obituaries Obituaries from page 55 The "Go-To" Woman For Family, Friends, Clients Ronelle Grier Contributing Writer T he best" is how Diane "Dee dee" Perlman was described by the people she loved most; she was a selflessly devoted wife, mother, daughter and friend. Mrs. Perlman, 61, died in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, on Jan. 2 after a tragic accident that occurred the night before. Perlman and her family were walking back to their hotel after dinner when a speeding car entered the pedestrian- only area and hurtled straight toward the group, which included Perlman's husband, Michael; their daughter, Dana; nieces Andrea and Sara Lipton; and Sara's husband, Neil Carty. According to Dana, her mother shouted to the others and pushed Michael out of the way. Mrs. Perlman was taken to a local hospital, where she died 24 hours later. The others sustained minor injuries and bruises. "It was the same walk we've taken for years and years:' said Mrs. Perlman's son, Jeffrey Perlman, who had left Mexico ear- lier that day with his fiancee, Liz Levine. Jeffrey was on a plane back to his home in Hong Kong when Dana called to tell him there had been an accident. Despite his best efforts to return speedily to Puerto Vallarta, his mother had passed away by the time he arrived. Dee dee Perlman of Bloomfield Hills was known as the "go-to" woman for her family, her clients and her many friends. NATHAN BASSIN, 91, of Lake Worth, Fla., formerly of Detroit, died Jan. 5, 2012. He was a very active member of the Willow Bend Community for 33 years before moving to Lake Worth Gardens. Mr. Bassin was the beloved husband of Bert; loving father of Lois Levy; cher- ished grandfather of Jonathan Levy, Claire Bassin and Daniel Bassin; devoted uncle of several nieces and nephews. Contributions may be made to Hospice of Palm Beach County. Services were held at I. J. Morris Funeral Directors, 5411 Okeechobee Blvd., West Palm Beach, Fla. (561) 683-8676. MELANIE BENESON, 40, of Fenton, died Jan. 3, 2011. She is survived by her beloved husband, Don Skinner; sons, Logan and Grant Skinner of Fenton; Beneson daughter, Heather Skinner of Fenton; mother, Esther 56 January 12 2012 Although she was the youngest daughter of Ida and the late Benjamin Bader, her sib- lings Naida (Simon) and Sharon (Lipton) looked to her for guidance and advice. "She was the rock of the Bader-Perlman- Lipton family,' said her son. "She taught by example; she was a leader." After Mrs. Perlman graduated from Liggett High School in Detroit in 1968, she attended the University of Michigan, where she majored in special educa- tion. At the suggestion of one of her advisers, she enrolled Diane "Dee in Wayne State University Perlman law school and received her juris doctor degree in 1975. Mrs. Perlman joined the tax depart- ment of Coopers & Lybrand, now PricewaterhouseCoopers, where she remained for 36 years. As she rose through the ranks to the position of director of tax, Mrs. Perlman was known by her colleagues, co-workers and clients as a smart and dedicated professional as well as a loyal friend. "Dee dee was a colleague, a mentor and a friend:' said co-worker Lynda Flood. "She was always willing to take the time to learn. She praised a job well done, offered thanks for efforts made and reminded you if you weren't living up to your potential. Her door was always open." She developed an impressive network of friends and contacts throughout the industry, which made her a valuable asset Beneson of Wixom; sister and brother-in- law, Beth and Mike Hoffner of Stockbridge, Mich.; niece, Shae Hoffner; many other loving family members and friends. Mrs. Beneson was the daughter of the late Dennis Beneson. Contributions may be made to a char- ity of one's choice. Interment took place at the B'nai Israel Cemetery in Novi. Arrangements by Dorfman Chapel. IRVING "CAPPY" CAPLAN, 86, formerly of Detroit, died in Delray Beach, Fla., on Dec. 31, 2011. He was an executive of Alside Aluminum and an avid Life Master bridge player. Mr. Caplan is survived by his loving wife of 58 years, Doody; two devoted daugh- ters, Jo Anne Caplan Casen and Jennifer (Stewart) Flink; five cherished grandchil- dren, Mollie, Shayna, Jimmy, Lilli and Josh of Chicago. Mr. Caplan was predeceased by his son, Jimmy. Contributions