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>> family counseling

Temple Shir Shalom's

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The Learning Center
Preschool

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Ways Of Sharing

Teach your children early
how to be generous people.

F

rom early childhood, we are
and McCartney's technique in shared
told to share. Sharing means
tasks, whether preparing a meal or
giving up part of something
cleaning a room, tells us that it is not
we have, want or need so that another how much each person does; the key
may benefit. All too often, we choose
is that it is done together.
not to share, regressing back to child-
When we listen to others, we share
hood when we were more
their knowledge or ideas.
self-centered. Parents
A new venture may be
who don't model sharing
offered for consideration,
appropriately confuse their
seeking either emotional
children. It is critical that
or financial support, or a
children learn the why's
family member may advo-
and how's of sharing early
cate ways to change how
in life in order to become
the family communicates
quality adults.
or cooperates.
There are many dif-
Sometimes, new ideas
ferent ways to share. We
create conflicts, challeng-
Daniel
engage family members or
ing us to accept beliefs or
Rosenbaum,
friends by sharing time,
attitudes that are differ-
PhD, LMSW
meals, festive occasions or
ent from our own. When
Columnist
notable events. Through
one person dominates a
family sharing we catch
conversation or criticizes
up on current accomplishments,
differing viewpoints, people cease
find out things we have never heard
showing interest or paying atten-
about past generations, as well as
tion. We recognize that sharing has
discover the aspirations of future
been defeated when side discussions
generations. Passing on stories and
begin, or when listeners glance at
possessions, we share our family's
watches or move to another room.
history. We learn why we are who we
All cultures have shared tradi-
are and where we came from.
tions. They may be long standing
There are times when we share
and widely accepted, such as Jewish
time and energy doing a project at
customs around various holidays;
home, work or school. We need to go
or they may be particular to a single
into the effort with a good mindset
family, such as the way matzah balls
because credit does not always reflect are supposed to be made. When new
the effort made, especially when it is
families come together through mar-
not always equitably divided. Some
riage or relocation, family traditions
do not take on their fair share of the
may be questioned or changed. When
work but still expect to share the
a hard matzah ball is served to a soft
credit. We lose our motivation when
matzah-ball family, the eye rolls and
we are forced to carry the weight of
whispers might disincline the host
others. One way to ensure that such
from inviting these guests again.
frustration is limited is by giving the
However, if one family shares in
group members sanction to distrib-
a new experience with another, all
ute whatever reward there is — a
achieve a new understanding, which
grade, recognition or financial bonus
can only improve relationships. Even
— based on each person's perfor-
matzah balls can teach us that dif-
mance.
ferences can be valuable. It is hoped
In an interview 45 years ago, John
that by sharing these ideas pre-
Lennon described how he and Paul
sented here, you will promote new
McCartney early on decided to always ways of thinking with those who are
share their songwriting credits.
important to you. 0
While some songs were certainly
co-written, many others were pri-
Dr. Daniel Rosenbaum is a clinical social
marily written by one or the other.
worker at Counseling Associates Inc.,
In such cases, John or Paul's entire
6960 Orchard Lake Road, Suite 100, West
contribution may have been a single
Bloomfield, where he counsels children,
chord or the addition of one word.
teens or adults experiencing family or
In the end it was always a Lennon-
personal psychological problems. Reach
McCartney song. Applying Lennon
him at (248) 626-1500.

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