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Q: My girlfriend and I are taking
things to the next level and moving in
together. I'm really happy about this
and want her to move in with me, but
I don't want her to turn my bachelor
pad into the Martha Stewart collection
catalogue. How can I maintain some of
my style?
Need some
advice? Are
you looking
for solutions
for troubling
run-ins and
problems
dealing with
relationships,
family and
friends?
Yenta's here with her
youthful perspective.
A: Dear Designer Drama. Helpful tip No.
1: If your girlfriend is moving in with you,
it might be in your best interest to lose the
term "bachelor pad"— you're not single!
Don't go into the move with the attitude
that you will have to give up something.
Rather look at this time and your relation-
ship as if you are renovating or building an
addition onto your house. Talk with your
partner about creating a new space that will
meet both your needs (and tastes) together
and an individual nook for each of you to
independently retreat to. This way you can
both have input on main living spaces such
as the kitchen or living room, but then
show off personal style in a space like the
office. Sure, you might have to make some
concessions (I'd recommend letting go of
the beer-stained futon), but accept her offer
to buy fresh sheets and towels. Bed, Bath
& Beyond issues coupons daily, so let her
upgrade your thread count.
Keep in mind that someone else is pick-
ing up her life to make a new home in yours.
To ask Yenta your
question, e-mail yenta@
thejewishnews.com and
look for your question
here in this column!
Yes, throw pillows, scented candles and that
Anne Geddes picture of a cute naked baby
might throw you off guard during your
foosball game, but there will always be your
newly furnished man cave to hide in.
Q: With all the holidays, it's always
tricky splitting up the meals and fes-
tivities between my family and my
husband's. No matter where we end
up, we always seem to offend some-
one. Any suggestions?
A: Dear Holiday Hoarder. You're in luck
We Jews have the privilege of celebrating
on average at least one holiday a month
so there will be plenty of opportunities
for family time — especially for the High
Holiday season we are in the middle of right
now We go back to back between Rosh
Hashanah, Yom Kippur break-fast (you bet
that counts as a meal!), Sukkot and Simchat
Torah. Your family isn't open to the idea
of trading holidays or switching up first
and second nights? Offer to host a Sukkah
party (potluck style) at your house this
year, or bring both your parents and your
machetunim (in-laws) to your synagogue for
services so they can sit with the kids. Don't
spend time sweating and trying to work the
calendar to appease everyone else — make
sure the holidays are an enjoyable time for
you and your family, too.
Where Do All The Single People Hang Out?
I don't know, but I can tell you for sure where you won't find them.
Being a single woman in my twenties, there
are two questions to plague me on a daily
basis:
1. Is 28 too young to start collecting
cats?
2. Where can I find all the eligible
bachelors in this town?
I think my problem (well, besides my
severe cat allergy) is that I'm a creature of
habit. I frequent the same places all the
time and, thus, run into the same people;
the people I've had bad dates with, the
people I've had good dates with ... who
apparently didn't agree, and the people who
married off before I had a chance to win
them over with my charm and cute dimples.
With summer coming to an end, I've
made it my personal goal to branch out and
try out new places before all my potential
boyfriends go into hibernation for the
winter. So I've said goodbye to my usual
hunting grounds (Town Tavern, the roof at
Memphis Smoke and JDate) and
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challenged myself to find new ones.
I've tested the waters, met a lot of new
people and discovered some hidden trea-
sures in the D (summer sports leagues are
an awesome time and an easy, low pressure
place to meet people). And, of course, I've
also discovered a few dead ends. If you're
looking for a new place to find that some-
one special, here are a few places you can
(and should, for the sake of your precious
time and dignity) avoid:
The Gym: I don't care what all those
"dating experts" say, no one is going to hit
on me when I have back sweat soaking
through my tank top. And if they are, well,
gross.
The Apple store: Three Genius Bar
appointments and $300 worth of iPhone
accessories later, turns out that most of
those geniuses are married. Don't waste
your time.
Temple: Temples are bui-ripin' during the
High Holidays, but I'm not so sure God
will seal you in the Book of Life if you
spend your time scoping out the hotties
three rows up when you should be focused
on prayer.
Sports Bars: On the surface, sports bars
are an ideal place to meet someone because
they provide a great conversation-starter
over a shared interest. If you're on opposing
sides of a rivalry, however, that's no longer
the case. Take it from me, screaming, "Take
that and suck on it" in someone's face is not
a good way to score some digits.
Boogie Fever: Just don't.
I hear Yoga Shelter is a hot, relaxing meat
market. Perhaps it's time to take up Vinyasa
— D-Town Dater
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events &
hot spots
POTLUCK SUKKOT DINNER
Monday, Sept. 27, 6:30 p.m.
Hosted by Leslie and Paul Magy
Adat Shalom's Young Adult Group invites you
to a potluck Sukkot dinner. Please respond
to Amanda Warner, awarner@aol.com , with
whatever pareve dish you would like to bring.
DETROIT - YAD BOOKS CLUSTER
Tuesday, Oct. 12, 7 p.m.
Borders, Birmingham
Join this DetroitYAD cluster if you love read-
ing! The next book on the reading list will
be, People of the Book, by Geraldine Brooks.
Clusters are interest-centered groups of
like-minded Detroit Jews aged 21-41.
For more information, e-mail Dani Glickfeld,
dglickfeld@me.com or join the group of
Facebook by searching "DetroitYAD Books
Cluster."
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