may be made to the Obituaries to her clients and her colleagues. "She was a mentor to many women in the office — she worked full time — but also was always available to her kids on a full-time basis:' said Jill Leib, a longtime friend and former co-worker. Dee dee married attorney Michael Perlman in 1975, and they raised their chil- dren, Dana and Jeffrey, in an atmosphere of love and shared values. "They played off one another; they could talk just by making eye contact:' said dee" Jeffrey Perlman. Family was all-important to Dee dee and Michael, despite the demands of their busy pro- fessional lives. When the children were young, Perlman began going to work at 4:30 in the morning so she could be available after school to pick up the kids, take them to their various extracurricular activities and prepare dinner, which the family enjoyed together every evening. Dana Perlman credits her mother for passing on her "incredible work ethic" and devotion to others within the fam- ily, the workplace and the community. A member of Congregation Shaarey Zedek, Dee dee Perlman showed her commit- ment to Jewish causes by holding several leadership positions, including serving on the boards of the Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Detroit and National Council of Jewish Women. When Michael got sick several years ago, turning the family's life upside down, Dee dee became his devoted caregiver, a role she maintained through the last moment of her life. "She watched over my dad and raised him up; she never asked anyone to raise her up:' said Jeffrey. Mrs. Perlman was a favorite among her nieces and nephews, who counted on her for a sympathetic ear and a pantry filled with delicious food. She was especially known for her kugel, brisket, deviled eggs and baked salami. Mrs. Perlman is survived by her hus- band, Michael; daughter, Dana of New York; son, Jeffrey of Hong Kong (fian- cee Liz Levine); mother, Ida Bader of Bloomfield Hills; sisters, Naida Simon of Bloomfield Hills and Sharon (Dr. Jeffrey) Lipton of Waterford; mother- and father- in-law, Elaine and Charles Perlman of West Bloomfield; brothers-in-law, Dr. Owen (Sheila) Perlman of Ann Arbor and Peter (Carrie) Perlman of West Bloomfield. She was the daughter of the late Benjamin H. Bader. Contributions may be made to Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Detroit, the Dee dee and Michael Perlman Fund, 6735 Telegraph Road, Bloomfield Hills, Michigan, 48301, (248) 642-4260, www. thisisfederation.org ; or Jewish Senior Life of Metropolitan Detroit, the Ida and Benjamin H. Bader Transportation Fund, 6710 W. Maple Road, West Bloomfield, 48322, (248) 661-2999, www.jslmi.org . Interment at Clover Hill Park Cemetery. Arrangements by Ira Kaufman Chapel. ❑ Jimmy Caplan Memorial Scholarship Fund of the United Jewish Foundation of Metropolitan Detroit, 6735 Telegraph Road, Bloomfield Hills, MI 48301. brother-in-law of the late Sol Rosenfeld, the late Jack Brickner and the late Howard Diamond. Contributions may be made to the Dorothy and Peter Brown Jewish Community Adult Day Care Program, 6720 W. Maple Road, West Bloomfield, MI 48322. Interment at Hebrew Memorial Park. Arrangements by Hebrew Memorial Chapel. SEYMOUR COLLEN, 85, of Walled Lake, died Jan. 3, 2012. He is survived by his wife, Gloria Collen; daughter and son-in- law, Joan and Dr. Fred Fischer of Farmington Collen Hills; sons, Dr. Andrew Collen, Michael Collen (Suzy Cohan) and David Collen; sisters and brother-in-law, Sylvia Brickner, Lorraine "Libby" and Allan Albert, Anita Diamond; grand- children, Dr. Melissa and Eric Novetsky, Jessica and Steven Migliore, Dr. Daniel Fischer, Noah Collen, Zachary Collen; great-grandchildren, Lily Novetsky, Emma Novetsky, Alexis Migliore; many loving nieces and nephews. Mr. Collen was the cherished brother of the late Bertha Rosenfeld and dear FRED R. CLINTON, 88, of Farmington Hills, died Jan. 8, 2012. He is survived by his beloved wife, Phyllis Clinton of Farmington Hills; son and partner, Robert N. Clinton and Janette Silverman of Phoenix, Ariz.; daughters and son-in- law, Anne Clinton-Cirocco of Gurnee, Ill., Sue and Lorne Leon of Farmington Hills; brother, David Clinton; grandchil- dren, Erica (Brent Never) Clinton, Aaron Seth Clinton, Erin (fiance David Owen)