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rom an early age we learn
If you show appreciation for lesser
to appreciate a good meal,
efforts, you will reap great rewards
a great movie, even a Tigers
for larger endeavors. Setting this as
or Lions come-from-behind victory.
a family precedent will show returns
When someone performs well, we
well into the future.
applaud, cheer or high-five. But, do
Appreciate your own labors
we show appreciation in
even when no one else is
our own homes, schools
there to evaluate them. If you
or workplaces? Instead
finally clean out that spare
of exuberance over a job
room, recognize this achieve-
well done, do we point out
ment yourself; don't expect
errors or nit-pick because
someone else to commend
we thought we had a better
you. If no one but you says it
way? We often move on to
was a job well done, does it
the next task without any
deny its quality? It is essential
sign of appreciation at all,
to pat yourself on the back
as if nothing of significance
whenever you succeed at
Do you just have expec-
PhD, L MSW
does not make you self-
tations about others or do
JN Colu mnist
oriented or egotistical. As
you actually appreciate
you become accustomed to
what they do? Think about
appreciating yourself, you more easily
who does the various chores in your
home. Does mom wash the laundry or learn to appreciate others.
Appreciation for or from others sat-
dad cook dinner? Who vacuums the
isfies many social needs and desires.
carpets or takes out the garbage?
These are often considered the price If someone is carrying a heavy load
(physically or emotionally), having
of being a member of the family;
someone there to share it can make
expectations become obligations that
neither get nor deserve basic apprecia- both people feel better in the long run.
tion. If fact, if someone fails in a fami- If a child gets hurt, we kiss the boo
ly obligation, it's easy to become angry boo to make it better. We don't say
"suck it up" or "big kids don't cry" to
or disparaging. Expecting others to
tear-filled eyes and trembling lips. We
contribute rarely indicates a need to
show appreciation. However, apprecia- are appreciated for the caring we show
and the support we give.
tion secures the motivation for us to
The next time someone comes
meet others' expectations.
home from a hard day, allow time for
Appreciation comes when you ben-
venting and sharing, give a heartfelt
efit, even if you didn't necessarily con-
hug or kiss, and chase the stressors
tribute. It is that one social element
and tensions out the door. Appreciate
that encourages us to do things that
the whole person, not just the parts
advance our families, friends or work.
which fulfill what you expect. Cl
To promote appreciation, get into
the habit of saying "thanks" or "good
job:' even — or especially — for what Dr. Daniel Rosenbaum, PhD, LMSW, is
we consider mundane tasks. When the a clinical social worker at Counseling
laundry magically appears hung up or Associates in West Bloomfield, where he
counsels children, teens and adults expe-
folded, let mom (or your wife) know
riencing family or personal psychological
you're grateful. Show gratitude to the
problems. Reach him at (248) 626-1500.
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Hillel Day School
Hosts Fashion Night
Hillel Day School of Metropolitan
Detroit hosts its annual ladies night
out with the Hillel Fashion Event on
Tuesday, Nov. 8, at the school, 32200
Middlebelt, Farmington Hills.
The evening begins at 5 p.m.
with boutique shopping and hors
d'oeuvres. At 7 p.m., dinner will be
served followed by the fashion show.
All proceeds from the event will go to
purchasing SMARTboards for Hillel
Usetul Sih3r cut
32 October 27 • 2011
Fashions for the event will be pro-
vided by local retailers including Be
Free Apparel, Eden Revolution, El Mars
Furs, Guys N Gals, Peek-A-Bootique,
SHE, Studio Sandra and Tender. Hair
and makeup will be provided by
Maalouf Salon of Birmingham.
Tickets start at $80. For sponsor-
ship information, to purchase tick-
ets or to make a donation, contact
Cheryl Schanes, (248) 539-1488, or