstein,
who will also feature screenings of
operas, Broadway shows, concerts
and popular television shows. Other
special events include the return of
"Secret Cinema," where moviego-
ers are surprised by a classic movie
introduced by a local guest curator.
"The most frequent question peo-
ple ask is Are you still going to show
the same movies?"' said Goldstein.
"That's a tough question. We want
to show good movies. We want to be
known as a curator of content, not
an art or foreign film house."
Goldstein plans to use the the-
ater's newly designed website,
along with Facebook and Twitter,
to engage the local community. An
example is a new website section
called "Why We Chose This Film."
Three new loyalty packages will
be offered: a complimentary Maple
Rewards program as well as two
Maple Club programs, which pro-
vide members with special seating
and other perks for an annual fee.
For newsletter sign-up, online
tickets, or other information, visit
www.TheMapleTheater.com.
For a preview of the film The Sessions,
see page 72.