health & fitness >> family counseling Showing Appreciation Reaps Great Rewards •Patented Flex Deck Shock Absorption System reduces stress on joints by 30%. • Create your own custom workouts SAVE and track your progress online! • iPod Dock and iPod Controls! • Child saftey lock for peace of mind! $500 Now only, 24 F rom an early age we learn your plate. If you show appreciation for lesser to appreciate a good meal, efforts, you will reap great rewards a great movie, even a Tigers for larger endeavors. Setting this as or Lions come-from-behind victory. a family precedent will show returns When someone performs well, we well into the future. applaud, cheer or high-five. But, do Appreciate your own labors we show appreciation in even when no one else is our own homes, schools there to evaluate them. If you or workplaces? Instead finally clean out that spare of exuberance over a job room, recognize this achieve- well done, do we point out ment yourself; don't expect errors or nit-pick because someone else to commend we thought we had a better you. If no one but you says it way? We often move on to was a job well done, does it the next task without any deny its quality? It is essential sign of appreciation at all, to pat yourself on the back as if nothing of significance Dan iel whenever you succeed at has happened. Rosenb aum, something. Self-recognition Do you just have expec- PhD, L MSW does not make you self- tations about others or do JN Colu mnist oriented or egotistical. As you actually appreciate you become accustomed to what they do? Think about appreciating yourself, you more easily who does the various chores in your home. Does mom wash the laundry or learn to appreciate others. Appreciation for or from others sat- dad cook dinner? Who vacuums the isfies many social needs and desires. carpets or takes out the garbage? These are often considered the price If someone is carrying a heavy load (physically or emotionally), having of being a member of the family; someone there to share it can make expectations become obligations that neither get nor deserve basic apprecia- both people feel better in the long run. tion. If fact, if someone fails in a fami- If a child gets hurt, we kiss the boo ly obligation, it's easy to become angry boo to make it better. We don't say "suck it up" or "big kids don't cry" to or disparaging. Expecting others to tear-filled eyes and trembling lips. We contribute rarely indicates a need to show appreciation. However, apprecia- are appreciated for the caring we show and the support we give. tion secures the motivation for us to The next time someone comes meet others' expectations. home from a hard day, allow time for Appreciation comes when you ben- venting and sharing, give a heartfelt efit, even if you didn't necessarily con- hug or kiss, and chase the stressors tribute. It is that one social element and tensions out the door. Appreciate that encourages us to do things that the whole person, not just the parts advance our families, friends or work. which fulfill what you expect. Cl To promote appreciation, get into the habit of saying "thanks" or "good job:' even — or especially — for what Dr. Daniel Rosenbaum, PhD, LMSW, is we consider mundane tasks. When the a clinical social worker at Counseling laundry magically appears hung up or Associates in West Bloomfield, where he counsels children, teens and adults expe- folded, let mom (or your wife) know riencing family or personal psychological you're grateful. Show gratitude to the problems. Reach him at (248) 626-1500. cook when food miraculously fills * Includes White Glove Delivery & Setup! *Tax extra. Folds up to save on space! EXERCISE WA1113HOUSE Ann Arbor Livonia -our Service 31539 8 Mile Rd. doesn't stop 3933 Jackson Rd. after the sale!" 734-369-2044 248-476-2213 www.exercisewarehouse.net Not a print subscriber to the Detroit Jewish News? Get the JN online instead! Get your issue now! IT'S EASY! Get your web edition subscription TODAY by visiting djn.pressmart.com DETROIT JEWISH NEWS •V4 Hillel Day School Hosts Fashion Night Hillel Day School of Metropolitan Detroit hosts its annual ladies night out with the Hillel Fashion Event on Tuesday, Nov. 8, at the school, 32200 Middlebelt, Farmington Hills. The evening begins at 5 p.m. with boutique shopping and hors d'oeuvres. At 7 p.m., dinner will be served followed by the fashion show. All proceeds from the event will go to purchasing SMARTboards for Hillel Usetul Sih3r cut a 1606080 32 October 27 • 2011 Day School. Fashions for the event will be pro- vided by local retailers including Be Free Apparel, Eden Revolution, El Mars Furs, Guys N Gals, Peek-A-Bootique, SHE, Studio Sandra and Tender. Hair and makeup will be provided by Maalouf Salon of Birmingham. Tickets start at $80. For sponsor- ship information, to purchase tick- ets or to make a donation, contact Cheryl Schanes, (248) 539-1488, or cschanes@hillelday.org.